Ngeshwa, ayikho impendulo yonke yemibuzo enjalo. Phela, zonke izintombi ziyingqayizivele. Wonke umuntu uhlala nezimiso zawo, imibono yokuphila, umqondo wezwe elibazungezile, banemikhuba yabo, izinkathazo kanye "namaphonji". Kodwa, uma ubhala kahle kulolu daba, khona-ke ungathatha iseluleko ngokwakho. Ngakho-ke kungani ukuphila komuntu siqu kubangele ukuthi kubangele ngamunye wethu ukuba acabange: "Kungani ngingenanhlanhla ekuphileni nabafana?".
Thatha, isibonelo, amantombazane asezingeni elidala kusukela eminyakeni engu-13 kuya kweyishumi nanhlanu. Lesi sikhathi yisikhathi sokuguqula empilweni yomuntu ngamunye. Lapho konke kubonakala ngephutha lokubulala. Uma kukhona into enhle eyenzekayo, konke kulungile kuyo yonke indawo, futhi uma kubi, khona-ke ukuphela kwezwe sekufikile futhi maduzane umhlaba uzongena ebumnyameni. Eminyakeni enjalo, amantombazane asengabantwana abangenangqondo futhi abahlanzekile, kunokuba abantu abadala asekudala bangajabulela injabulo. Enye inkinga enkulu kakhulu engaba yinkinga. Esikhathini sethu kuba, ngeshwa, kuvamile kakhulu. Lokhu ukulahlekelwa ubuntombi. Imvelo yentsha yanamuhla yalesi sigaba sobudala kunombono wokuthi kubhekwa ungenakulungiswa, okungukuthi, ukulondoloza ukungabi namacala. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane amaningi, ahlukunyezwa nengcindezi evamile yezingane ezizungezile, athathe lesi sinyathelo, eveze ekudumeni ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, esikhathini esizayo, intombazane ingaba nezinkinga ekusebenzelaneni namadoda. Ngomuntu osondelene naye, uzohlale ekholelwa ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi uyayesaba ukuphindaphindiwe kwalezo zinsuku ezingathandeki nobuhlungu obuhambisana noxhumana naye ngokokuqala kocansi.
Ngalesi sikhathi, amantombazane, okushoyo, "esigabeni esibi", ngakho-ke la madoda angakwazi ukubanaka. Lesi yisikhathi sokuguquka kusuka kwintombazane kuya kwintombazane. Futhi, kuwo wonke, udinga ukuqala ushintsho. Kubalulekile ukushintsha ikhabethe lezingane zabo kumuntu omdala, ukugqoka izinwele bese uqala ukusebenzisa izimonyo. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukugqoka ama-skirts amancane, ukushaya isisu sakho noma ukuzihlobisa njengePapuan. Konke kufanele kube ngokulinganisela. Kule nkinga ungaxhumana nomama wakho. Uzokutshela futhi aluleke ukuthi, kanjani nokuthi yikuphi okuhlanganisiwe. Kancane kancane uzilungiselele impilo yomuntu omdala. Futhi ukusho ngo-13, ukuthi awunanhlanhla namadoda, kusheshe kakhulu. Amantombazane othandekayo, ungazishiyi ubuntwana.
"Kusukela ku-16 nangaphezulu." Yebo, kanye namantombazane abakwazi ukuthwala njengoba sekuyiminyaka engu-16, nangama-25 Lapha wena nobuhle, futhi uhlakaniphile nezandla kuwe igolide, futhi awuthwali nakho konke. Ake sibheke izimo ezimbili zokuphila, bese uzama ukubona ukuthi kungani singenanhlanhla namadoda empilweni.
Inombolo yesimo 1. "Esikoleni ngangingenaso isoka. Ngokuvamile, ngangingumfana othobekile, angizange ngiphume ebusuku, ngafunda zonke izifundo. Ngabe ngena eyunivesithi, futhi ngathuthela ekuphileni kwabazali bami kwenye idolobha. Ukuphila komfundi engangikuthanda ngokushesha. Wonke la maqembu, amaqembu kanye namaqembu angithanda kakhulu. Ngomunye wala maqembu, ngahlangana nomfana. Wabonakala ephuma ephusheni lami, wonke umdlali webhola webhola lezinyawo ezinhle. Ngokuvamile, ngathandana naye ezindlebeni. Sinobuhlobo. Kwakukhona izimbali, izipho, konke kuhle ngakho-ke, ngisho nakakhulu. Ngamthanda kakhulu kangangokuthi ngaso sonke isikhashana ngimbhalela i-SMS, nginikezela izinkondlo futhi ngezikhathi ezithile ngamnika amathoyizi ahlukahlukene, izinhliziyo namakhadi ngokuvuma kwesithando. Kodwa injabulo ayizange ihlale isikhathi eside. Ngemuva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha zobuhlobo, wangishiya. Uthi ukhathele ngami futhi wangicela ukuba ngingabizi futhi, hhayi ukubhala futhi ngingayifuni imihlangano naye ... "
U-Oksana, oneminyaka engu-18 ubudala
Kusukela kulo mlando omfushane wena, amantombazane othandekayo, kumele uzibekezele ukuthi umuntu akakwazi ukwenza isithombe kumfana futhi amkhulekele njengesithombe. Kumele kukhuthazwe njalo ukukunika izipho, hhayi ukugcwalisa nabo. Uma insizwa yakho iqonda ukuthi intombi yakhe ingokwakhe futhi ikulungele ukulandela yonke imiyalo yakhe, khona-ke ngeke ube mnandi kuye, ngakho-ke kungadingekile. Ngemuva kwalokho, badinga imfumbe edinga ukumbulwa, intombazane edinga ukufunwa, hhayi eyodwa eyinqobile. Futhi abathandi imizwa ekhululekile, ngesimo samakhulu ama-SMS ngosuku, kanye nezinqwaba ze-teddy ezithwalayo ozinikezwa ngazo ikamelo labo. Akuzona amantombazane, kodwa abamele abesilisa besilisa!
Inombolo yesimo 2. "Sihlangane iminyaka emibili, njengoba ngiphakamisile ukuba ahlale ndawonye. Wayengekho ngokumelene nalo. Ngangikuthanda kakhulu ukuhlala ndawonye. Ngampheka ngenjabulo ukuba adle, ahlanzile futhi ahlanganise izinti zakhe. Salala futhi savuka ndawonye. Ngangikhathele, njalo, kwakungeke kube namandla okwanele emva komsebenzi futhi zonke lezi zimo ziya e-beauty salon, kodwa akazange akhulume lutho kimi, okusho ukuthi ujabule nakho konke. Kuphela lapha ukuhamba kwakhe kwebhizinisi elide nokulibaziseka emsebenzini kusheshe kwephule i-idyll yethu. Saxoxa ngakho, kodwa wathi ngenye indlela akunakwenzeka. Phela, lokhu kungumsebenzi wakhe, futhi ngokujwayelekile, kodwa uzama kimi. Bheka, ngibuyisene nalokhu. Futhi-ke, wagcwalisa izinto zakhe futhi washiya omunye owesifazane. Ngemva konyaka babeshade futhi sebevele benomntwana. Futhi angisakwazi ukufika ezinhliziyweni zami "
UKatia, oneminyaka engu-26 ubudala
Thina amantombazane kudingeka nje sikhumbule umthetho owodwa wegolide ekusebenzelaneni namadoda, awukwazi ukuwaphoqa ukuba baphile ndawonye noma, nakakhulu nakakhulu, uye ehhovisi lokubhalisa! Babesaba lokhu njengendlela yokubala. Ngiyaqonda kahle ukuthi kukhona amadoda angakwazi ukwenza izingqondo zawo, ngakho-ke ubasize kulokhu, kodwa kudingekile ukuba uqhube ngokuhlakanipha, ngokuhlakanipha kwabesifazane, hhayi ngqo ebunzini. Into yesibili esingayikhuthazela kulokhu kuwukuthi akufanele sibe yizinceku kubo. Ukugeza njalo, ukuhlanza nokupheka ngeke kusenze sibe sexier futhi kube nesifiso esihle kubo. Ngikholelwa, ngeke babone uma ugeza phansi hhayi ngesonto lonke, kodwa kanye ngenyanga. Kungcono ukuchitha lesi sikhathi ngomunwe noma ukwenza imaski yobuso. Ngokuqinisekile bayobona. Ungabuyi ekhaya nge-bathrobe. Gqoka izingubo eziqinile ezizogcizelela isithunzi sakho bese ufihla amaphutha. Futhi okwesithathu, ungabi namahloni. Ukuhamba njalo kwebhizinisi ngaphandle kwesizathu, nokulibala kwakhe emsebenzini kuze kube sebusuku, ngokuvamile kunesizathu esifanayo - omunye wesifazane. Kodwa ungabi yi-paranoid futhi usize ukwesabe umthandi wakho, ukhulume ngokukhululekile naye, futhi uma usuhlola ukuqina kwamazwi akhe. Njengokungathi ngengozi, ukuqinisekiswa.
Siletha izimo ezimbili kuphela ezivela ekuphileni, kodwa kungakanani ulwazi oluwusizo abasilethela! Lokhu akuyona yonke into. Kodwa, uma uthatha lezi zeluleko ekusebenzeni, khona-ke lokhu kuzokusiza ebuhlotsheni obuseduze bakho, umbuzo othi: "Kungani ngingenalo inhlanhla empilweni nalabafana" kuzokwenyuka ngokwayo. Uthando futhi uthandeke!