Sonke sihluke kakhulu, sonke sinemikhuba yethu kanye nezinamathiselo zethu. Izingane zethu nazo zihlukile. Izinyosi esikhwameni sesikole, zhelezyaki emaphaketheni abo, ama-scuffles kanye nezikhalazo, abangazi futhi bazi konke, fast and slow ... Yebo, ungazama ukuwuguqula, kodwa kuwufanele? Isici ngasinye senza sibe ngabanye, abayingqayizivele futhi abayingqayizivele ngohlobo lwayo. Udinga nje ukucabanga ukuthi ungayithatha kanjani konke!
Indlela yokuxhumana
Zonke izingane zikhala. Ngakho-ke baxhumana nathi, baveza imizwa yabo nemizwa yabo, baze bafunde ukukhuluma ngamazwi. Izingane ezithile kuphela zikhala kancane, ezinye - eziningi, kodwa ngokuvamile lokhu kuyindlela kuphela yokwenza sibaqaphele.
Kukhona abazali abalalela kuphela uma ekhala, ngakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umntwana usuke enomkhuba onjalo-sonke isikhathi, eshaqisayo. Ziyindlela enjalo yokulawula isimo, okungukuthi, ukwenza umama noma ubaba eze, udinga ukukhala izinyembezi. Futhi uma uqala ukudlala ngokuvumelana nemithetho yengane, uzoqala ukusebenzisa lokhu ukuze azuze eyakhe. Zonke izingane ziyamhlophe futhi zishaye, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba i-whiner encane ikwazi ukubhekana nesimo futhi iphumelele. Awukwazi ukuvumela ingane ukuba icabange ukuthi le ndlela isebenza.
Okufanayo kungenzeka uma abazali bebakhathalela ngokweqile futhi bekhathalela ingane uma kwenzeka kukhona ukwehluleka, isibonelo, umama angasho ukuthi: "Ilanga lami, omncane wami, akukulimazi yini? Ingabe ubuhlungu kabi? "Ezimweni ezinjalo, izingane ziqonda ukuthi ziyaxolisa, ngakho ziqala ukuzwakalisa nhlobo. Hlaziya ukuziphatha kwakho ezimweni ezinjalo, mhlawumbe unesihawu kakhulu ukusabela enkingeni yomculi. Khumbula, ingabe kunjalo, ukuthi ukukhala kwehla bese evuka, kodwa awuphazamisi?
Izingane zihlelwe kahle kangangokuthi kufanele zisinike sonke isikhathi sokusinika izibonakaliso ezilimazayo, ukuthi into ethile iyimvimbela, mhlawumbe udinga okuthile, lapho sikhona khona, nalapho kungenjalo. Ababoniswa ngamazwi, kodwa ngezenzo, ukuziphatha nokuzibonakalisa. Umsebenzi wethu ukubamba lezi zimpawu bese uzama ukuziqonda kahle, khona-ke ukuphendula kuzoba kuhle.
Isici sokushisa kwengane
Uma ingane yakho ingamhlophe ngenxa yokuthi uyinikela ngokunakekelwa nokunakekelwa ngokweqile, khona-ke ukugxila kungahlobene nezici zakhe azelwe ngazo. Angaba yingozi kakhulu futhi azwele isimo sakhe sengqondo. Izingane ezinjalo zisabela ngokuhlukile ngomsindo, umsindo, ukukhanya. Lokhu akusho ukuthi izingane ezinjalo azilona iqiniso, zivele zibuthakathaka futhi ziqinile. Amandla akhe - uzwela, uzwela kakhulu kwabanye. Izingane ezinjalo zinamakhono amaningi okuphuza, umculo, nobuciko. Ngisho ngezinye izikhathi zikhula ngokushesha. Labafana abagcini nje, kodwa futhi bahleka ngaphezulu. Kodwa kaningi abakwazi ukukhala ngoba bengaboni, kodwa kunalokho babonise injabulo yabo, bacebile kakhulu, bacebile futhi baqaphele ngokucacile umhlaba, futhi imizwa yabo inamandla kakhulu futhi iyabuka.
I-Whining akuyona into embi ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba ngokuvamile ngemva kwezinyembezi izingane zizwa kangcono kakhulu. Abazali akudingeki njalo baqinisekise ingane, ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza ukukhala nokukhala.
Yiqiniso, ukukhathalela ngokweqile kuveza umkhuba wokugcoba nokushaya, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kubalulekile ukukhuthaza izinyembezi zezingane. Funda ukukhululeka ngokwengeziwe ngokukhala kwakho. Ungamhleki usana, ungamsongo, ungavumeli futhi ungajezisi. Uma ubona ukuthi ingane iqala ukuqala futhi, ziphathe ngokuthula futhi ngokushelelayo, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ungacabangi ingane yakho. Ngokuphambene nalokho, qaphela.
Kungani ingane ilimele?
Uma ingane inesizotha esincane, khona-ke imbangela ingase ibe yingozi, ukulila. Cabanga ngobuhlobo bakho nengane, mhlawumbe udinga okungenakwenzeka kuye noma umphoqe ukuba enze lokho angenakukwenza. Ungasho ukuthi emfundweni kufanele kube ukugxeka kanye nokuphawula. Mane ukhumbule ukuthi izingane zisengozini futhi zizwela konke esikutshelayo. Kunabantwana abazithobayo ngokusho nokumemeza, kuyilapho abanye beqala ukushayisana esivela kumbono onamandla. Izingane ezinjalo zidinga ukuthobeka komuntu, hhayi isijeziso nokuqina. Nestoit ukujezisa ingane ngesinyathelo, lokho abonisa noma wenza ngokuzimela noma yisiphi isenzo, ngoba namanje abakwazi ukwenza konke ngokusemthethweni nangendlela efanele.
Izingane zihlale zizizwa zinecala ngokwayo. Uma unomntwana ozwelayo, bonisa ukucabangela nokubekezela okukhulu. Mnike kuphela lezozinto angayenza futhi amdumise ngawo wonke impumelelo. Vumela wonke umuntu acabange ukuthi awunzima futhi ungafuni, kodwa ingane yakho idinga uthando, ukuqonda kanye nencazelo. Yilezi zingane eziphindaphinda, zingakwazi ukuvimbela isimo sengqondo esibi sabazali bazo futhi zijabulele ndawonye noma zithukuthele ngoba zibi kubazali bazo. Uma ungenaso isimo sengqondo namuhla, khona-ke uchaza ngokuzithoba ingane ukuthi kungani.
Thola isizathu
Thina ngokwethu asikwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwezingane, ngoba lokhu kungaholela ezinkingeni eminyakeni yobudala engaphezulu. Yiqiniso, sivame ukucabangela indlela ingane yethu okufanele iziphatha ngayo, kodwa ungabeki ukucindezela kulokho okufanele ukukwenza, nje ulalele ingane futhi uqonde lokho akudingayo.
Zama ukuqonda isizathu sokwenza kwakhe. Cabanga ngendlela ovame ukusabela ngayo ezimweni ezifanayo. Kungani ukungaphenduli kwakho okwenzanga ukumisa? Landelela lapho ingane ingase ibe yimizwa embi? Mhlawumbe lapho ekhathele noma elambile? Mhlawumbe uma ukhathele noma ukhuluma efonini? Ngokuvamile izingane ziyahamba, ngoba zifuna ukunakwa, zama ukumphazamisa.
Ukulingana nokuthula yiyona mithetho esemqoka
Ukuze ingane ibonise imizwelo yakhe kanye nezicelo ngendlela ehlukile, zama ukumfundisa ukuthi asebenzise inkulumo efanele. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho ingane iqala ukuvuselela, mtshele ngokuqinile: "Zama ukunciphisa bese uphinda futhi lokho okushilo. Uma ukhala, angiqondi lutho. " Futhi uqhubeke ukwenza lokho okwenzile, zama ukungazinaki ngokujulile ukuthi uyamhlophe, zama ukungaqhubeki ukukhuluma nengane kuze kube yilapho eyeka ukuqhuma. Lapho ingane iyeka ukumhlophe, qhubeka noxoxe bese uthi: "Awu, manje usukhulile, ungangitshela ukuthi ngingakusiza kanjani!". Ungathukutheli, khuluma kahle futhi ukhululekile.
Uma umntwana ehlisa phansi, khetha isikhathi futhi umchazele, kungani umehluko phakathi kwengxoxo evamile nokukhala. Mtshele ukuthi ithoni akhuluma nayo ayamukeleki, futhi ungamqonda kuphela lapho ekhuluma ngokujwayelekile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, i-kid kufanele iqonde ukuthi ithoni evamile evumelekile yikho, ungathembi lokuthi uyayazi. Mbonise ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani ngezwi eliphikisayo nokuthi ukhuluma kanjani ngendlela evamile. Isibonelo: "Lapha ngimemeza: ma-ah-ah-ma, u-e-e-e-e-nya akhiwo-ooo-ooooooooooooooo ". Futhi manje ngizothi lokhu ngezwi evamile evamile: "Mama, angikwazi ukukwenza. Ngicela ungisize. Ngakho nawe, usho kanjalo, uma ufuna ukucela okuthile noma ucele usizo. Manje yisikhathi sakho, zama. "
Ungase futhi ubize ikhoneni elithile endlini "likhanyela" futhi lapho ingane iqala ukukhala futhi, thumela khona imizuzu embalwa ukuze ungakhululekile. Akuyona into yokuthi abazali bethu basithumele ekhoneni. Ososayensi baye bafakazela ukuthi ama-angles anjalo angawabulala imizwelo emibi. Lapho ingane ikwazi ukuthatha isandla bese iqala ukukhuluma ngezwi lakho elivamile.
Uma uzofundisa ingane yakho ukuphatha imizwelo yakhe kuze kube sekupheleni, ngakho-ke akukhathaleki ukuthi ungubani, shintsha izinhlelo zakho. Isibonelo, ungaphakathi epaki, ingane iqala ukuqhuma, yitshele: "Uvuka uphinde ukhumbule imithetho yethu? Konke, siya ekhaya. " Uma kungenjalo ngeke kuphele, kodwa lokhu kuzokwenzeka, ngoba uzovumela lokhu kwenzeke. Ungathukutheli, ungamemeza, ungathukutheli, wenze ngokuthula.
Mhlawumbe, ingane izoshintsha kancane kancane, kodwa zonke izimo lapho umntwana azibonakalise khona kahle futhi akazange aqale ukukhala, khuthaza. Imiphumela yokuqala izovela emavikini amathathu. Into esemqoka akukhona ukuyeka. Bheka indlela yokuthola ingane yakho.