Uthando lweqiniso aluvamile. Kodwa, ngisho nangokwengeziwe, enye yengxenye yalolu thando ayikwazi ukuvuma imizwa, hhayi yedwa, noma kumlingani.
Ungayenza kanjani ukuze umfana azinikele ukuhlangabezana naye? Ngempela, kwenzeka njalo ukuthi sibona indoda isifisa thina, kodwa ayinaso isibindi sokwenza ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu. Indlela yokubhekana nalesi simo? Ungayithonya kanjani futhi wenze, ekugcineni, wenze isinqumo? Ngiyavuma, kunzima ukuba umngane nomuntu omthandayo, wazi ukuthi ulahlekelwa isikhathi esiyigugu, esingasetshenziswa ndawonye, engxoxweni engenalutho nangesikhathi sokungenzi lutho.
Uyazi, kunomfanekiso wesimanje, ukuthi umfana kanye nentombazane babengabangane esikoleni. Wayemsiza njalo, wamthanda futhi wayelokhu efuna ukusho lokhu, kodwa wathi: Ungumngane wami omkhulu ukubonga ngakho konke. Futhi wahlala ethule konke ukuphila kwakhe, futhi ngemva kokufa kwakhe wafunda incwadi yezincwadi lapho ebhala ukuthi uyamthanda futhi wayelindele ukuqashelwa kuye, kodwa akazange aziqonde ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Amacala anjalo ajwayelekile kakhulu futhi izimo ezifanayo zikhula kaningi kunalokho esingacabanga.
Ngakho-ke, ungabizi umngane wakho othandekayo. Kumele simphosele esinqumweni esifanele. Yiqiniso, ungathatha "inkomo ngezimpondo" futhi iningi limmeme ukuba ahlangane. Kodwa, okokuqala, kuzothatha ukuzethemba komnumzane wakho, futhi okwesibili, iningi, amadoda ayithandi uma owesifazane eqala ukuwaphatha. Ngisho noma iziphakamiso zakhe nemibono yakhe ingamaphesenti angama-100, umfana uqala ukuwaphika, ngoba ngokungazi futhi engazi lutho, ukwamukela izimpikiswano zakhe kubonakala kubuthakathaka.
Kulokhu siphetha ngokuthi lo muntu uqobo kumele enze isinqumo. Noma, okungenani, cabanga ukuthi yilokho akwenzayo.
Owesifazane ngamunye unikezwa intuition futhi uzizwa ukuthi uthanda kangakanani umfana. Ngakho-ke, uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukukhathalela kwakho okungafani nokuphefumula, qala ukusebenza. Udinga ukumbonisa ukuthi nguwe ongenaye ngaphandle kwakhe. Khumbula njalo inkulumo yegolide. Ungazibandakanyi kuwo wonke umuntu, gcwalisa zonke izinto zakhe futhi ubuke amehlo e-puppy.
Babumemezele, kodwa ngaphandle kokushisekela nokubukwa kwabantu besizwe isithupha-yumba kumuntu omkhulu. Amantombazane azonda ama-idealism, ngoba ayaqonda ukuthi ngeke akwazi ukufanisa isithombe esidalwe nguwe, ngakho-ke, mane ubaleke. Futhi awufuni umphumela onjalo nhlobo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, othandekayo kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi asekelwe, futhi kuqotho ngempela. Abantu bazizwa bephikisana futhi beqamba amanga, ngakho uma ungakwazi ukuqonda futhi ubelane ngezinkinga zakhe, kungcono futhi ungazami. (Ngendlela, uma ungakwazi ukwenza lokhu, kufanele ucabange ukuthi uyayidinga yini, nokuthi ngabe imizwa yakho kufanele ibizwa ngokuthi uthando).
Amadoda avame ukuvalela kwabanye futhi azenze sengathi enza kahle, azikhathaleli lutho futhi izinkinga azikho. Yiqiniso, empeleni, lokhu kuyiphutha ngokuphelele. Futhi uma wazi ngezinkinga zabathandekayo bakho, khona-ke uqinisekile ukuthi unemizwa ethile ngawe. Ngoba ukuvula - umsebenzi akulula kumadoda.
Kufanele uhlale ubonisa othandekayo wakho ukuthi awufuni ukuthatha isikhala sakhe siqu, ukuzithoba kuye futhi ulawule izenzo zakhe nezenzo zakhe. Indoda ifuna ukuba nalolo wesifazane ozosiza futhi aqonde, ahlukanise, kodwa akalokothi abuse futhi kunoma yiziphi izimo ahlale ehlakaniphile - kuphela kumfazi onjalo angasikisela ukuhlangabezana naye.
Yiba umngane kuye. Umngane wangempela. Umngane wesifazane, omnandi nomnandi. Futhi-ke umfana uzokumema ukuba uhlangabezane naye.