I-matrix: Phinda ulayishe ngokugcwele
Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi akukhathazi ngempela ukuthi ubani ovela kumabhangqwana womshado womqashi "wokuphumula okwesikhashana komunye nomunye". Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunjani, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi bobabili abalingani baqonde lo mbono ngokukhululeka okukhulu. Futhi into yukuthi ngezinye izikhathi ubudlelwane buqala "ukuzilahla": ukuxabana okuphindaphindiwe phezu kwezicathulo, okwakusanda kutholakala isimo nangemva kwengxoxo evuthayo, bavame ukwandisa kuze kube sezingeni lezinkinga zomhlaba jikelele, "ukukhathala okukhathazayo" komunye nomunye , ukulahleka kwesithakazelo socansi nokuningi.
Ngakho-ke, ngemva kokulinganisa zonke izinzuzo nezindleko, lezi zinkampani ezimbili zithatha izinkontileka zithinta indlela yokuphela kokushintsha isimo samanje. Kodwa hhayi ukuhlukanisa kuze kube phakade, futhi okuthiwa uthando isikhathi sokuphuma. Kulungile, futhi yini? Usuvele ujwayelene komunye nomunye, unayo (bonke basenayo, kodwa nje nje bacasulwa) futhi kunzima ukuba ucabange ukuthi lo muntu ngeke abe khona. Kukhona ukuvumelana okufanele, okumele kwakhiwe ngalezi zindaba eziyisisekelo:
- Isikhathi sesikhathi sokuphuma. Ingabe uzobizela noma uvakashele phakathi nalesi sikhathi? Futhi futhi kulo mzuzu "ungavuki" futhi "ungalandeli" ...
- Ukuthembeka - ungaqali amanoveli eceleni kwe-scooter futhi "ungaqhubeki" zonke izindlela.
- Phila ngokuzodwa okuphelele futhi "ngokusemandleni akho, hlala ubuhlobo bakho nabangaphandle".
Ngemuva kokuthola ukuzithengisa kulezi zindaba, ungakwazi ngokuphefumula, ukhala ngokuthula, uhlukanise "emabhange ahlukene", ulindele ukuphumelela "umoya omusha" ebuhlotsheni bakho obukhathele kakade.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo kuyoba ukuwaphula ama-brakes
Njengomthetho, umcabango wokuqala wokwenza uthando luvele ekhanda ngemuva kwesigamu sonyaka wokuhlala ndawonye, lapho konke ukuzwakalisa ukukhathazeka sekuphelile, futhi yonke imikhuba yokuqala eye yabonisa yona iyabacasula. Kulesi simo, isikhathi esivela ngaso sonke isikhathi siholela ekuqedeni okugcwele: izibopho ezingokomzwelo sezivele zibuthakathaka futhi kubonakala sengathi kulula ukuthola intandokazi entsha kunokubuyisana noma ukubekezelela zonke iziphambeko ezicacile zaso.
Endaweni yesibili ukuvama kokuphuma kwesikhashana ukuzalwa kwengane. Abamele ubulili obunamandla kaningi ngalesi sikhathi mzuzu baqala ukuzizwa ukuthi empilweni kwakukhona "ukukhishwa kwezwe" ngempela, futhi ngokufanele ukuba ngumuntu "esihlalweni sobukhosi" esithathwe yindodana ekhishwa njalo. Inkinga yokuhlaziywa okugcwele kwazo zonke izindinganiso kudinga ukuphumula okuphelele kanye nesikhathi esiningi. Lapha, kuleso simo, esinye isigamu ngokuvamile sivame kakhulu ukuvumela lo muntu ukuba acabange ngokuziqhenya ngokuziqhenya ...
Omunye umzuzu ongafanelekile wokuqala isikhathi sokuthandazwa uthathwa njengengaphakathi "nomdlalo wokuphila". Kakade, njengombuso, oneminyaka engama-35-38, amadoda aqala ukukhathazeka ngokujulile ngengqondo eqhubekayo yokuthuthumela yombuzo wokuthola incazelo yokuphila. Ukucabanga njalo ngalokho okwenzile kakade nokuthi yini engakaze yenziwe, le ndoda iyazikhethela yona, kodwa yayidinga yona: lo msebenzi, umsebenzi, nomfazi. Ngesikhathi ebalekela kuye, ubalekela othandekayo wakhe. Nasi sekuyisikhathi sokumnika ilungelo eligcwele nethuba lokukwenza. Ngendlela, kufanelekile ukuchitha ukuthi umuntu kulula ukuthola "ukufinyelela kuye" ngokugcwele, kungenzeka ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi konke kuzokwazi ukubuyela endaweni yayo.
Imithetho eyisisekelo yokungenwa kwemali
- Okokuqala, kufanele kusho ukuthi ukungapheli-isikhathi-isikhathi sokuphuma ebuhlotsheni ngesihloko a-la "Kuze kube sobabili singakwazi ukuzwa ngokugcwele ukuthi ..." asikho! Ngokombono wezengqondo, umuntu nje akakwazi ukusekela ukucindezeleka okunjalo ngokusemandleni akhe. Isikhathi esihle kunazo zonke sokumisa okwesikhashana kuthathwa njengenkathi yeviki elilodwa kuya enyangeni.
- Sonke sikhumbula amazwi wengoma eyaziwa yodwa: "Ungakhali, ungesabi, ungabuzi!". Ngakho-ke, ngomzuzwana onjalo, akukho sidingo njengomthombo, faka imizwelo yakho ngezindlela ezahlukene, noma, nakakhulu nakakhulu, kuzo zonke izindlela ezingenzeka futhi ezingenakwenzeka, zama ukugcina othandekayo eceleni kwakho, noma ngabe ukunikezwa isikhathi sokwenza ubuhlobo kukubambe.
- Akudingekile ukufaka isiyingi esikhulu somphakathi ekuxoxweni kwalesi sihloko esibucayi. Futhi ngomncane, ngendlela, kufanele uqaphele kakhulu. Lapha udinga ukucabanga ngekhanda lakho bese usebenza nge-convolutions yakho!
- Asikho isidingo sokushintshaniswa "kweziboshwa zempi"! Akudingekile ukubuyisela zonke izinto ezinikelwe, ngokubonisa futhi ngokuzithandela izitezi zokuzalwa zokudiliza amakhadikhadi kanye nezincwadi bese uthatha isilimu ngesigamu. Lapha kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza okuphambene nalokho, ngamandla onke uzama ukugcizelela ukungapheleli kwalesi simo nge "amanxeba amabili" amafutha.
- Umthetho wokugcina wukuthi kufanele ususe yonke imicabango. Ngamanye amazwi, kufanele uhlale ukhumbule ukuthi noma yiluphi uhlobo lomphumela wothando-isikhathi-out, ungalokothi ubuyele ngokwengqondo kuyo!
Futhi ekupheleni kwalesi sihloko ngifuna ukucaphuna u-Oscar Wilde, owake wathi: "Abashadile abanezinkinga bavame ukulala ngamakamelo ahlukene ngokuphelele, badle ngezikhathi ezihlukahlukene, bayeke ukusebenzisa igama le-vroz.Onnnnnnnn, benze konke okungasindisa umshado wabo ojabulisayo ! "Ngakho cabanga ngamagama futhi uvumele isimo sihambe ngokwawo. Kuphela kulokhu, konke kungashintsha, futhi ubuhlobo bakho buzokwazi ukuthola incazelo entsha, ngoba ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza kakhulu ukuphumula komunye nomunye!