Uthando luyinkinga eyinkimbinkimbi. Futhi kulowo nalowo kithi, uthando luqukethe izinhlobo eziningana zalo. Uhlobo owaluthola amaphuzu amanengi luzokwakho okuyinhloko: yilokho oqala khona futhi ukhetha ukuthanda. Ulindele isitayela esifanayo sothando kusuka kumuntu. Uma ungahlangabezane nendoda ophethe ngayo ukuthi uqaphele isitayela sakho sothando oluyinhloko, ubuhlobo bakho nomlingani buyoba buthakathaka, yini enye engayithola, nokuphikisana, okubi kakhulu.
Ezinye izinhlobo zothando - ngokuvamile okwesibini, okungavamile - okwesithathu, ngezikhathi ezithile zifika ngaphambili, okwesikhashana zihlala endaweni eyinhloko, zihlukanise ubudlelwane bakho nabathandekayo bakho, zibenze isikhathi eside futhi zinikeze impilo yakho igcwele kanye nobunye.
Uthando olungokoqobo
Kubizwa nangokuthi "uthando ngokubala" - lwakhiwe ngokuzwelana kanye nokuqwashisa okucacile: lo muntu uyangifanele, ngoba unamandla, unomusa, unemfundo ephakeme, unethemba elihle kakhulu lokuba yisigqila, futhi yena, njengami, uthanda i-cinema, izincwadi mayelana nezinhlekelele nezinja. Futhi uma uvuka ebusuku, wena ngamehlo akho uvaliwe, ungabhala kalula zonke izinhlonipho zangempela kanye nokungaphumeleli komlingani wakho.
Izinzuzo . Ihamba kancane kancane, ihlala isikhathi eside. Isizathu esihle kakhulu somshado.
I-Cons . Kuyinto enhle.
Isibonelo . UMongameli waseMelika uBarack Obama nomkakhe uMichelle.
Uthando-umdlalo
Kuwe, izibonakaliso zangaphandle zomzwelo zibalulekile: ukumenza ikhanda, ukuya endaweni ethile ndawonye, ukudansa, ukudlala ngothando. Ngomusa ngokuzethemba. Kodwa awufuni ukuhambisana nomthandekayo wakho, njengoba nje ungena ngaphakathi kwemizwa yakhe ngemicabango. Wena uhlanganyela ngokuzithandela nabathandekayo bakho injabulo, kodwa hhayi ubuhlungu, inhlanhla, kodwa akuyona ingozi. Uyakwazi ukushintsha uma uhlangana nomuntu othakazelisayo ngokufanayo. Unembeza wakho ngeke ukuhlukumeze, uthando lomlingani ohlala unomphela ngeke luyeke.
Izinzuzo . Kuletha injabulo eningi, kulula, ayigxili, ngeke anikeze.
I-Cons . Akahlali isikhathi eside. Ukuze umshado uqede kakhulu, ukusebenzisana okuhlala njalo kungakakhiwa.
Isibonelo . Umongameli weFrance uC Nicolas Sarkozy nomkakhe uCarla Bruni.
Uthando lokuthanda uthando
Okuvamile, eqinile, ejulile. Ngezinye izikhathi, ingqondo igxilile, isusa konke ukuhlazeka, futhi ungakwazi ukuhlela esidlangalaleni isikhwele somhawu, ukulenga kwethu kuye - futhi awunandaba nokuthi abanye abaseduze nawe bacabangani.
Izinzuzo . Inikeza injabulo enkulu.
I-Cons . Isikhathi eside asikuvumeli ukuthi uqonde ukuthi lo muntu uyintandokazi yakho. Futhi kuvame ukuholela ekudumeni kuye ngemva kweminyaka embalwa yomshado.
Isibonelo . Abalingisi u-Antonio Banderas noMelanie Griffith.
Uthando-ubungane
Wena nonke unesithakazelo, unemigomo ejwayelekile kanye namagugu. Uzimisele ukusekela, ukuxazulula izinkinga kanye nemisebenzi. Ukukhangwa ngokocansi kuyalinganisa. Ngokuvamile akubonakali ngokushesha: unyaka usebenze ndawonye, uxoxe, wenza abangane - wabe eselala ndawonye futhi uzizwa uxhumano olujulile nomngani.
Izinzuzo . Together fun futhi hhayi boring. Lo mzwa kungenxa yokuphila kwami konke.
I-Cons . Kusukela ebuhlotsheni obunjalo, ubulili buvame ukuphulukiswa phakathi neminyaka - kwakungekho okuningi kusukela ekuqaleni. Uthando luguqulwa lwaba ngumbuso ohlangene nabantu ababili abahlobene.
Isibonelo . Abalingisi u-Angelina Jolie noBrad Pitt.
Uthande umhlatshelo
Isisusa saso esikhulu ukunikela konke hhayi ukubuza noma yini ngokubuyisela. Kuwe kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzwa umuzwa wokuziphatha ophakeme ngaphezu kwabathandekayo bakho, ukuba udingekile.
Ukuze ube mkhulu futhi kudingekile, kubalulekile ukubopha enye indlela ethembekile kakhulu - ukumletha umhlatshelo. Uhlobo oluthandekayo lwothando. Ngezinye izikhathi uthando olunjalo luholela enhlekeleleni: owesifazane uye wahlabela yonke into esitshalweni futhi kuhle kakhulu ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuba umhlukane naye. Kulula ukumbulala.
Izinzuzo . Ikuvumela ukuba uzizwe ukubaluleka kwakho nokubaluleka kwakho.
I-Cons . Kuletha injabulo encane. Ngokuvamile akusikho ubulili obuhle kuwe. Eqinisweni, yena-nakuba enesithakazelo, kodwa enengqondo. Ngokuvame ukuhlukaniswa: uyazivumela ukuba athande futhi ahloniphe, kodwa akazithandi.
Isibonelo . Umculi uMaria Callas ungumfokazi wezihambi u-Aristotle Onassis.