Cabanga kahle, cishe ubeka ithemba elihle kuwo wonke umuntu osemusha ohlangana naye, ngakho-ke ulindela okuningi kuye. Kodwa-ke, akubona bonke abantu abakulungele ukubhekana nokucindezela, ukucabanga ngokubaluleka kwezinhloso zabo, ukuqala ukuveza into ebaluleke kakhulu ngalokhu wesifazane, nokukhombisa isinyathelo.
Zama ngokushesha "uzidonsa" ngaphakathi, uma "iphupho" lakho elilandelayo liphuma phezulu. Uma umuntu omuhle evele, lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uthathe izandla zakho nezinyawo bese uzama ukuyigcina njalo. Cabanga ngokuyinhloko ukuthi lo uyindoda enezinto ezithandayo, imicabango, izinhloso kanye nezifiso zakhe, futhi 50% ukuthi ikusasa lakho ndawonye lizoncika kanjani kuye. Awudingi ukugijima ngaphambi kwe injini, vumela ukuthi izenzakalo zikhule kancane kancane - vumela konke kuqhubeke njengokujwayelekile, vumela konke ukuma, akudingeki ubonise isinyathelo. Kwezinye izimo, izazi zezokwelapha zeluleka ngokumane "ukukhulula imvelo enenkinga" - lapha futhi ungazama ukwenza isimiso esifanayo. Akufanele uziphephe umoya - "yilokhu engikudingayo - iphupho lami, kufanele ngibeke yonke into engenzeka, lena yithuba lami kuphela." Cabanga nje - "hmm ... insizwa ethandekayo, ake sibone ukuthi kwenzekani kulokhu" - bese umisa kulo mcabango.
1. Vumela lo muntu ngokwakhe ukuba abonise okungenani isinyathelo esithile, ubone ukuthi uyakwenza kanjani, ukuthi yini ngempela ayiphatha ngayo ngalesi sikhathi, bese ehlaziya indlela yakhe yokuziphatha: uphikelela futhi usebenza, unamahloni futhi unamahloni, noma akazazi yena okwamanje, lokho akufunayo kuwe, futhi ngokuzithobayo ubonisa isithakazelo sakhe. Kuye ngokuthi uziphatha kanjani, ungakha futhi ukuziphatha kwabo.
Uma yena ngokwakhe ekhuthele, ungamamukela ngenjabulo ukuthandana kwakhe, kodwa ungasheshisi ekuziphatheni komuntu siqu-mhlawumbe uyothanda ukuzimela ngokuzimela intombazane.
Uma kungekho isinyathelo esivela kuleyo nsizwa, faka konke amandla akhe nobubuthakathaka kahle, bese unquma ukuthi unesithakazelo esingakanani kumuntu. Mhlawumbe, kubalulekile ukulinda kancane, futhi "uzojoyina" inqubo ngokwakhe, ahlolisise, futhi ebuhlotsheni obuthile intuthuko yangempela izoboniswa. Futhi mhlawumbe akafuni nje ukuqhubeka nalezi zinsuku, akahlose ukuwahumusha ezingeni elibi, futhi kuyoba ngcono ukuqeda konke ngokushesha, ngenkathi ukhetha indawo entsha, futhi uthathe isinyathelo ngezikhathi ezithile.
2. Uma umuntu engabonakali isinyathelo ekuqaleni kwesigaba - akubhali, akabizi, akabizi, ayanyamalala, bese nje ekutshela ukuthi akanandaba nawe. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uyihlasele ngemilayezo yombhalo kanye namakholi wefoni, cabanga izikhathi eziyikhulu ukuthi udinga lohlaka, nokuthi kungcono yini ukuphazamisa konke lokhu, ukuze kungalimazi emva kokulindela okungakwenziwe.
3. Funda ukuhlangabezana "ukunqotshwa": akabizi, izibhamu, azibonisi uqobo - ngakho-ke, alukwazi ukumboza, angawuthandi, kusho, akafuni, angasondeli, angenasithakazelo. ... Awu, ungenzenjani? Khumbula, kodwa uvame ukuphindisela kabusha abalandeli bakho? Awudingi ukuletha isimo kuze kube lapho ukhuluma ngokuqondile "otoshyut" noma uqale ukungazinaki ngokuqondile. Yebo, ungathula phansi, uma uthola "cha" ohlukile, kodwa ukholelwa ukuthi ngeke uzizwe ungcono kunalokho, ngokuphambene nalokho, uzozizwa u "ochotshoziwe" futhi "uhlazekile" emva kwemizamo eminingi yokwakha ubuhlobo obuhle. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukubuyela emuva bese uma, ngenkathi ungenzi ubuhlungu obuningi futhi uyeke ukuthatha isinyathelo. Ekugcineni, uma umuntu efuna ngempela ukuqhubeka nobuhlobo, uzokukhipha emhlabathini.
4. Hlola ngokucophelela impilo nokuphila komuntu okhethiweyo, qaphela ngokucophelela izenzakalo nezinto ezincane. Kwezinye izimo, isinyathelo sakho siphumelele futhi sizokwenza ukuthi indoda ingavumi ngamandla, kepha "i-otmashku" nokucasula. Phela, kungase kwenzeke ukuthi ukucabanga kwakho ngomhlangano, mayelana nezenzakalo ezijwayelekile, njll. bazokhubeka ngokuntuleka okulula kwemali noma ukuyinkimbinkimbi ezifundweni zabo, emsebenzini, hhayi ngokungahambi kwesifiso sokuqhubeka nobuhlobo. Ukuthatha isikhashana, le nsizwa izokwazi ukubuyela kuwe ngokushesha futhi iqale ukuzinakekela futhi ithathe isinyathelo kuqala. Kodwa uma ngesikhathi esifanayo intombazane iqala ukumvimbezela ngamehlo akhe, khona-ke akukho lutho oluzohlala kuye, ukuthi lungamsusa kanjani empilweni yakhe.
5. Ngeshwa, akekho "iresiphi" engasiza wonke amantombazane ukuhumusha amanoveli ngamadoda athakazelisayo ekubudlelwaneni besikhathi eside - "asikhetha, sikhetha", njengoba besho. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kuzoba ngcono ngokwengeziwe ekuphileni kwethu komuntu siqu ukuze sizenzele kuphela amandla nezifiso zomuntu siqu, kodwa futhi nokuvumelana okuvamile, izinhlamvu ezifanele nezinhlamvu, amaphutha kanye nokuvivinywa, isiphetho semihlangano, futhi ekugcineni. Lokhu kuzosiza ukulinganisela kahle engqondweni yakho umsebenzi wakho ekusesheni isigamu sesibili, kanye nezikhathi ezizimele zokuphila.