Umphakathi wanamuhla uhlelwe ngendlela yokuthi abantu abaningi bahlale bengenaso isikhathi sokwenza impilo yabo. Esimweni sethu, lapho cishe sonke isikhathi siya emsebenzini futhi emgwaqweni oya emsebenzini nasemakhaya, umbuzo uba lukhuni: "Futhi ungahlangana kuphi nomfana?"
Futhi ngenkathi siphuthuma ukusebenza noma ekhaya, asiqapheli ngisho nenani elikhulu labantu esihlangana nabo ezokuthutha zomphakathi. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi, futhi ubheke kancane kubantu abasha abakuzungezile, ngoba, njengoba wazi, mhlawumbe phakathi kwale namba enkulu yabantu abangaziwayo yiyona eyodwa kuphela, umhlangano oye wawufuna iminyaka eminingi kangaka.
Masibhubhise izinkolelo ezenziwa ukuthi umuntu ozoqala ukujwayela indoda nokuthi intombazane ehloniphekile ayikhohlisi ukujwayelana nomgwaqo ongaphansi komhlaba noma emgwaqeni. Ezweni lanamuhla, amantombazane ngezindlela eziningi kufanele athembele kuzo, ngakho kungani ungathathi isinyathelo kulokhu?
Kodwa futhi ngifuna ukugcizelela: ungowokuqala nentombazane, ngakho-ke akufanele usebenze ngaphandle kweluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka. Phela, amantombazane awazi amaqhinga amaningi mayelana nokuthi angayazi kanjani umfana, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo abeka konke ngokukhanya ukuthi Waqiniseka ukuthi isinyathelo sivela kuye, futhi nguye owenza isinyathelo sokuqala.
Ngakho-ke, namanye amathiphu azokusiza ekuxazululeni inkinga enikeziwe: indlela yokujwayela umfana ekuthuthweni komphakathi?
- Isenzo sokuqala nesilula esizokusiza ukwazi umfana kumamatheka. Mane ukumomotheka, ungamakhela amehlo akhe, ngoba ukwesaba okukhulu kwalowo muntu ukukwenqaba futhi yingakho ngeke abe ngowokuqala ukusondela intombazane abayithandayo. Futhi nawe uhamba ngezithuthi zomphakathi noma emgwaqweni, lapho kukhona khona abantu abaningi njalo. Futhi ukuthola ukwenqaba komphakathi kumcindezela nakakhulu kuye, ngakho menze azi ukuthi uyamthanda futhi unethuba. Mthumelele kuye, yakha amehlo akhe. Khumbula ukuthi ubuso obumamothekayo bubukeka buhle kakhulu futhi bukwenza umnikazi wayo abe mnandi futhi abukeke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mfana uzoqiniseka ngokugcwele ukuthi nguye owambonile futhi wanquma ukukwazi. Ikakhulukazi ukulula kwalendlela ozoyiqonda ngayo, uma ezokuthutha zomphakathi isihlalo sokhethiweyo sakho sitholakala ngokuphambene neyakho.
- Indlela yesibili yokujwayela ukuthutha nomfana ukugoqa esixukwini. Yikuphi, ngendlela, akunzima kangaka ukwenza. Ngehora lokuphoqa, isixuku esikuzungezile singakucindezela ngephutha kumuntu oyithandayo. Ake ucabange, ngenkathi ephonsa iphunga lamafutha akho futhi ezwa umzimba wakho eduze kwakhe, uphakamisela amehlo akho futhi, ukumomotheka ngokuphazamiseka, ukubheka, ukubonisa ukuthi akusizi ngalutho futhi kudidekile. Okunye kuzoxhomeka kuyo.
- Uma ukuthutha kuvulekile ngokwanele futhi indlela yesibili ayifanele ukujwayelana nomfana oyithandayo, khona-ke uma usudlula, yenza sengathi ugebile ngengozi. Futhi ukuze ungawa, uthatha isandla sakhe noma uhambe ngezinyathelo zakhe, ngokuzenzakalelayo ngokuzenzakalelayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ngale ndlela - kungukuthi ukuphendula kwakho kumasekhondi okuqala. Ngempela, ukuphendula kwayo kwemvelo kuyoba kubi, kodwa usebenzisa i-charm yakho, ukumomotheka kwakho okuthakazelisayo, umbono wakho uhlakazekile. ... Manje ubona phambi kwakhe umfokazi omuhle kakhulu. Yiqiniso, kufanele uxolise ngenkathi ubheka ngqo emehlweni akhe, futhi izwi lakho kufanele libe buthaka. Yiba nesisabela futhi unakekele. Ngitshele ukuthi uyazisola ngobuqotho ukuthi lokhu kuyingozi, awuzange uyishukumise kakhulu.
- Ukuthinta ngokuqondile ukujwayela - phatha amakhadi ebhizinisi nawe. Kuzosebenza kuzo zonke izinketho ezingenhla. Vele ushiye ibhizinesi lebhizinisi lomfana, ikakhulukazi uma le nsizwa ingakaze ifike kuwe kuqala, naphezu kwazo zonke izenzo ozithathile.
- Thola isizathu sokuqala ingxoxo. Lapha, ngokuphelele noma yisiphi isihloko esifanelekayo: umculo kumdlali wakhe, incwadi ayifunayo, isibonelo sefoni yakhe nokunye okuningi. Ungabuza umbono wakhe mayelana nesihloko sendaba encwadini yakho, ngokubhekisela egunyeni lakhe, njengamadoda.
- Bonisa ukungabi namandla kwakho njengowesifazane, mcele usizo: vala / vula iwindi, usize ukubeka izinto zakho eshalofini eliphezulu. Into esemqoka eqaphela ukuthi uyayidinga, ngamandla akhe.
- Bonisa isibindi - hamba kumfana owakuthanda ngombuzo ongenacala: "Ngingakwazi yini ukukugodlela, kungenjalo ngesaba ukuwa?" Insizwa iyoyiqonda ngempela isenzo esinjalo nesibindi uma engavunyelwe ukuhleka usulu. Futhi yebo, lolu khetho lungcono kakhulu kubafundi.
- Ukuba usendleleni engaphansi komhlaba, ungacela mayelana nokuthi kuzoba yisiteshi esilandelayo, kanjani ukuthuthela kwelinye igatsha? Konke kuxhomeke emcabangweni wakho. Ungakwazi ngisho nokubuza mayelana nonyaka lapho indiza yokuqala eya eNyangeni eyenzeka khona, eyayiqala ukungena e-Cosmos, noma isikhathi esingakanani imikhomo emhlophe ichitha isikhathi sayo sezinkanyezi, isikhathi eside kangakanani izingulube ze-Guinea. Kubalulekile ukuqala ingxoxo. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba uhlole umqondo wakhe wokuhlekisa futhi ukuthi isabela kanjani esimweni esingalindelekile.
- Indlela yokuqala yokuhlangana nomfana ukushayela i-sms efonini yakho, bese umtshela ukuthi ubhale ifoni yakho. Yisho ukuthi lo myalezo, kubonakala kuwe, wawuhloswe kuye.
- Futhi ekuphethweni. Ungenza sengathi lo awusiwo umhlangano wakho wokuqala futhi manje uzama ukukhumbula ukuthi ungaphansi kuphi futhi ngaphansi kweziphi izimo. Lokhu, ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzokunika ulwazi mayelana nokuthi ufunda kuphi, yiphi inkampani axoxa nayo nokuthi ngabe yini ematasa akhe.
Khuphukela kukho konke ngobuhlakani. Khumbula ukuthi umcabango wakho unamandla kakhulu, ngakho-ke uyisebenzise futhi umuzwa wendoda oyithandayo. Futhi uhlale uphumelela.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi uyintombazane, ukuthi uhle, futhi ukumomotheka kwakho kukwenza kube lula futhi kukuhle kakhulu. Thumela kaningi ngokuphindaphindiwe. Hlalani besifazane kuzo zonke izimo. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungalokothi ukhohlwe - ungahlangana nomfana ngisho nasezindaweni ezingalindelekile kakhulu. Futhi ukuthi ukwenze kanjani kungokwakho futhi ukhethe kuphela.