Uma ukholelwa ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bunombono, zama ngobuqotho ngangokunokwenzeka ukuthi ukhulume nomlingani wakho mayelana nomama nomona. Yabelana ukuthi ubona kanjani imihlangano yakho namanye amadoda nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokuthandana nomlingani wakho nabanye besifazane. Mhlawumbe unquma ukuphetha inyunyana eyodwa. Uma kungenjalo, zama ukwenza isivumelwano, uthathe imithetho ethile - isibonelo, kanje:
1. Ukubona ubulili nokudlala ngothando nabanye abantu ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka ngokomzwelo futhi uvumelane kusengaphambili ekuvumelekeni kwezenzakalo ezinjalo esimweni ngasinye.
2. Ukungena ebuhlotsheni bobulili kuphela ongajwayelekile kubo bobabili abantu, noma ngaphandle kwedolobha lakho, noma nabantu ongaboni uthando.
3. Ngamunye wabalingani unelungelo lokulala ubusuku obulodwa "mahhala" ngesonto.
4. Ungakhulumi ngemininingwane yezocansi "ezengeziwe" noma ufihle ngokuphelele okwenzeka kumngane wakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi uyavuma ukuthi uzobona kanjani izindaba mayelana nokuxhumeka kwangempela noma okucabangelayo uma kukhona "ukuvuza kwemininingwane" yengozi.
5. Uma uhlose ukwenza into ehamba ngaphezu kokuziphatha kwakho okujwayelekile, yazisa umlingani kusengaphambili.
6. Qaphela njalo ukugcina ukwethembeka nokwethemba.
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