Okudingayo intombazane ebuhlotsheni nomfana

Ubuhlobo obukhulu phakathi kobulili abuzalwa ngokushesha. Ngokuvamile kudinga isikhathi eside ukuthola umuntu obani abafuna ngempela ukubopha isikhathi eside kangaka, futhi mhlawumbe ubuhlobo obungapheliyo, ubudlelwano. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngokuqinisekile, uqaphele ukuthi lesi sifiso samantombazane, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nesidingo, siza kancane kancane kunabantwana. Futhi konke ngoba sikhula ngokushesha, siyaqonda ukuthi kulokhu kuphila kunzima. Futhi, mhlawumbe, sidinga okunye okuvela kumuntu esihlangana naye. Esihlokweni esithi "Yini intombazane edinga ngayo ebuhlotsheni nomfana" sizozama ukumba ngokujulile engqondweni yethu futhi siyiqonde: kungani wonke amantombazane elinda lawa mazwana kanye nokufuna ukuqala ukuba nengane yomndeni wesikhathi esizayo?

Ngakho, intombazane idinga ukuthini ebuhlotsheni nomfana? Impendulo ilula: uma intombazane isivele ikhulile, uma ihambele nabafana futhi yanquma ukukhetha umuntu oyedwa, wabe esezwa ukuthi lo mfana uzoba njengodonga lwamatshe. Phela, zonke izintombazane zidinga ukuzizwa zivikelekile, kodwa ngubani ozothola ukusekelwa okuthembekile kuye, uma kungenjalo umfana othandekayo?

Isifiso sokwakha umndeni noma, okungenani, ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwane obunzima, ngokuyinhloko kusekelwe esimisweni somama esibelethwe kuwo wonke owesifazane. Uqaphele ukuthi amanye amantombazane ashade masinyane futhi aqale izinsana, amanye "asezintombi ezindala", hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngoba akekho owathatha ngaphansi kwephiko lawo elithembekile. Siphinde sikhulume ngalezo zimo lapho umndeni wakhiwa ngokushesha ngenxa yokukhulelwa kwentombazane. Sikhuluma ngesinyathelo esibucayi nesibindi esenzekayo kungakhathaliseki ubudala. Kungomunye wethu okhulayo ngaphambili, kodwa lesi siko somama asikasheshi kumuntu. Kodwa-ke, imvelo iyazi kangcono lapho futhi ngubani okufanele abe nobuhlobo obunzima.

Yiqiniso, isizathu esichazwe ngenhla sithandwa kancane. Namuhla konke kunzima kakhulu. Lapha, abazali bethu - bahlala nezinye izikhukhula, kwakuncane kakhulu ukukhulelwa okungafuneki, futhi umshado wawubaluleke njengento engenakulinganiswa nokuzinza. Manje, ngezinye izikhathi, imishado idaliwe ngenxa ye "holide efunwa" - futhi, njengoba wazi, isikhathi eside imindeni enjalo ayikho. Isizathu esinjalo esinengqondo asikwazi ukuba isizinda esinokwethenjelwa somndeni.

Yini enye intombazane engayidinga kumfana, ngaphandle komqondo wokuphepha? Mhlawumbe sizophendula kancane kancane, kodwa kunesizathu salokho futhi. Imali ibangele amantombazane amaningi, ikakhulukazi labo abakhulile emindenini engasebenzi. Ukuntuleka kwemali nesifiso sokuphuma ekamelweni elincane okumele uhlanganyele nabantwana bakho yonke impilo yakho, ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kunamandla kunanoma yimiphi imizwa. Futhi amantombazane, eshiya ithemba lokuthandana nomcebo, bakhetha ukusebenzisa umcimbi ojabulisayo futhi bakhethe umcebo kuphela, ngaphandle kothando.

Uma intombazane izwa ukuthi idinga isoka, lokhu akusho ukuthi ufuna ukudala umndeni kanye naye futhi abelethe izingane. Mhlawumbe, intombazane isalokhu i-vzbalmoshna encane futhi idonsela ukubonakala komuntu? Akukhishwe ukuthi ufuna ukufeza ukuthandwa kwabanye emibuthanweni ethile, futhi uhlose ukusebenzisa umfana olungile ngalokhu. Iminyano enjalo ingaba yinto ezuzisayo, kodwa, ayinamandla kakhulu. Wena ngokwakho uyaqonda ukuthi kungani. Phela, lapho sebefeze umgomo wabo, intombazane ngeke isadingeka ukuba ihambe nale ndoda - iyodinga enye, "ngokungazelelwe", ngoba izifiso azikho.

Kodwa-ke, into esiye yadlulela ngokuphelele ekuqondiseni ukukhathazeka nokuhweba. Futhi, naphezu kokuthi lezi zimo zenzeka kaningi empilweni yethu, lokhu akusho ukuthi akukho lutho olukhanyayo nokuhle emhlabeni wethu osele, futhi bonke ubudlelwane bukhohlisayo futhi buhlakaniphile.

Phela, zonke izintombi ezithandana nomfana othandekayo zidinga, okokuqala, ukuzwelana nokuqonda, uthando kanye nothando. Ngifuna ukuba akhathazeke ngawe futhi abize yonke isigamu sehora - ngisho noma kubonakala kukucasula, kodwa ukukhathalela okunjalo kuyoba mnandi kakhulu ngaphakathi! Ngifuna ukuba akusize ngendwangu ngengubo phakathi nobusuku futhi amanga ethempelini, ecabanga ukuthi usevele ulele ngokuzwakalayo. Ngifuna ukuba anqume isimo sakho emehlweni futhi aqonde zonke izifiso zakho.

Kodwa kunezinye izinhlobo zamantombazane, okuphambene kakhulu. Masibize lolu hlobo lwengqondo "umama wesifazane" ngokomzimba. Kungani "umama-wesifazane"? Ngenxa yokuthi intombazane enjalo ebuhlotsheni ayidingi indoda yokuyithatha ingane encane, yenza zonke izinto zayo futhi ufunde emehlweni. Cha, konke kuhambisane ngokuphelele: udinga ukunakekela umfana wakhe (ngendlela, lokhu akuyona into engavamile). Intombazane enjalo idinga ukunakekela umuntu nokufundisa. Uyomondla le ndoda, athuthukise amakhono akhe okucubungula ukuze amenzele elinye idili lesisu. Yena kusihlwa uzobopha ngeso lengqondo isikhwama esibusika ebusika kumntanakhe. Uyokhipha ukukhanya kwepansi nefenisha, ukuze abangane bamadoda akhe bathi: "Nkulunkulu wami, unomsebenzi onjani!" - futhi amazwi anjalo azomlethela injabulo engenakuqhathaniswa. Ukukhathazeka kuphela - akubona bonke abantu abawazisa lolu hlobo lwabasifazane, omunye udinga owesifazane omncane. Futhi ukuthi "umama-wesifazane" kungaba yindlela engcono kakhulu yomshado, baqonda kuphela uma umzuzu usuvele ulahlekile.

Kunamantombazane ama-vampire. Cha, lokhu akusho ukuthi owesifazane onjalo uyaphuza ngempela igazi ... kodwa udla amandla, mhlawumbe owesilisa. Intombazane enjalo ayikho into engcono kunokuba umyalo othile. Futhi kuyajabulisa kabili uma kungummeleli wesondo oqinile. Ufuna "i-rag", indoda ethandana naye ezindlebeni futhi ngubani okulungele cishe cishe konke. Ngomuntu onjalo ukhululekile - intombazane engumvampanda ayithandi ukuhlupha ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kodwa hhayi wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wayebuthakathaka kangakanani, uzovumela le ntombazane ukuba ihlekise ngaye. Ngakho-ke, lesi sizathu, kunalokho, kusuka kuhlu "lwe-morbidly-unnatural".

Futhi, ngokuyisisekelo, zonke izintombi zifuna isoka lakhe libe yindoda yangempela: eqinile, ekwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile, okungenasikhubekiso futhi engacasuli. Futhi-ke ufuna ukuthi yonke intombazane etholakala empilweni yakhe yindoda ethandekayo futhi yindoda yangempela - ngoba lokhu kulula, kodwa injabulo enkulukazi yesifazane.