Okufanele ukwenze uma ubuhle ebuhlotsheni bubonakala

Ngokuvamile abantu abaye bahlala ndawonye iminyaka eminingi, abaye bakhulisa izingane, thola ukuthi abambene lutho. Kubonakala sengathi ubuhlobo bubuhlungu, akukho okusha futhi okuthakazelisayo kuzokwenzeka futhi, futhi kusukela ekukhulumisaneni kuya ku-romanticism nokufudumala ebuhlotsheni.

Konke lokhu ndawonye kuvame ukukhushulwa nokupholisa ngokocansi. Futhi amadoda athambekele ngokuphelele ekufikeni ukwesaba, kudingeka nje abone ukuthi ubulili buyize.

Abashadile bavame ukusho ezimweni ezinjalo ukuthi balahlekelwa yintsha ebuhlotsheni. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kungukuphela komndeni nomshado, emva kwakho konke, ngeke kwenzeke ukubuyisela ubuhlobo. Eqinisweni, ungesabi futhi wenze ukunyakaza okungazelelwe. Njengoba nje akufanele ungayinaki le nkinga. Uma ucabanga ngalokho okufanele ukwenze, lapho ubuhle ebuhlotsheni bubonakala, kufanele uqonde imibuzo ebalulekile.

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukupholisana komunye nomunye kule mbhangqwana kuvame ukuhambisana nokukhangwa kocansi. Kalula nje, uyeka ukufunana, futhi ubulili be-conjugal buqala ukuhambisana nomsebenzi onzima noma umsebenzi onzima. Ukungaqondakali okungavamile kwabashadile kulesi simo kuyisifiso sokuhlukanisa impilo yezocansi ngokusebenzisa izivivinyo embhedeni. Okubi nakakhulu, uma othile exhuma kulezi zivivinyo - umthandi noma inkosikazi.

Isixazululo esinembile nesisemphumelelayo esimweni lapho ubuhle ebuhlotsheni bulahlekile, ngokuvamile buphikisana nomqondo ovamile. Kuqukethe ukuthi ukuze ususe le nkinga yokupholisa ngocansi, kufanele sihambe ngokuphambene nalokho. Kudingekile ukuthi ungazitholi izinhlobo ezintsha zobulili nomuntu othukuthele, kodwa ukufuna nokuxazulula izinkinga ze-oda eliphakeme: ngokomzwelo, ngokomoya, kwengqondo, ngokuziphatha noma izinkinga ezihlobene nazo zonke izinhlobo zezingxabano.

Lezi zinkinga, njengomthetho, ngabanye. Baziqhayisa njengengxabano evamile phezu kwedoti elingalimazi noma kungaba umbhede ongabanjwanga. Kodwa empeleni akuvamile ukufana nemindeni ehlukene.

Intukuthelo eqoqiwe, okuvame ukuba imbangela yokukhukhumazeka emshadweni, ingabangela izimo eziningi. Esikhathini sethu, indima yabesifazane emiphakathini iya kuba yimbangela yale nkinga. Uma owesifazane ngokuzumayo athola isikhundla esiphakeme kunomuntu, kuyamcasula ukuba abonise igunya lakhe nasekhaya. Amadoda ngokujwayelekile azwela kakhulu ekusebenziseni ukuxhaphaza futhi abhekane nabo ngokufutheka kakhulu. Futhi uma umuntu ethanda ukugwema izingxabano, izingxabano nokuhlukanisa ubudlelwane, ucindezela ngaphakathi kwakhe lobudlova, okuba yisizathu sokupholisa umkakhe. Esikhundleni sokuxosha intukuthelo, umyeni uqala ukugwema ukuxhumana nomkakhe. Kunezimo ezinzima uma owesifazane ezama ukudukisa umyeni wakhe, futhi uthola ukwenqaba. Lesi yisimo esibuhlungu kakhulu nesingathandeki ekuthuthukiseni ubuhlobo emndenini. Ngakho-ke uma ucabanga ngalokho okufanele ukwenze, lapho ubuhle ebuhlotsheni bubonakala, okokuqala, cabanga ngendima yomfazi emndenini. Akufanele kuholele kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezibonakalayo. Futhi uma umfazi engasetshenziselwa ukuholwa, kufanele acabange mayelana nokwabelana ngezigaba zethonya nokuba ngabaholi ekuxazululeni izinkinga ezehlukene ezingapheli.

Ngokuvamile, ukulahlekelwa amandla ngendoda emndenini kuholela ekuthuthukiseni umzabalazo ofihlekile wamandla. Kungathatha amafomu okucacile, kodwa kuvame ukuvela ngendlela yokuphikisa okuthulile noma ukungazinaki izicelo namazwana omkayo. Lokhu kubuthakathaka isisekelo somzimba sobuhlobo futhi kuholela ekwehleni kokusondelana ngokomzwelo.

Lezi zinkinga ngokusatshalaliswa okungahambisani kwezindima emndenini kubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu. Eqinisweni, ngezinga lokuqonda, noma yimuphi owesifazane uyakwazi ukushintsha isitayela sakhe sokuziphatha kumuntu omncane nowesifazane. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kuphela kungabangela ukuphakama kobudlelwane nokuphakama okusha, kushukumise ukuzwela nokuvusa "inhlanhla" entsha.

Kunezizathu ezingathí sina zokupholisa ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kufaka phakathi, isibonelo, izingxabano ezingaxazululwa nabazali bomunye womlingani. Ebudlelwaneni bomlingani, izibonelo zemikhaya yabazali bobabili ngokuvamile zidlala indima ebalulekile. Uma umyeni noma umfazi ephikisana nomama noma ubaba, angadluliselwa kumlingani wakhe futhi aqhube ama-scandal lapho umlingani engekho icala. Uhlobene kuphela nomzali ononya, futhi azikho izinkinga zangempela. Isibonelo, uma owesifazane ekhulela emndenini wendoda engathembeki, kungenzeka abe nomona omkhulu, angadluli umyeni wakhe ngokungadingekile. Futhi uma umyeni engathandeki ekukhonzeni, kumane kumcasule futhi kuvuse izingxabano zomndeni ezicacile noma ezifihliwe.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunjani, kuzo zonke izimo, lapho ubuhle ebuhlotsheni bubonakala, okokuqala kudingekile ukufuna izimbangela zesobala, futhi ngokuvamile zifihliwe, izingxabano zomndeni. Ukusebenza ngalezi zingxabano kuyinhlanhla yakho eyinhloko ngenhlanhla, uma ufuna ukugcina umndeni.