Futhi kunzima kangakanani ngezinye izikhathi ukuvuma ukuthi umuntu owathembele kuzo zonke izimfihlo zakho, owathi iminyaka eminingana esazi kakade ngawe ngaphezu kwanoma yimuphi omunye umphefumulo ophilayo kuleli zwe uye waba umthwalo. Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi lokhu kwenzeke. Abangane bahlale bexhumene nezithakazelo ezivamile, ukuqonda okufanayo, ukwethemba kanye nomzwelo wokuthembela okugcwele komunye nomunye. Nokho, izinguquko ekuphileni komunye wenu ngezinye izikhathi ziveza imiphumela engathandeki kakhulu. Isakhiwo siyaziwa ubuhlungu futhi siphindaphinda kaningi ekuphileni, kodwa futhi emisebenzini yezincwadi kanye ne-cinema.
Amantombazane ayejabule futhi ahlala, njengoba esho, umphefumulo emphefumulweni, bese omunye wabo ethola insizwa, futhi isimo sonke siyashintsha. Abasasichitha isikhathi esifanayo ndawonye, ukuqiniseka kobudlelwane buyancipha, ngoba omunye wabo unezinto omunye angayithandi. Noma kubi nakakhulu, lapho intombi iqala ukuhawukela le nsizwa, ngezinye izikhathi ngenhloso "yokugcizelela" isisekelo sayo, ukuzama ukuphinde ibuyele ezinsukwini zakudala, lapho eyiyona indawo yokubheka. Iningi labantu libhekana nalolu daba ngendlela engokwemvelo, ngoba lokhu akunakugwema futhi kwenzeka kaningi. Ingxoxo ecacile ukuthi indawo yomngane enhliziyweni yakho isele indawo yakhe, futhi le nsizwa iyinhlangano ehlukene ngokuphelele yemizwa nobuhlobo, njengomthetho, ngokwanele. Kuvaliwe kuphela kumuntu obengumngane wakho isikhathi esithile futhi wabelane nakho konke okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, kubi futhi akungabungane. Yebo, futhi kwenzeka okuthile empilweni yakho, lapho iningi lethu lizokhalaza? Thola isikhathi sokukhuluma naye, chaza isimo sonke, futhi uma wenza konke okulungile, uzohlala nentombi yakho kanye nomuntu othandekayo, ngokuvumelana ngokuhlelekile.
Ngezinye izikhathi kunezinye izimo lapho kuthakazelisa izintombi ukuba zikhulumisane ukuphindaphinda izinkinga zomunye nomunye, zixoxisane ngokuphuma kwezimo ezinzima, zifuna ukwesekwa komunye nomunye. Futhi futhi, ngokushesha nje uma omunye wabo enokuphila okuqala ukuthuthukisa, omunye uqala ukuzizwa engenangqondo futhi engadingekile. Kulesi simo, izinketho eziningana zingenzeka. Omunye wabo ukuthi intombi yakho ngokuzikhethela ikhethele yona indima "umeluleki" nelithi "i-waistcoat" empilweni, futhi ayikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle komuntu oyidingayo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngokuvamile abantu balolu hlobo abahlelekile ezimpilweni zabo futhi kubo isidingo sokuzizwa besesidingo emkhakheni womzwelo kubalulekile. Futhi ngenkathi nonke nibi, bazoba nawe, bezwe ngawe ngobuqotho futhi basize ukuhlanganyela kwakho ekugcineni kwakho.
Futhi uma uqina, futhi isimo sakho sithuthuka, ngeke udinga inkulumo eyayijwayele ngaphambili ngengxenye engathandeki. Kulesi simo, akufanelekile ukuphuthuma ukuqeda ubudlelwane nomngani, ngoba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini, lo muntu wayengukusekela kwakho futhi wasiza, futhi akulungile ukukhokha ukungabongi ngezinto ezinjalo. Zama ukuletha into enhle emphefumulweni wakho, ubonise ukuthi azikho izinhlangothi zomnyama kuphela emhlabeni. Myeke azame ukuzizwa ejabule naye. Njengoba usindise umngane onjalo, ukumsekela esikhathini esinzima kuye, uzothola esikhathini esizayo kuphela. Kwenzeka, futhi omunye, uma umngane engakuzweli nje kuphela, futhi ezwa ngezinkinga zakho nezinkinga, uthola ukwaneliseka kwangaphakathi ekuqaliseni ukuphakama komuntu siqu. Lokhu kwenzeka futhi, futhi akufanele ukhuthazelele ezimweni ezinjalo, ngaphandle uma uvuma yonke impilo yakho ukuba ube yisifundo somuntu oziqinisekisile. Kusobala ukuthi uma uvela ezinkingeni zesikhashana, umuntu onjalo uyolahlekelwa inzalo kuwe futhi konke okuzoxazululwa ngokwayo.
Nokho, akuzona zonke izinto ezihlala zibuhlungu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ezimweni eziningi, inkinga ebuhlotsheni yesikhashana futhi kwenzeka kubo bonke abantu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi baneminyaka yobudala nobani. Ubuhlobo buyindawo ebuseduze kakhulu yobudlelwane, abangane bahlale bexhaswa kanye nendawo yokuthenga, ngezinye izikhathi bahlala isikhala esiningi kakhulu ezinhliziyweni zethu kunezihlobo. Singabethemba bonke, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukukhonjwa noma ukuhleka usulu, izinqumo zabo zasivame ukusisiza ukuba siphume ezimweni ezibucayi. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuwazisa ngesithunzi, futhi ungahlakazeki ngobuhlobo bomuntu obuqotho ngenxa yenkinga yesikhashana. Futhi uma unomuzwa wokuthi umngane wakho unesizungu, kodwa usengumuntu ofanayo owethemba ngemfihlo yakho futhi owusize izikhathi eziyinkulungwane esimweni esinzima, bese uzama ukuqonda kuqala ukuthi kwenzekani. Mhlawumbe, usuke ukhathele kakhulu futhi kufanelekile ukuya esikhathini isikhashana ukuze uphumule futhi uthole ezinye imizwelo. Ukuxhumana kudinga amandla amaningi angokomzwelo futhi kuyacaca ukuthi omunye wenu angazizwa ekhathele, ungesabi ukumtshela ngakho.
Kuthiwani uma umngane wami eba umthwalo kuwe? Ungalokothi uphuthukise ngeziphetho futhi ungenzi izinqumo ezinzima ngomuntu obalulekile kuwe, ngoba amazwi nezenzo azikwazi ukubuyiselwa emuva, futhi ukulahlekelwa umngane omuhle kulula kunokuba uthole okusha.