Emhlabeni wanamuhla ngokuvamile kuvunyelwe ukucindezeleka, futhi izinkinga ezenzweni zobulili azihlukile. Ngempela, izinkinga ezithandweni zobulili zinomthelela omubi kukho konke okunye, siyathukuthela, sidabukile futhi siyaphazanyiswa. Noma yisiphi isazi sezengqondo somndeni siyosho ukuthi izinkinga ezisembhedeni ziwuphawu olucacile lokuthi kunezinkinga ebuhlotsheni ngokwabo. Ngakho ukuxazulula izinkinga zobulili, udinga ukuthola imbangela yangempela eye yabathinta isenzakalo sabo, futhi uqale ukuqeda ngokuphelele.
Abantu abaningi kwenzeka ukuthi konke okuzungezile akufani nakanjani. Emsebenzini, isikhathi sihudula kancane kancane, futhi singenaso isikhathi sokwenza njalo, abaphathi bahlale benesimo sengqondo esibi futhi bebeka imizwa yabo emibi kuwe, ekhaya, izinto eziningi ezingenaso isikhathi, akukho isikhathi, akukho nesifiso. Ngenxa yalokho, lo mkhuba kancane kancane ugcwala, ukhula ngenxa yokucindezeleka.
Ekhulelwe futhi ephathekayo, nangokomzimba, abantu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi baneminyaka yobudala, banamathuba okuba bacabange ngokwanelisa izidingo zabo zobulili. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi abantu abangaphezu kuka-40% abaneminyaka yobudala engama-35 kuya kwengu-46 abafuni ukuya ocansini ngenkathi besesimweni sokucindezeleka. Khona-ke, yini okufanele uyenze uma ungafuni ubulili? Izazi zengqondo zinikeza izincomo eziningana.
- Into esemqoka okumele uyiqaphele, okokuqala, kuyadingeka kuwe, ukuthi kunezizathu zokuthi kungani ungase ungafuni ucansi, isibonelo ukuthi awuzange ulale ubusuku obuthile, ngoba ingane egulayo ayikuvumeli ukuthi uyenze, ukuvinjelwa emsebenzini, noma ukukhathala kwebhanti. Ekugcineni, ungumuntu ophilayo, hhayi i-robot futhi awukwazi ukuvumelanisa nazo zonke izinkinga zokuphila. Esimweni esinjalo, akudingeki uzihluphe ngokwengeziwe, uqinisekise wonke umuntu ukuthi ungowesifazane ongcono kakhulu ozokudla nokuhlanza nokugeza nokulala futhi uzobeka umyeni wakhe ujabule, vele uzitholele ukuphumula. Nika imisebenzi ethile yasendlini kumyeni wakho, yenza lokhu ngokuzwakalayo, ngoba abantu abazi ukufunda izingqondo, njengabesifazane. Mane ungenzi ngokungazelelwe futhi ngezicelo, nje uhlathulule ngokuthula isimo, umyeni uyindoda, uzoqonda futhi azisole.
- Cabanga, unesidingo sokulala ngocansi. Phela, inani lamahomoni adingekayo emzimbeni wesifazane akhiqizwa kuphela ngesikhathi sokulala ngokocansi, ngezinye izikhathi okwanele nje ukushaywa kanye nokusila. Uma ubulili bukwenza uzizwe unxanelekile futhi obuhle kakhulu, gqoka izingubo ezimangalisa kakhulu, wenze i-hairdo, uphume ekukhanyeni futhi udlale nomunye umuntu ngenjabulo yakho (into esemqoka ngokulinganisela nokudlala ngothando). Uma ubulili kuyindlela yakho yokuzifakazela, shayela amandla akho kwesinye isiteshi, thola umsebenzi othakazelisayo, kube yizifundo zokupheka noma ipulasitiki yokugqoka, futhi ungene kuwo ngekhanda lakho, ngakolunye uhlangothi uzibekezele, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, uthole amakhono amasha, awusizo.
- Ungazami ukulondoloza okungenakwenzeka. Izimo zengqondo azikwazi ukuhlala njalo njengoba zaziqala ekuqaleni, zishintsha ngendlela efanayo njengoba sishintsha. Ababi nakakhulu, bavele bahluke, bavuthiwe futhi banamandla.
- Ungakhohlwa ngomunye nomunye. Ungavumeli umsebenzi, impilo kanye nesimiso kuthathe sonke isikhathi sakho. Shiya kancane komunye nomunye. Uma ubudlelwane bakho bungekelwe ebuhlotsheni, kodwa ngokuthandana nokuzwelana, ukukhathalelana okuncane kuzokuvumela ukuba ususe ukuyeka isikhathi eside.
- Shintsha indawo ye-dislocation. Akunakusiza ukuxosha ezinkingeni kanye nemicabango engathandeki, njengokushintsha kwesimo. Zama ukuhlangana ndawonye kaningi, kepha hhayi embhedeni nge-TV, kodwa kwenye indawo ngaphandle kwekhaya lakho. Hamba umyeni usebenze futhi umemele ku-movie noma i-cafe, noma nje uhambe. Futhi lesi senzo akufanele sibe okukodwa!
- Yiba ne-synchronous. Kuyaziwa ukuthi indoda idinga isikhathi esincane sokufinyelela i-orgasm kunowesifazane. Ingabe uyaziwa kumuntu wakho? Ingabe uyazi ukuthi yini oyithandayo ngocansi, uyini isikhundla sakho ozithandayo, kuphi izindawo zakho ezibucayi kakhulu ezitholakala, ukuthi, ekugcineni, uyayithanda ekuqhubeni ukulandelana? Uma ungaqiniseki ngezimpendulo zale mibuzo, masinyane uchaze, futhi uma kunesidingo, cacisa isimo. Ubulili kufanele buyenze yedwa, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokho akuyona ubulili, kodwa ukushaya indlwabu, okuyinto umlingani engadingeki.
- Uma ufuna ukufezekisa umphumela omuhle, awudingi ukucabanga okungenangqondo, kodwa izimpikiswano eziqinile. Cabanga ngezinzuzo zobulili ngempilo, funda izincwadi ezidingekayo, noma ubheke ulwazi olufanele kwi-intanethi, ukubeka amanani kumaqiniso futhi wenze ibhizinisi.