Ukuzama ukuthola ukuthi owesifazane u-sexy, amanye amadoda ahlola ukubukeka kwakhe, abanye banesithakazelo emsebenzini, kodwa iningi lizama ukuthola iminyaka. Kunombono wokuthi ubulili buvuka bonke abesifazane besifazane ngesikhathi esifanayo: eminyakeni engama-28-30 ubudala, ihlala kule nqanaba kuze kube yiminyaka engu-45, bese iyancipha kancane kancane. Kodwa ingabe kunjalo ngempela? Yini evimbela owesifazane ekubeni "iberry" eminyakeni engu-25 noma engu-55? Futhi ngokujwayelekile, ubulili besifazane buxhomeke kuphi: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuneminyaka yobudala noma kwenye into?
UKUHLELA UKUHLELA
Ngempela, iningi labesifazane liya ocansini kuphela ngemva kweminyaka engama-30. Ngokusho kososayensi baseMelika, inani labesifazane abangakaze bahlangane neminyaka engama-30, liphindwe kathathu kunama-25. Kodwa akuyona nje i-orgasm - impilo yezocansi eminyakeni eyishumi iya okujulile futhi okuthakazelisayo. Lokhu, okushoyo, yi-axiom. Noma kunjalo, kunoma yikuphi umthetho, njengoba kuyaziwa, kuningi okuhlukile.
Kukhona uhlobo okuthiwa "abesifazane abaqala ukukhula". Intshisekelo ebuhlotsheni phakathi kobulili iwavusa kakhulu ekuqaleni - ngisho nangaphambi kokuqala kweminyaka edlulile. Ngeminyaka engu-10-12 ubudala banesithakazelo ngomzimba wabo futhi bahlanganyela ekushaya indlwabu ngisho nangaphambi kokuya esikhathini. Ngesikhathi sobuningi, abameleli abaningi baleli qembu banolwazi locansi. Kuhle noma kubi umbuzo owubuciko. Kodwa ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi "abancane nabasheshe" bafinyelele e-orgasm ngisho nangaphambi kweminyaka engama-20. Lokhu kungukuthi, ngesikhathi esifanayo esivame ukubhekwa njengesivilapha ngokuqondene nobulili besifazane. Futhi laba besifazane 'abashiseki' isikhathi eside, basalele ukuthakazelisa kuzo zonke izimpilo zabo. Ngokusho kososayensi baseJalimane, kunabesifazane abaningi-i-vampas: izifundo zibonisa ukuthi cishe eyodwa yamantombazane amathathu eneminyaka engu-17 kuya ku-19 ayinakuthola njalo i-orgasm, kodwa ngisho "iqedela" izikhathi eziningana ngokulandelana noma ngekhefu lama-1-2 amaminithi! Ngokusho kwezibikezelo zesosayensi, esikhathini esizayo abantu abanjalo abanesimo sengqondo bazoba ngaphezulu, njengoba ubulili besifazane kuhloswe ukuba "babukeke basha": amantombazane azoqala ukungena ngokocansi ngaphambili, azosebenza ngokugcwele ngokocansi.
Kukhona elinye iqembu labesifazane abangahle babizwe ngokomzimba ngokuthi "ukuvuthwa phakathi". Ngama-12 basengabantwana, kodwa iminyaka engu-16-17 baqala ukuqhuma, futhi ngo-20 ngokushesha bayazi "isayensi yethemba lesithando". Abaningi babo eminyakeni yokuqala 2-3 yobuhlobo obuseduze ngaphandle komzamo omkhulu bangafinyelela i-orgasm. Superstrastnymi laba besifazane, yebo, abakwazi ukubizwa ngegama, kodwa futhi abangekho ngokocansi - futhi. Bangakwazi ukukhishwa njalo ngezikhathi ezithile futhi ungakhathazeki ukwenza okuthile "okuvinjelwe" ekamelweni lokulala, ngokwesibonelo, ngokusebenzisa usizo lwezathoyizi zobulili. Nakuba, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuhlangana nomyeni wakhe efoloneni "ngaphandle kwanoma yini" noma ukubeka isidumbu ngaphansi komcamelo ngamunye ngesinye isikhathi, kodwa ubulili babo nabo bangafinyelela ekupheleni komuntu wonke owaziwayo iminyaka engu-35-40.
Ochwepheshe baphinde baphikisa enye inkolelo-yokuthi owesifazane oneminyaka engu-50 unesithakazelo kuphela emibhedeni kanye nabazukulu. Njengokuthi emva kokuya esikhathini, impilo yebesifazane iyancipha futhi impilo yezocansi iphela. Kodwa-ke, abakwa-sexologists bayazi izibonelo ezimbalwa, lapho abesifazane abaneminyaka engu-55-60 behlala ocansini izikhathi ezingu-2-3 ngesonto futhi bayakwazi ukuthola lonke uchungechunge lwe-orgasms. Empeleni, abesifazane abaningi bayakwazi ukuphumula ngempela kule nkathi (izingane zikhulile, akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokukhulelwa okungafuneki, njll). Yingakho akudingeki ubeke isiphambano uma ujoyina iminyaka engaphambi kokuthatha umhlalaphansi: ngokuphelele ubudala bonke bayalalela uthando!
IZIMPAHLA ZAMAHORA
Kuncike ocansini yowesifazane nezinye izici eziningi, isibonelo, inani le-hormone e-testosterone emzimbeni. Ngandlela-thile, emva kweminyaka engu-30 ubulili besifazane buchazwe kakhulu ngezinga eliphakeme le-testosterone: ngalesi sikhathi, inani lama-hormone wesifazane liqala kancane kancane kodwa liyanciphisa, kodwa inani le-testosterone lihlala lifanayo.
Abesifazane, abanakho konke nge-testosterone, bangabalingani abathandekayo abathanda ubulili. Yiqiniso, i-testosterone ngokweqile ngezinye izikhathi iholela emiphumeleni engathandeki, njengokuthi "ukuphunga" kwezandla nezinyawo, kodwa manje kunezindlela eziningi zokuqothula (zilalise ukuthi ukuphuza izinwele kuwuphawu lokubamba ukuqina). Kodwa ngokuqothula ezindaweni eziseduze kakhulu, sineluleka ukuthi ulinde - eqinisweni, akuwona wonke amadoda afana nezinwele zezinwele "ngaphansi kwe-zero" endaweni yokushicilela. Abaningi ngokuphambene nalokho baphenduka ngokuthi "izinwele" ngesimo sawo sangempela (njengomthetho, i-testosterone ngaphezulu, iyinto emangalisayo kakhulu), ikakhulukazi uma umbala wezinwele "ukhona" mnyama kunekhanda. Yingakho, ngaphambi kokuba ugijime ku-salon yezinwele zezinwele eziseduze, ungakhohlwa ukubuza othandekayo wakho lokho okuthandayo.
Kodwa-ke, amanye ama-hormone angaphinda enze umsebenzi wabo wobulili. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ngezikhathi ezahlukene zokujikeleza kokuya esikhathini emzimbeni wesifazane, eyodwa noma amanye ama-hormone akhiqizwa. Ngakho-ke izinguquko empilweni yabesifazane, impilo yezocansi. Ngakho-ke, eduze komjikelezo, ngisho nabameleli abaphethwe kakhulu besilisa ababuthakathaka sebekulungele ukugijima kumlingani kuqala. Ngesinye isikhathi, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abesifazane abathintekayo "abangakwesokunxele" banquma ngokuqondile ngesikhathi sokuvuthwa (ngosuku lweshumi nambili kuya ku-12 kusukela ekuqaleni kokuya esikhathini), okungukuthi, lapho umzimba wesifazane usulungele ukukhulelwe.
Kubonakala sengathi amandla okuzala angenza lokhu. Ukukhangwa ngokobulili kuhlala "kuqhuma" ngaphambi nangemva kokuya esikhathini. Ngokwengxenye, lokhu kuqinisekiswa yizivivinyo ezenziwe: abesifazane basuke bezimisele ukubuka amafilimu ashukumisayo futhi bafunde izincwadi "ezishisayo" ngaphambi nangemva kwezinsuku ezibucayi. Kodwa ngesonto lokuqala emva kokuvuthwa kwamantombazane amaningi, inzalo ekuziphendukeni, njengokubusa, iyanyamalala ngokuphelele.
Ukukhuphuka nokukhunjulwa kokukhangwa ngokocansi nakho kungenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Uma ezinyangeni ezintathu zokuqala ezimbalwa kwabesifazane besesimweni beze bakhumbule ngokuthi "it", khona-ke phakathi naphakathi kokukhulelwa abesifazane bazithandana ngokuzithandela (ngaphandle kokuthi, ngaphandle kwalokho, akukho ukuphikisana kwezokwelapha). Ngemuva kokubeletha, enye i-leap yezocansi ifika. Kodwa hhayi ezinyangeni zokuqala (owesifazane ukhathele kakhulu, unakekele usana), kodwa cishe ezinyangeni ezinhlanu kuya kweziyisithupha. Ngalesi sikhathi, izimpawu zokuziphatha ngokobulili zivuswa ngisho nabesifazanekazi abangasebenzi kahle, futhi baqala ukuzwa i-orgasm.
UBUSINESS WIRE UQALA ...
... Futhi iwina! Kuvela ukuthi abesifazane abasebenzayo bayakwazi ukuhola impilo yobuningi obusebenzayo kunalabo abahlala njalo ekhaya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bathola ngokujabula kwakhe kwangempela. Mhlawumbe, lo msebenzi umane usekela abesifazane ngezwi, okubonakala kulo msebenzi wezocansi. Futhi mhlawumbe ucansi lisiza abesifazane ukuba banciphise ukucindezeleka emva komsebenzi wosuku. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubulili obuthakathaka esikhathini sethu akuyona imisebenzi encane, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nangaphezulu kunamandla. Ososayensi bathole ukuthi izinga lokunethezeka ngokocansi lihlobene nokuthi owesifazane uyayithanda yini umsebenzi noma cha. Ladies abaya emsebenzini nsuku zonke, njengeholide, bazimisele kakhulu ukuhlala emgumbini nomlingani kusihlwa kunabo abacindezelwe ukuthi bacabanga ibhizinisi elingathandwa.
Imidlalo iphinde ihlasele isikhangiso sethu sezocansi. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kusebenza kuphela ekuzikhandleni ngokomzimba, kusho, ukuvivinya umzimba noma ukuhlela izikhathi ezintathu ngesonto. Ukuqeqeshwa okujulile (ikakhulukazi uma le ndoda "ihlala" ekudleni okunzima kakhulu), ngokuphambene nalokho, inganciphisa ukuthambekela komzimba. Ngaphambi kocansi, uma umzimba ukhathele, ukuthi ufuna kuphela - ukuphumula okuphelele!
I-LASKY NE-GENTLE WENHLOSI
Amantombazane, njengoba uyazi, angabantu abathandekayo nabanobucayi, ngenhlangano engokomzwelo engokomzwelo. Umsebenzi wabo wobulili ngokuqondile kuxhomeke ebuhlotsheni nomlingani. Uma enesihluku, engacabangi, ethukuthele, ngisho nowesifazane okhuthele kakhulu uzopholisa ngokushesha. Uma umuntu efika ngesenzo socansi njalo, njalo esesitayela esifanayo: uyangqinga imizuzwana emibili, aqede isifuba imizuzwana emibili, bese eqala ngokushesha inqubo eyinhloko, lona wesifazane futhi akahambisani nobulili. Ukuzikhethela, ubuwula nobuqili bomlingani yizici eziyinhloko "eziqaphela" abesifazane besondelene. Ucwaningo lwamuva lwama-300 abesifazane, oluqhutshwa izazi zezengqondo zaseMelika, lubonise ukuthi ngamunye wabo umqondo wengqondo emndenini kanye nezinga lokuthembela phakathi kwabalingani kubalulekile kuqala. Lokhu kuqinisekiswa izibalo: isigamu esikhulu sabesifazane abathinta impilo yomndeni wabo ujabule, i-orgasm ehlangene njalo. Ngenkathi phakathi kokunganeliseki nokuziphatha komlingani owanelisekile ngokocansi, kwakukhona okungaphezulu kuka-20%.
Umsebenzi wobulili wabesifazane uvinjelwa umzwelo wokucindezela ekamelweni. Futhi okuningi (uma kungenjalo konke) kuxhomeke kumlingani wakho. Uma ehlelwe ukuhlolwa, uma ekhuthaza ukucabanga komlingani wakhe, ngokushesha noma kamuva uzoyeka ukuba namahloni futhi aphelelwe ubulili. Uma lo mlingani evikelekile futhi engafuni ukwamukela noma yini entsha ngocansi, owesifazane akanakwenzeka ukuba avumele ukukhululwa, ukuze angabonakali kuye adonwe. Nakuba ngenxa yobulungiswa kufanele kuthiwa amadoda avame ukwamukela "konke lokho" ekamelweni lokulala. Akusikho ukuthi kungani amaNgisi azimisele kakhulu ukushada abantu bezinye izizwe kunamazwe aseMelika namaJalimane? Ngempela, kwakungabesifazane baseNgisi ukuthi udumo lwamaqhwa "weqhwa" alungisiwe, oluhlobene kabi nokulala ...
Ngakho indlela eyodwa yokuphuma: ukhohlwa mayelana nokukhuliswa kwama-Puritan nezinkimbinkimbi futhi uphewule ngokuphuthumayo ukuhlazeka nokuhlukumeza! Ungesabi ukubonakala sengathi unesibindi nomoya wakho kumlingani wakho! Amadoda amaningi avuma ukuthi emaphupheni abo ahlukumezayo anjengokungathi "izingonyama" ezinomusa.
BONZA UMSEBENZI!
"Umsebenzi wobulili, njenganoma imuphi omunye umsebenzi womzimba wethu, udinga ukuqeqeshwa," kusho ochwepheshe bezocansi. Uma "ukuqeqeshwa" okungaphezulu, okungukuthi, izenzo zocansi, kuphakama umsebenzi wezocansi. Futhi ngokuphambene nalokhu: kancane kancane ukhumbule ngocansi, ngokushesha umsebenzi wezocansi "uyafa". Futhi lo mthetho usebenza kubesifazane, nakwamadoda. Ngakho-ke yenza ubulili ngesilinganiso sempilo yokuphila, uma kungenjalo ohlwini lokuqala, okungenani eziyishumi eziphezulu futhi uthuthukise isigqi sakho sokuphila kocansi. Omunye unayo izikhathi ezingu-5 ngesonto, omunye umuntu - 3, omunye umuntu - 1. Imibhangqwana evamile emshadweni onokuhlangenwe nakho ibuyele ocansini izikhathi ezingu-2-3 ngesonto, kodwa emadolobheni amakhulu, isibonelo, eMoscow, lesi sibonakaliso ngezansi: imindeni eminingi ihamba ngokuzithokozisa ngokwenyama kaningi kunezikhathi ezingu-1-2 ngesonto. Nakuba umqondo wendabuko uqobo uqobo kakhulu. Odokotela bakholelwa ukuthi isigqi socansi kufanele sihambisane nabalingani bobabili. Into esemqoka ukunamathela kule "isikhathi", ukugwema ukuyeka okude kakhulu.
Uma izidingo zakho zocansi zihlukana namadoda, zingahle zilungiswe ngosizo lwe-sexologist. Phela, isimiso sobulili besilisa sehluke kwalabo besifazane: ubulili obunamandla bukhulu ekusebenzeni kwakhe kobulili eminyakeni engu-19-25. Emva kwalokho, umsebenzi wezocansi uqala ukwehla kancane kancane, nakuba kukhona okungafani okuningi kulo mthetho. Ngenxa yokuthi imibhangqwana engaphezu kuka-30, ivame ukubhekana nenkinga efanayo: owesifazane ufuna ubulili obuvamile, indoda ihlela isigqi esilinganiselwe. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuholela ekuxabaneni okukhulu, kufaka phakathi isahlukaniso, nakuba ukungahambisani ngokocansi akulula kakhulu ukuphuma.
Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, uma umuntu engakwazi ukukugcwala ngokuphelele, ungasebenzisa ukushaya indlwabu - futhi uhlobo lokuqeqesha ngokobulili, nakuba kungcono "ukulinganisa" kunokulala ngokocansi. Abakwa-Sexologists aboni lutho olubi ekushaya indlwabu futhi bayancoma ngisho neziguli (kuyasebenza njengesivinini sokuphepha). Futhi kungcono ngezikhathi ezithile ukuba uthathe umhlalaphansi wedwa endlini yokugezela kunokuhlambalaza umyeni ngokungcoliswa ngokocansi.
YINYE INVOICE!
Udaba lomsebenzi wezocansi luyinto ebuthakathaka. Okukhulu kakhulu kunganciphisa noma kuyifake ngokuphelele. Okokuqala, ukubhema. Ngenxa yokuthi ugwayi ubhema, izitsha zihlala embusweni we-spastic uma nje amahora angu-2-3, okuyinto, ngokwayo, engaphazamisa ukuhlinzeka kwezitho ezinegazi ne-oxygen. Cabanga nje ukuthi kwenzekani emzimbeni, uma ubhema ugwayi ongaphezu kweyodwa, nephakethe lonke?
Okwesibili, ukusetshenziswa kotshwala ngokweqile. Ingilazi ye-champagne ingakudonsa futhi ifinyelele ekuvumelaneni okukhululekile, kodwa nansi ibhodlela elizokwenza ukuthi ulale noma ubangele i-migraine. Ungasho ukuthi owesifazane akufanele aphuze utshwala nhlobo: yimiphi imiphumela lokhu kungaholela ekukhulelweni, wonke umuntu uyazi. Okwesithathu, ukuntuleka kokulala. Uyomangala ukuthi kungakanani ukulala okungapheli kokulala okuthinta impilo yethu. Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi abantu abahlale "benganele" emahoreni ambalwa belele, banamathele ezifweni ezithathelwanayo, ukucindezeleka, ngokushesha bathelela amakhilogremu angaphezulu, amathuba okuba nobulili futhi baphile kancane! Ngakho-ke, ngokushesha uqale ukushintsha umbuso wayo. Indlela engcono kakhulu ukulala okuhlala isikhathi eside amahora angu-8 (inothi lokuthi "ukudlula ngaphezulu" kwezempilo yabesifazane kanye nokuphila ngokocansi nakho kuyingozi!). Okwesine, izifo eziningi ezingapheli nokucindezeleka. Konke lokhu kunciphisa umzimba, kanye nomsebenzi wezocansi.