Labo abathanda kakhulu ukuphila kuzo zonke izibonakaliso zalo, abaze baphule izandla zabo kanye nekhanda, ngesibindi ukunqoba izithiyo zokuphila, abaqondi labo abangafuni ukuphila, okwamanje ngenxa yezizathu ezithile zokuphelelwa ithemba, esimweni sokucindezeleka. Indlela yokuzisiza wena noma abanye esimweni lapho ungafuni ukuhlala khona, futhi okwamanje akubonakali kuhle kakhulu, kuhle, njengangaphambili?
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Ukuze uzithole esimweni lapho ungafuni ukuhlala khona, ungaba ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Kakhulu kunabo bonke ukufa noma ukugula okubulalayo komunye umuntu oseduze. Esinye isizathu yizinkinga zempilo ezimbi kakhulu nezimo ezihlukahlukene zomzimba. Owesithathu uhlukanisa nomthandekayo wakho, ukukhwabanisa, ukukhohlisa kwabaseduze, abangane. Izinkinga ezine, izinto ezinzima emsebenzini. Owesihlanu ukudumazeka okujulile kokuthile noma komunye umuntu. Izimbangela zingaba eziningi kakhulu, kodwa lezi yizona eziyinhloko.
Isimo esidabukisayo singase siholele ekumenikeleni ukuhlala. Kodwa ukucindezeleka ekuqaleni kwavusa inkinga noma isimo esivela ngenhla.
Ngakho ungabhekana kanjani nesimo sengqondo esinjalo? Ikakhulukazi uma isimo singenakuphikiswa, njengokungathi umuntu oseseduze ushonile.
Lapho abantu beshiya impilo yabo
Yini ongayenza uma isimo sakho sokucindezeleka okujulile kubangelwa ukufa komuntu othandekayo ongeke wamukele i-vykik. Ngeke sikhulume lapha mayelana nokuthi udinga ukusinda kule nkathi enzima yokuphila, zama ukukhohlwa, uphinde uphendule imicabango enzima njengokujulile.
Inkinga ngezenzo ezinjalo ayanyamalala. Kodwa ngokuqinisekile kungashiwo ukuthi kulokhu i-main subject theory yeNkosi uSolomoni izosebenza. "Konke kudlula. Futhi nalokhu! "Uyodlula isikhathi, othile unenyanga, othile unonyaka naphezulu futhi ubuhlungu bubuhlungu, buzoba nestol ebukhali, kusobala, njengamanje.
Ezikhathini ezinzima zokuphila, hlala kude nabantu, zama ukuthembela nabo.
Uma abantu abanjalo bengekho endaweni yakho - vakashela isazi sezengqondo noma isikhonzi esingokomoya sokholo lwakho. Laba bantu bayabizwa ukusiza ngokubheka komsebenzi kulabo abanenkinga yokuphila okunzima.
Kuyasiza ukushintsha isimo, shintsha imicabango yakho ezinkingeni zabanye abantu. Futhi khumbula, ukuthuthukiswa kwakho kwamanje kungumphumela wesigameko empilweni yakho. Kodwa awusiye owokuqala futhi ude nomuntu wokugcina emhlabeni ukuze uzwe lokhu. Namuhla, isabelo esinzima siphelelwe yisikhathi sakho, ngesinye isikhathi, abanye abantu abangajwayelekile bazobhekana nesenzakalo esinzima ngokulinganayo. Khumbula, maduzane ubuhlungu buyobe bukhuni, buyeke ubukhulu obukhulu, uma ungavumelanisa nayo futhi uyibone.
Ukuphila ngemva kokuhlukanisa nabathandekayo bakho
Ubuqili, ukuphikisana, ukungaqondi kahle kanye nomphumela - ukuhlukana komuntu othandekayo kungabangela abanye "isimo sokuphila abafuni." Izazi zengqondo zincoma izindlela eziningi zokuphuma kulo mbuso.
Into yokuqala ongayenza uma uqonda ukuthi umuntu othile udinga ukuba ngandlela-thile uphonse empilweni yakhe futhi enkumbulweni yakhe ukushintsha indawo yakhe yokuhlala. Noma ungashiya isikhathi eside inyanga ezihlotsheni kwenye idolobha noma emzaneni. Okusho ukuthi umsebenzi wakho awukona nje ukushintsha isimo, kodwa futhi ukunciphisa amathuba okuhlangana nomuntu owenze icala lakho.
Hlukanisa zonke izimfanelo endlini, endaweni yakho, okukukhumbuza ngakho - izithombe zakho ezihlangene, amadokhumenti e-disk, ukususa kubangani bakho ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi nokunye.
Khumbula, esimweni sakho inkulu ingadlala ekubuyiseleni abangane bokulingana kwengqondo, izintombi, abazali, abanye abantu abaseduze. Unganqabe ukusiza nokuxhumana nabo.
I-Psychotherapists icabangela
Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi abantu abafuna ukuxazulula izici ekuphileni baphenduke ngokwabo. Ukuhamba kwabo ekuphileni ngeke kuxazulule izinkinga. Futhi ukuthi le ndaba ayifinyeleli ukucindezeleka nokuzibulala kulandela isigaba sokuqala, lapho inkinga ibonakala ngokucacile, cabangela ngokucophelela ukuthi ucabangani ngokungaqali "i-snowball" yemicabango eyingozi.
I-Psychotherapists iqiniseke, nje kuphela umuntu wakho oseduze noma unemicabango ngokushiya, kuyadingeka ukuthi wenze ngokuphuthumayo ngendlela ethile. Ngeke ukwazi ukubhekana nalo ngokuzimela - funa iseluleko kumuntu wezengqondo, isazi sengqondo.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze uma ngingathandi ukuhlala ngabathandekayo bakho?
Ngakho, umngane wakho oseduze kukunika ukuthi uqonde ukuthi akanalo amandla okuphila, akafuni ukuqhubeka ekhona. Yini ongayenza, futhi yini engavumelekile kulokhu?
Isinyathelo 1. Lalela ngokucophelela i-interlocutor yakho. Ungamphazamisi. Ungabonisi izitatimende ezingokomzwelo ezimbi. Ungamhluleli. Vumela lo muntu akhulume kuze kube sekupheleni.
Isenzo 2. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi ngabe umuntu empeleni uzokuzibulala noma ingabe yingozi kuphela, ukuxhaphaza ukuzibulala?
Isinyathelo 3. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukusekelwa kwakho, okumele kunikezwe ngawo wonke amandla akho, isimo obhekene nazo asanele, awukwazi ukubhekana nalo - mema umuntu oseduze ukuba avakashele isazi se-psychotherapist ndawonye.
Isenzo 4. Esikhundleni salokho, yini okufanele ibe nokusebenza engxenyeni yakho. Akufanele kube kuleso simo ukweluleka umuntu ukuba "uphuze," "phumula," "ukhohlwa," "hamba ukuhamba." Akungabazeki ukuthi lezi zindlela zizosiza umuntu ekuphelelwe amandla okukhulu ukubhekana nokungafuni ukuhlala.
Amathiphu wezengqondo, uma ungafuni ukuhlala
Uxoshiwe emsebenzini, unqobe izinkinga nabantwana bakho, umyeni wakho, unomuntu osondelene kakhulu, izikweletu eziningi eziqoqiwe, awukwazi ukukhokhela izikweletu nezinye izimo ezinzima. Indlela yokuphuma yilokhu. Bheka kusukela ohlangothini lokudlala e-sandbox noma e-kindergarten izingane. Baneendlela ekhethekile yokuphila, okungaba kuhle ukuzamukela kubantu abacindezelekile.
Izingane njalo ngomzuzwana zijabulela izikhathi ezijabulisayo noma zibuhlungu ngokugcwele. Kodwa bangakanani abajabulayo noma abazwayo, ngakho masinyane ukhohlwe ngalesi simo. Umuntu angasho ubukhosi - izingane zithanda impilo futhi zihlala zonke izikhathi zazo nazo zonke amangqamuzana zomzimba wazo.
Kungani abantu abadala bengavumelani nemikhuba yokuphila yengane yosuku ngalunye okungenani inkathi enzima?
Unenkinga ngenxa yesizathu, njengoba kubonakala kuwe, emphakathini wakho ongadingekile, imvelo yakho, ngenxa yesizungu. Futhi okwamanje abaningi abanesizungu lyudinauchilis babhekane ngokuphelele nesizungu sabo nokungabi nalutho, kokuba nesilwane. Ekunakekeleni kwakhe bazizwa isidingo sabo siphila. Ikati noma inja, futhi, inikeza abanikazi bayo imizwa eminingi emihle, kusihlwa okujabulisayo, abangenakuhlala bodwa.
Futhi kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi uma isigaba esisodwa empilweni yomuntu sesiphelile, esinye siqala njalo, lapho imihlangano ethandekayo, imihlangano, ukuguquka okubalulekile kulungiselelwe wena.
Kwenzeka ukuthi ukungathandi ukuphila kubangelwa ibhizinisi owenza manje futhi lokho akukugcini ukwaneliseka kokuziphatha isikhathi eside kakade. Akusebenzi, ngakho indlela yokuphila ozidalile yona, ikuvimbe ekuhleleni. Uthukuthele ngakho uhlala, awuboni igebe. Kodwa inkinga ixazululwa kalula. Yebo, kungase kudingekile ukuthi uhlukanise ngemali etholakalayo emsebenzini ongathandeki, ngendlela ejwayelekile yokuphila, okuye kwaholela ekubeni ungathandi ukuhlala. Kodwa uzobe wenza okuthile okukuthandayo, ngisho noma kuyinto elula kakhulu emhlabeni, kodwa uyayithanda kakhulu. Ungabi namahloni ngokwenza okuthile okushoyo kanye nomsebenzi oyinhloko empilweni yakho.