Okokuqala, kufanele ufune imvume yomuntu ukuba abe khona lapho ebeletha. Ngiyaqaphela ngesikhathi esisodwa, kunabantu abambalwa kakhulu abafisa ukuba khona lapho bebeletha futhi ngokujabulisayo babika lokhu kumlingani wabo. Ngokuyinhloko, zimbozwa ngokuthuthumela okubandayo, ziphaphatheke phambi kwamehlo abo, zigwinye amathe futhi zilungele, njengokungathi zenzelwe ukubulawa. Futhi akubanga ukuthi abathandi wena noma abafuni ukukusiza, kodwa ngoba nje besaba. Yebo, yebo, amadoda anjalo anesibindi futhi anesibindi abesaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa ukwazi, ukukhathazeka, ukwenza into engalungile. Kulokhu, awudingi ukubeka ingcindezi kuye ngokuziphatha nokubeka ama-ultimatums, ngoba singabesifazane ukuba senze ngokuthobeka nangokuhlakanipha.
Kumuntu olungele ukuziphatha ngokulungele ukuzalwa, ngisho kusukela ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa, qala ukwethula ubaba ozayo ekuzalweni kwengane. Yilapho izifundo zomama nabomama esikhathini esizayo zingasiza kakhulu, umbhangqwana wabo kancane kancane ngomsebenzi ngamunye ukulungiselela ukubeletha ngokuhlanganyela, futhi kuyoba imvelo ukuba indoda ibelethe kanye nawe. Sitshele ukuthi ukuguqulwa kwama-crumb ngesonto ngalinye, ukuthi uyayithanda kanjani uma ensimbi isisu sakho, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuthi ube khona ngalesosikhathi esiseduzane. Chaza ukuthi ukwesaba konke, futhi nendoda enamandla, ngeke usabe ukuthi uzokwazi ukulawula izenzo zodokotela. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngesinye isigaba umyeni wakho uzongena bese evuma.
Emva kwalokhu kudingekile ukuqala inqubo yokulungiselela ukubeletha ngokuhlanganyela. Okokuqala, tshela udokotela wakho futhi ukhombise lokhu ekhadini lokushintshanisa. Okwamanje, akekho udokotela ozosimangazelela isifiso sakho sokubeletha ndawonye, futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, odokotela abaningi bayakwamukela kakhulu ukuba khona komuntu lapho ebeletha, ngoba kulokhu, ingxenye yezingonyama zomsebenzi yenziwa nguye. Phela, kungumyeni wakho oyokusiza ekusizeni, shayela udokotela, uma kunesidingo, ukuqapha isimo sakho jikelele. Ithimba lezidakamizwa, elinamanje eliphephile, liza kuphela ukuhlolwa futhi selivele lithole ngqo ukuthola ingane.
Emva kwazo zonke izenzakalo ezisemthethweni ziphethwe, udinga ukubhalisa izifundo zokuqeqesha zokuzalwa ngokuhlanganyela futhi uzame ukuvakashela njalo. Lokhu kudingekile ukuze umyeni wakho angakunikezi ngezindlela ezingokwengqondo kuphela, kodwa nangokwenyama. Noma kunjalo, ngithi kusuka ekuhlangenwe nakho kwami nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabangane, ngokuyinhloko, enkambisweni yokulethwa indoda ilahlekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ilungele kanjani. Kodwa usakwazi ukusiza: ukwenza massage, amanzi ngamanzi, ubambe ishazi, usize ukuya esikhwameni sokubeletha, njll. Futhi ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo yendoda ngesikhathi sokulwa futhi kubaluleke kakhulu. Udokotela kanye nezidakamizwa bazokuvakashela kuphela njengoba kudingeka, futhi isikhathi esiningi sizobe uyithandayo, futhi ungikholelwe, amazwi akhe asekelayo azoba okubaluleke kakhulu futhi okubaluleke kakhulu. Eqinisweni, ngisho nokuhamba phambili emhlabeni wonke abasebenzi ngeke banikeze lo mfudumalo futhi bathande, lowo muntu owugubungele wona.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuba khona kwendoda lapho owesifazane enikezwa isigaba se-cearean, ngoba kulokhu ukuxhumana okuqala kwesikhumba esikhumbeni akukhona kunina nomntwana, kodwa kubaba. Nguye ozobekwa esifubeni umntwana, ukuze amfudumise ngomfudumalo wakhe futhi akhulume naye esezijwayele kuye ngezwi. Lokhu okuthintana nakho kuyigugu kuphase nomntwana ... futhi nakanjani umama omncane ozovula amehlo akhe ngokushesha abone abantu ababili abasondelene kakhulu nabathandwa kakhulu.