Ngokuvamile, maduzane kukhona ukuhlukanisa. Imizwa yabantu idlula ngaphandle kokulandelela futhi ayisafuni ukuhlala ndawonye. Yebo, uma abashadile bengavumelani futhi bengavumeli inqubo yesehlukaniso ibe ukuhlukunyezwa okukhulu. Yiqiniso, isehlukaniso, lokhu kungukucindezeleka kunoma yimuphi owesifazane. Uthola ukucindezeleka, okuhlala isikhathi eside kakhulu.
Ukuphila isahlukaniso kungakwazi noma yimuphi owesifazane. Futhi sizokubonisa ukuthi kanjani.
1. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokusindiswa ngesehlukaniso, ngeke isithinte isimo futhi uqhubeke uphila futhi. Phela, impilo yomndeni ayikushiyanga isikhathi sokuya emidlalo yokuzilibazisa, izinto ozithandayo. Yenza ngcono isimo sakho samanje bese uqala ukucabanga ukuthi manje unamathuba amaningi kunanini ngaphambili. Qala impilo ozimele futhi wenze lokho okukude okukuphuphile. Kufanele wenze konke okusemandleni ukuze uziphazamise.
2. Uma unesizungu kakhulu, futhi ucabanga njalo ngempilo yakho yomndeni, qala ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nabangani bakho. Noma ungathola abangane abasha ongaziphazamisa emicabangweni yakho. Phuma ukuze uhambe, uya ezitolo, uthenge izinto ezintsha futhi ungazihawukeli. Phela, awuzange ube nalokhu isikhathi eside. Funda ukwazisa futhi uzithande.
3. Ungalokothi uhlale wedwa ekhaya. Kufanele ube nokuphila okusebenzayo, okusebenzayo. Ungavumeli umuzwa wokuhawukela uthathe phezu kwakho.
4. Thola isilwane. Ngakho-ke, unganikeza ukunakekelwa kwakho sonke isilwane sakho esithandekayo. Futhi uzokwazi ukuthi awodwa, futhi othile ulindele ekhaya.
5. Zama ukuqeda ngokuphelele umsebenzi.
6. Qonda izizathu zokuthi ubuhlobo bakho buphelile nokuthi ungashintsha kanjani indlela oziphatha ngayo ekuphileni kwakho kamuva.
7. Yenza imicabango yakho ibe nekusasa elimangalisayo. Uma uqala ukuqaphela imicabango embi, ngokushesha uqale ukuphupha ngekusasa elimangalisayo. Uma usubeka kakhulu, amathuba okuba uyothola ukuthi konke kuzoba njalo.
8. Vumela umuntu wakho othandekayo aqonde ukuthi ikusasa lakho lithembele kuwe kuphela, kodwa hhayi kumuntu.
Shintsha impilo yakho ibe ngcono futhi ujabule futhi. Sithemba abesifazane abathandekayo, ukuthi sikusizile okungenani kancane, sasiza ekubhekaneni nale nkinga, indlela yokusinda isahlukaniso sakho.