Abesifazane kaningi abaqondi, noma kunalokho, abafuni ukuqonda lokho kumuntu oqeqeshiwe, umnikazi wesondlo emndenini, onobukeli obunjalo kuzo zonke izici, iqiniso lokulahlekelwa umsebenzi libi nakakhulu kunalokho abakucabangayo. Izazi zengqondo zithi lokhu kuyabuhlungu kakhulu esimweni sengqondo samadoda kunabesifazane. Ngempela, ukuzihlonipha kwamadoda kuhlobene ngokuqondile nesimo sezenhlalakahle nokuthi kwenzeka kanjani "ebhizinisini."
Kumuntu, ukungahlali emsebenzini akusho nje ukulahlekelwa yimali engenayo kuphela, kodwa futhi nesenzakalo saso sonke isikhathi sokuziqhenya. Futhi uma kungekho sizathu sokuziqhenya - khona-ke kukhona ithuba lokuyinkimbinkimbi. Le ndoda iqala ukuzizwa ihlazo nokukhathazeka kubangane, izihlobo ngisho nakwabasebenza nabo ngaphambili. Ngisho nomuntu onamandla kunale mzuzu ufuna ukulala emqulwini, ungacabangi nganoma yini, ungaboni muntu, ungahlanganyeli kunoma yini. Yilapho owesifazane onothando nokuqonda kufanele aphazamise, okungeke kumvumele umyeni wakhe athole unstuck. Ukulila ngokuthi "umyeni ulahlekelwe umsebenzi wakhe" awunalutho, futhi isilifa nokwenza lutho kungumlinganiso wesikhashana nje. Yebo, indoda idinga ukuphumula emva kokucindezeleka, kodwa noma kunjalo, ungamvumeli ukuba abe liholide elingenamkhawulo.
Into ebalulekile ebalulekile owesifazane ukusekela indoda yakhe. Mtshele ukuthi akayedwa, ukuthi uhaqwe ngumndeni wakhe, umkakhe, ozokwazi ukusekela, ukulalela, ukusiza. Ungamsoli - akayena mnandi kakhulu, futhi icala lomuntu othandekayo ngeke lilungise isimo. Esikhundleni salokho, zizoqinisa ukucindezeleka kwakhe. Nakuba, nokuhlukumeza isihawu nakho akufanelekile. Ungalokothi unqume indoda enhlokweni, uqinisekise ukuthi konke kuyoba kuhle. Khumbula, kukhona indoda phambi kwakho, hhayi ingane encane. Akukho "okuhle" ngaphandle kokuthi uthathe isinyathelo ngalokhu, ngaphandle uma uzama ukulungisa lesi simo. Akukho okuzoshintsha izinguquko zenduduzo efana nokuthi "awufuni ukukhuluma ngakho"? Udinga ingxoxo yebhizinisi, futhi usize ukhonkolo.
Owesifazane onothando ngempela uhlale elalela, anikeze iseluleko, ahlukanise isimo. Owesifazane uyakwazi ukwenza lokhu, ngisho noma engayiqondi ngokugcwele umgomo womsebenzi womyeni wakhe. Ukuze wenze lokhu, akudingekile ukuhlukanisa ukucabangela komhlangano wekhompyutha noma ukuhwebelana kwebhizinisi ukubuza: "Uzoqhubeka kanjani? Ufuna umsebenzi omusha? Ngingakusiza. " Ngakho-ke, ungenzani ukusiza? Hlela izinsiza ze-Inthanethi ezitholakalayo zomsebenzi, lungiselela futhi uthumele ukuqhubeka, hlaziya izimpendulo ezitholiwe. Futhi ungagxili kakhulu ekutheni uyasiza. Azikho izikhalazo ezifana nokuthi "ulahlekelwe umsebenzi wakho, futhi ngifuna isisombululo" ... Futhi, kuzodingeka ucabange ukuthi ungakugwema kanjani ukulimaza ukungasebenzi komuntu. Ngemuva kwalokho, izimpendulo zokubuyela kabusha azifiki ngokushesha. Isibonelo, qala umsebenzi othile wokulungisa e-dacha. Yenza lokho okuye kwaqoqwa isikhathi eside, kepha kuhlehlisiwe njalo. Futhi udumise umyeni wakho ukuthi waziphilisa kahle umsebenzi.
Ngalesi sikhathi emahlombe owesifazane ukuthi umthwalo owengeziwe uphathwa - lokhu akukhathazi nje kuphela usizo ekufuneni umsebenzi omusha. Ngesikhathi esithile ungaba umthombo kuphela wemali yomndeni. Into eyinhloko okufanele uyikhumbule: akunzima kuwe kuphela, kodwa kumyeni wakho. Ungashintsha imisebenzi eminye yasendlini ngalesi sikhathi kuya kulowo ochitha isikhathi esiningi ekhaya. Kodwa lokhu kufanele kwenziwe ngendlela eqondile. Emva kwakho konke, uzovuma ukuthi inkulumo ethi "Manje ngiyitholile eyodwa, ngakho-ke ugeza izitsha" futhi "darling, ngikhathele manje, ungangena esitolo namhlanje" - zihluke kakhulu komunye nomunye? Ungabi namanyala kumyeni wakho - ngeke kuholele kunoma yini enhle.
Ungavumeli umyeni wakho azizwe ezwela njalo futhi aphile: impilo igcwele konke okuthakazelisayo nokuthakazelisayo. Phula indlela engokwenyama bese uqala ukuphuma kaningi endaweni ethile: ukuya ku-cinema, kumbukiso, ukuvakashela nje - ukuthi ubani othanda kakhulu. Hlanganisa ndawonye izinto zokuzilibazisa, uhlanganyele emdlalweni omusha - lokhu kungcono ukukhululeka kokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka. Qhubeka wenze okuthile ndawonye. Nika umyeni wakho ukuthi aqonde ukuthi impilo ayiphelile, igcwele izinto ezimangalisayo, hhayi nje ukudumazeka kanye nezinqumo ezingalungile. Bonisa umyeni wakho ukuthi naphezu kobunzima besikhashana, usengumuntu wakho oyinhloko kanye nenhloko yomndeni. Lo muntu akayikhohlwa, uyohlale ewazisa. Uzokwenza konke ukugcina umndeni onothando nonakekelayo, uqinisekise ukuchuma kwawo. Uzophumula ebhodini ukuze aphinde abuyele esikhundleni sakhe, futhi inhlekelele ebizwa ngokuthi "umyeni ulahlekelwe umsebenzi" izophela ngokuphepha nonke.