Umama, ubaba nezingane ezimbili ezinhle kakhulu. Ukuthula nothando kubusa endlini ... Kungenzeka yini ukufeza
umklamo onjalo womndeni ophelele?
Ekugcineni, wanquma ukubeletha ingane yesibili - umqondo omkhulu! Kodwa, yiqiniso, ungathembeki ku-idyll ephelele.
Ukuze singadangali, ake sikulungele ezinye izinkinga ngaphambili. Ngeke sikhulume ngezinto eziphathekayo nezinto zansuku zonke, zivame ukucatshangelwa kuqala kokunye: ukuthi yini okumele zondliwe, lapho zizohlala khona, lapho zithola khona isikhathi sokukhulisa izingane ezimbili nezindlu zasekhaya ... Noma kunjalo, kukhona okunye, akucaci, kodwa akukho okubalulekile inkinga isimo sengqondo somntwana omdala. Ake ucabange lesi simo: wayehlala ngokuthula, ehlonishwa yibo bonke abantu, ehlukile futhi engafinyeleleki, futhi nasi "isipho" sakho! Uyakhala, akaniki ubuthongo, wonke umuntu ohamba naye, abakuboni, futhi bayathanda ukumphoqelela! Futhi bathembisa ukuthi Ungadlala naye, kahle ukuthi ubani ozodlala naye lapha? Futhi uma ephenduka umuntu ojwayelekile!? Bafunga futhi, bathi ngiyingozi.Ah, akekho ongithandayo, akekho owaziyo ... imicabango nemizwa kanye nomuntu omdala ngaphambi kokucindezeleka kungaletha, ngakho-ke yini umuntu omncane?
Ungaba kanjani? Ungalali ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuze ungalimazi ingane yakho? Ngokuvamile, lokhu akuyona inketho. Ake sizame ukuvimbela wonke ama-angles abukhali kusengaphambili.
Akudingeki ulinde inyanga lesishiyagalolunye (noma, ngokubi nakakhulu, ukuzalwa usana) ukuze "ujabulise" ingane endala. "Umuntu oneminyaka emibili, eyisikhombisa, namashumi amabili nesikhombisa (khumbula ukuthi umyeni wakho wasabela kanjani ezindabeni zokukhulelwa kwakho) kuthatha isikhathi ukuqaphela nokwamukela leli qiniso.Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukuqala ukulungiselela umntwana umqondo wokugcwalisa umndeni kusengaphambili - ngakho umbuzo wesisu okhulayo uzonyamalalala ngokwawo.
Xoxa!
Akuzona zonke izingane ezijabule ngalomlayezo, ngakho-ke ngezwi, futhi ngandlela-thile, kuvusa ukuthambekela kwengane. Ake sihlasele isisu sakho, sizwe ukuthuthumela (bheka, ingane ikuthumela imikhonzo!), Funda ndawonye "isisu" sezinganekwane, ukucula izingoma, njll Yebo, ungakhohlwa ukuhlanganyela nomdala futhi "ngaphandle kokubamba iqhaza" komncane, ngaphandle kokumbandakanya qaphela. Ngokuvamile ingane ifuna, noma, noma okungenani ivumelana kuphela nodade (noma umzalwane kuphela) futhi akafuni ngisho nokuvuma ngomntwana wobulili obuhlukile! Kulokhu, ungazama izinketho ezimbili zengxoxo.
Inombolo yokukhetha 1 . "Sasingazi ukuthi ubani ozozalwa, kodwa uvele. Ubaba wami futhi ngiyakuthanda kakhulu, kodwa uma ngabe uyintombazane, ngabe ngabe asikuthandi kakhulu. "
Mhlawumbe ngempela uhlele ingane yobulili obuhlukile, unganqikazi ukutshela ingane ngalokhu. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi ugcizelela ukuthi uyamthanda ngendlela ayenayo!
Inombolo yokukhetha 2 . "Unentombi, Masha. Uyamthanda? Uthanda ukudlala nayo. Futhi lo dade uzoke abe njalo, akunjalo? "
Uma ungazihlukanisi nakancane nengane yakho kusukela ekuzalweni, khona-ke ukubuka komama okuguqukayo komunye ingane kungaba yinto eshaqisayo yangempela.
Lokhu kungagwenywa kanjani?
1. Esikhathini eside ngaphambi kokufika kwengane yesibili, kancane kancane ujwayele ukuxhumana nomunye umuntu ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela kwakho.
2. Uma uhlela ukunikeza umdala enkulisa, yenza okungenani amasonto ambalwa, futhi mhlawumbe izinyanga ngaphambi kokuzalwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane ayihlanganisi ukunciphisa isikhathi esichitha nomama ngokuzalwa komncane! Isidingo sokuvakashela inkulisa, angaqonda, njengesifiso sokususa! Ngakho mnike isikhathi sokujwayela, thanda iqembu.
3. Uma ingane ekhulile ijwayele ukulala eduze kwakho, futhi manje uyomyisa ekamelweni elithile, uhlele "ukuhamba" kusengaphambili, ngoba kuzodingeka akhiphe indawo eduze kwabazali bakhe abathandekayo "kumfokazi"! Gcizelela ukuthi manje umdala uzoba negumbi lakhe. Vumela ukubamba iqhaza ekulungiseni, cabanga ngezifiso zalo ekukhethweni kwefenisha, odongeni-iphepha.
Uma kwenzeka usephuzile ngokushintsha kwamakamelo futhi ingane isivele ivele, ungafaka okwesikhashana ubaba nomntwana omdala. Khona-ke kuqala ujwayele ukushintsha isimo, futhi emva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa uzofunda ukulala yedwa. Ukunciphisa nokungaguquki kule ndaba ngokusobala ngeke kulimale.
Kukhona indlela yokuphuma.
Uma encane isivele ibonakale, inkinga entsha ivame ukuvela: ukusetshenziswa kwempahla yomuntu omdala (isikhala, ukulala, amathoyizi, izincwadi, njll). Vumelana, kungesibuko ukuthenga ingubo entsha ye-crumb, uma omdala kunabo bonke ekhulile ngokucacile. Futhi kungani ingane eneminyaka emine idonsa? Kodwa ngesinye isizathu, umyalezo ozokwabelana nomncane kunazo zonke, ubangela isiphepho semizwelo nokukhala. Abanye abazali abakunaki ("Will perebesitsya!"). Okunye, ngokuphambene, ukuze bangamcasuli ingane, bathenga konke okusha ("Izingane kufanele zibe nezinto zazo, azikwazi ukuthathwa!"). Ngokuvamile, abazali banesibopho sokucabangela izifiso zomntwana. Kodwa kuphela lapha udoti indlu, futhi, ngandlela-thile ayifuni. Futhi, ngokusobala, akusona eshibhile nhlobo ... Ngakho futhi sibonisa ubuqili nobuhlakani. Siza nezinketho eziningana ukuze singaphindi.
Inombolo yokukhetha 1 . Ngezinye izikhathi ungasho ukuthi: "Usuvele ukhulu, maduzane uzoba njengobaba!" Kodwa khumbula ukuthi ukuzizwa ngokuziqhenya akuwuni ngaso sonke isikhathi isifiso sokuba mncane futhi othandekayo kakhulu.
Inombolo yokukhetha 2 . Masidlale namadayimani amadala, asele afihliwe. Kholwa, isithakazelo masinyane kubo ngeke siphelile. Futhi-ke sinikeza ukunikeza lokhu okuhle kumncane. Ngomusa kuphela, okungahambi kahle, ukuthi isinyathelo sivela, njengokungathi sivela kuye. Ngeke sikhohlwe, bese sitshela (ingane) upapa noma ugogo, yiyiphi indodana enhle, hhayi inkohliso (noma indodakazi), futhi yimuphi umqondo omuhle wokwenza isipho esinjalo siphume!
Inombolo ye-Option 3 . Sithenga amabhuku amabili amasha noma amathoyizi wengane endala. Kodwa "sihlukanisa ngokulinganayo" - ngayinye ngayinye, bese sinikeza ukushintshaniswa egameni lomncane.Akazange afunde ibhuku elidala lekhadibhodi mayelana neBolobok, ngakho lingashintsha. Ngenxa yalokho, uthenge umdala lokho okwakusesekuqoqile, futhi wanikeza ubuhlungu into eyakhe.
Kancane kancane abaphathi bazofunda ukwabelana, bazojwayele ukwabelana ngothando nokunakekelwa kwabazali ngenye indoda encane, futhi maduzane uzothandana ne-crumb. Into eyinhloko ukuthi umama nobaba abadingi lokhu, kodwa ngobumnene basisize ukuvusa uthando nothando. Futhi-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuvimbela umhawu wabantwana, ngoba kuyimbangela enkulu yezingxabano eziningi. Le nkinga ngezinga elithile iphakama phambi kwabo bonke abazali. Futhi kubonakala ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Ingane ekhulile ingaba nobudlova, isheshe ithukuthele, noma kungenzeka, ngokuphambene nalokho, ihoxiswe kuye. Akudingekile ukuba nethemba lokuthi ngesikhathi esifanele bonke bayodlula ngokwabo. Intukuthelo umuzwa owonakalisayo ongabangela ukwesaba okuhlukahlukene nezinkimbinkimbi.
Ngokuvamile, umama kudingeka ahlaziye ngokucophelela ukuziphatha kwakhe, bese eqonda ukuthi yini ephazamiseka ngempela ebuhlotsheni bakhe nezingane futhi uzokwazi ukuletha ukuthula nokuthula emndenini.
Ake sinikeze izibonelo ezithile.
Inombolo yokukhetha 1 . Umama wasebenzisa izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye egqoke ingubo engaphansi kwenhliziyo yakhe, manje udla umntwana wakhe, akahlanganyeli naye noma ilanga noma ubusuku. Kungokwemvelo ukuthi uzizwa eyedwa naye. Kodwa uma wenza lokhu, uziphikisa kumuntu omdala (thina nawe). Esimweni esihle kakhulu, upapa ungena "ekamu" ngokumelene nonina, ekugcineni umdala uhlala eyedwa ngokumelene nalaba abathathu.
Inombolo yokukhetha 2 . Umama usho ngokungahloniphi ukuthi omdala angabangela ukulimala, ngakho-ke akukuvumeli ngisho ukuba usondele futhi hhayi ukuthi uthinte ukuthini. Ukuxhumana kuqukethe izinkombandlela neziqondiso: "Ungaze! Ungakhulumi ngokuzwakalayo! Iya kwelinye igumbi! ", Njll.
Inombolo ye-Option 3 . Kukhona inkulumo eyisiphukuphuku: "Okokuqala u-nanny, khona-ke u-lilk." Kodwa okuyinhloko yenkinga kulesi saga kuboniswa ngokunembile, kaningi omama bashintsha eminye yemisebenzi yabo kumntwana omdala, okuthi ngandlela-thile uba "esekhulile kakade." Ngiyaxolisa, kodwa ingabe ubelethe? Yiqiniso, umama udinga usizo. Kuphela lapha ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo nemisebenzi yasekhaya kungcono ukwenza ndawonye, hhayi esikhundleni somama.
Othandekayo omama, zibuke wena ohlangothini. Uma ubona amaphutha akho, uzothola indlela yokuzilungisa. Phela, akekho owazi izingane zakho zibe ngcono kunakho. Mane nje nithande abancane benu, banakekele ngokwanele, futhi ndawonye, futhi ngamunye ngamunye ngokuhlukile. Khona-ke umndeni wakho uyoba namandla futhi ube nobungane.