Omama abaningi abakuzayo bayaqiniseka ukuthi isikhathi esiyinkimbinkimbi siphelela ekuzalweni, bese kuphela izinjabulo zobumama zilindele. Kodwa eqinisweni, umama omncane angase abhekane nokulangazelela, azizwe engakwazi futhi ngisho nokuphikisa ingane yakhe. Sizokuthola ukuthi yini ukucindezeleka kwengqondo ngemuva kokubeletha, nokuthi singanciphisa kanjani umthelela wayo empilweni yomama.
NgesiNgisi, ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kuzwakalisa izinkondlo, futhi ngezinye izindlela ngisho nokuthandana - Blues baby. Kodwa akukho okuthandanayo esimweni esicindezelekile somama ngemva kokubeletha. Ukuchaza lesi simo silula. Uma umama osemncane ekhala ngaphandle kwesizathu, angakhathazeki, esheshayo ukhathele, akafuni ukuxhumana nomntanakhe futhi ngenxa yalokhu njalo uzibeka icala ngokuba ngumama omubi, leli gama lisebenza ngempela kulo. Ngokwezifundo zaseYurophu, omama abangaba ngu-80% bangena kule nkinga izinsuku eziningana emva kokuzalwa kwengane. Ku-10% wabesifazane, okuthiwa i-Baby blues ingaba yindlela yokwelapha yokucindezeleka kwengqondo ngemuva kokubeletha ngisho nasengqondweni.
Ukunyuka okungakaze kwenzeke kwezingane ezibonakalayo ekubonakalisweni kwayo okukhulu kakhulu kwenzeka eminyakeni yama-50 ekhulwini lokugcina. Ngo-1953, amacala okuhlukumeza omama nezingane ezisanda kuzalwa, ezithinta umphakathi jikelele, zenziwa umphakathi e-United States. Iyini isizathu salokhu? Ngokwezifundo zakamuva, abesifazane besimanje baye banciphisa izinga lokubambisana kwe-hormone oxytocin, elidala futhi liqondise inqubo yokuzalwa, futhi libhekene nokwakheka kwesimo semvelo, lapho owesifazane ekubizweni kwenhliziyo egxila ekunakekeleni ingane. Esinye isizathu wukuthi amacala amaningi okuhlinzekwa kwesifo sofuba ajwayelekile. Abaningi besifazane, ngenxa yomsebenzi wokubeletha, bahlakulele uthando lomama, okudingeka kakhulu ekuqaliseni ukuxhumana phakathi komama nengane. Endabeni yesigaba sokudla, owesifazane akabonakali ukuzala, abanye bakwenzela yona. Lowo msebenzi ohlangene, owenziwe ngumntwana kanye nonina futhi okuyiyona yokuqala ukuxhumana phakathi kwabo, akakho. Ngokuvamile owesifazane ngokomqondo kufanele afunde ukuthanda ingane yakhe. Lokhu kungathatha izinyanga, noma ngisho neminyaka.
Odokotela bathi imbangela enkulu yokucindezeleka emva kokubeletha yizinguquko ezingenakugwemeka ezomzimba emzimbeni wesifazane. Kwaphela izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye, owesifazane wazala umntwana ngaphansi kwenhliziyo yakhe. Umzimba wakhe kancane kancane wafanelana nokuphila kabili, futhi ngokuzumayo emva kokuzalwa kukhona elinye perestroika! Ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, umama futhi kufanele ahlangane nokuphila "okuzimele". Okokuqala, izinga lomthamo wegazi lomama nomthamo wegazi liyancipha, futhi umfutho wegazi wehla. Okwesibili, ukukhiqizwa kwamahomoni e-thyroid kunciphise kakhulu. Okwesithathu, izinga le-progesterone ne-estrogen lehla ngokushesha ngemuva kokuzalwa, okuyinto imbangela yokucindezeleka kwesifazane. Ukuthonya isimo manje umama osemncane akakwazi ukukwenza - zonke lezi zinguquko zendalo. Umuntu ozozinza umbuso uthatha izinyanga ezimbalwa, omunye-amasonto ambalwa. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lesi yisimo sesikhashana esibangelwa izimbangela zomzimba. Futhi uzilalele ize!
Cishe wonke umuntu uyazi ngokuzalwa kwezingane. Inombolo enkulu yezincwadi, omagazini kanye namawebhusayithi akhuluma ngokubeletha. Abesifazane abaningi abakhulelwe bakha inhloko ethile enhle, ngokusho ukuthi kuzolethwa nini. Kodwa ukuphila ngezinye izikhathi kuyamangalisa. Ummoya womphumela omuhle ngokuqinisekile ubaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, abesifazane abaningi abafuni ukwamukela omunye umphumela wemicimbi. Futhi uma kukhona okungahambi kahle - iziphazamiso ezibuhlungu, ukwehluleka kokuzalwa, isigaba sokudla - isilungiselelo esihle siwa phansi phambi kwamehlo ethu. Ngemuva kokuzalwa okunzima, owesifazane kuqala uqala ukuzitshela ukuthi akazange aphumelele, esikhundleni sokusiza ingane yakhe ukuba ihlale kuleli zwe, isalutho kuye.
Ukuphila emva kokubeletha komntwana kungenye indaba ye-pink fantasies. Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, abesifazane abaningi bakha imibono ngekusasa lokuphila komndeni. Yeka ukuthi ingelosi encane izomomotheka kanjani, ikwazi ukuhlala kahle ekhanda lakhe. Kodwa-ke, empeleni, ingelosi ngenxa ye-colic ehlala njalo ingase ifane no-devil, igxile kuphela ezandleni zakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhala ngokufutheka, uma ungekho. Ekulungiseni ukulungiswa kwemvelo, ukungenakwenzeka kokuhlanganisa okufunwa yiyo yangempela nakho kukhonjisiwe. Futhi uma esimweni esivamile, iningi lethu liyakwazi ukubhekana nemizwelo yabo, kanti uma kwenzeka ucindezeleke kabili, owesifazane angacindezeleka kakhulu.
Uma uthintana nodokotela, isinyathelo sokuqala ukuhlolwa kwegazi. Kudingekile ukuze ungabandakanyi isici sokungasebenzi okwanele kwegciwane le-thyroid. Emva kwalokhu, owesifazane uzothunyelwa ukwelulekwa kwesazi sengqondo, ongase abeke imithi noma izifundo zeqembu le-psychotherapy. Ngokusho odokotela, esimweni sokucindezeleka kwengqondo ngemva kokubeletha, lokhu kuphumelela kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi ingxenye yengonyama yokuphumelela kokulwa nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha incike kulowo wesifazane uqobo. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle nawe, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu kuyinto yesikhashana, bese uzama ukuzwakalisa futhi. Uma uqonda kahle isimo, ungazama ukubhekana nokucindezeleka ngokwakho.
Ukuze ugweme ukucindezeleka, zama ukuthola izindlela zokuziphilisa okusheshayo okufanele wena ngesikhathi ukhulelwe. Kungaba imizuzu engu-15 yokulala kwansuku zonke, ukuzindla, isethi yokuzivocavoca okukhethekile, i-aromatherapy noma imithi yokwelapha. Kubalulekile ukuthi ngaphambi kokuba uvele empilweni yomntanakho uye wazi kahle ekupheleleni. Yamukela isimo sakho njengeqiniso. Okuhlangenwe nakho akusihle noma kubi - kuyinto engokoqobo. Ukucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha kuyimvelo yemvelo, nakuba kungabonakali nhlobo, futhi kuyodlula.
Ungafuni ukubuyela empilweni yakho yakudala ngemuva kokuzalwa. Zama okungenani isikhathi sokuzinikela ngokuphelele kumntwana. Uma usungula uxhumano oluqinile nosana olusanda kuzalwa ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila kwakhe, maduzane uzoqala ukuthola "isabelo" esiqinile: umntwana othulile, ukuxhumana okuzokunika imizuzu eminingi ejabulisayo. Thola futhi umbuthano wokuxhumana omusha. Abangani bakho abangenamntwana bangakwazi
ungaqondi izinkinga zakho, futhi umyeni wakho othandekayo akakwazi njalo ukufaka isikhundla sakho. Indlela engcono kakhulu omama abancane abhekana nezinkinga ezifanayo njengawe. Ngisho noma ungakwazi ukuthola iseluleko kubo, uzokwazi ukuthi awodwa.
Zama ukudla kahle. Faka izithelo nemifino eningi ekudleni. Akufanele ngokushesha ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane ukuhlala ukudla okunzima. Lokhu uzilimaza wena kuphela. Qiniseka ukuthi ucabanga ngokuphumula kwakho. Zama ukuthola isikhathi sokugeza ukuze uphinde uhambe endaweni ethile ngaphandle kwengane. Uma lokhu kungenakwenzeka, hamba nomntwana lapho ufuna ukuya khona. Isibonelo, ku-cafe noma esitolo.
Ngendlela, le nkinga ayiyona entsha. Okhokho bethu nabo babhekene nakho futhi bathola izindlela zabo zokusiza. Ngemva kokubeletha, umama osemncane wayezungezwe ukunakekelwa nokusekelwa kwezihlobo eziseduze zowesifazane. Ngokusho kwamasiko aseRussia aseMandulo, eduze kwalowo wesifazane owayesanda kubeletha, umbelethisi wayenamaviki amaningana. Wamsiza ngemisebenzi yasendlini, wangifundisa indlela yokunakekela ingane. Futhi imisebenzi eyinhloko yomama osemncane yaba ukubeletha nokukhulumisana ngokomzwelo nengane. Ngalesi sikhathi lo wesifazane wayejwayele isimo esisha. Manje umkhuba wokungena indima entsha ulinganiselwe ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ekhaya lokubeletha. Khona-ke lona wesifazane ubuyela "ezweni elikhulu" futhi uzama ukubuyisana nendlela yakhe yokuphila yangaphambili ngemithwalo emisha. Ngezizathu ezisobala, akusihle konke ukuhlanganisa omunye nomunye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye omama bakholelwa ukuthi yibo kuphela abanomthwalo wengane. Laba besifazane bahlanganiswa nokukhathazeka kwansuku zonke emkhakheni wamandla abo engokwengqondo nangokwengqondo. Ngokuvamile imiphumela yezinyathelo ezinjalo zomsebenzi ukunciphisa ukuzethemba, ukubonakala kwemizwa yokungabi namandla. Uma phakathi nalesi sikhathi ukumsusa ukwesekwa, inkinga yokucindezeleka ingathinta owesifazane ngokugcwele.
Uma ukuqala kokuphila kwakho kanye nezingane kungaphumelelanga, uhlanganise wonke amandla akho futhi "unciphise ibanga" phakathi kwakho nomntwana. Cabanga ngomntwana. Yena, eqinisweni, wabhekana nokucindezeleka kokuzalwa futhi wadluliswa nawe kulo lonke lobu buhlungu. Futhi nguwe kuphela onganciphisa okokuqala kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kusukela ekubelethweni. Ingane, kunanini ngaphambili, idinga usizo lwakho nokusekelwa. Ukuzivocavoca nokusikhipha, okwenziwa ngezandla zakho, iningi likuletha eduze komntwana. Yilokhu okusho ukuthi izingane zakuleli e-UK zithola isimo esicindezelekile sabamama abasanda kuzalwa. Ungakhohlwa ukuphumula nomntanakho emini. Kuyehlisa kakhulu iqiniso lokuthi uma ingane ilala imizuzu engu-15-20 ezandleni zakho. Kungcono, uma ngesikhathi esisodwa uzoxhumana nomntwana "ngesikhumba esikhumba". Lokhu kuzosiza ekwakheni ukuthandana kwakho.
Qala idayari yomama osemusha, bhala phansi yonke impumelelo yengane, ukubonakala kwakho nemizwa yakho ngaye. Kuzoba usizo kuwe ngezinye izikhathi ukulifunda kabusha, uthola izikhathi ezimnandi ezintsha. Yiya kwi-diary ne-albhamu yesithombe, ulungise izikhathi ezibucayi nezithintekayo zokuphila komndeni wakho. Lokhu kuzokusiza ugxile kakhulu ezintweni ezijabulisayo.
Xhuma ezindabeni zomndeni papa. Woza ngamasiko omndeni namasiko. Ngaphezu kwalokho, emehlweni omthandayo uzothola umlaleli onomusa, ngubani ozokwazi ukutshela nje ngemizwa yakho, kodwa futhi nokuthi yini ingane yakho emangalisayo futhi enekhono.
Futhi khumbula ukuthi ngisho nangesana ezandleni zakho ungenza impilo ekhuthele kakhulu, uthuthukise i-monotony yokuphila kwansuku zonke ngokubonakala okusha. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukuzitholela izingubo ezikhululekile, isikhwama sekhono kanye nezindlela zokuthwala umntwana, isibonelo, ukubethela. Ngikholelwa ukuthi lezi zeluleko zivivinywa ngokuphila futhi zizosiza omama, abesilisa kanye nengane ukuba babhekane nokucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha.