Abadlali bekati negundane
Khumbula, futhi "i-Autumn Marathon" umhumushi okhulumayo ucela osebenza naye onethalente futhi onokholo ukuba amsize ngokuhumusha? Futhi ulawulwa ngesihluku ngumuntu othile ongenakuzisiza - noma kunalokho, ubhala kabusha konke okusha. Yena nokuphila kwakhe akanayo isikhathi esanele, kodwa usevele engenele into engalungile ngekhanda lakhe futhi engaboni ukuthi amehlo aphikisayo entabeni - umhumushi omlandelayo uba ngamehlo amabili amakhulu, aqhakazile. Umouse ugwinya - umsebenzi usuqedile. Izandla ezinamandla.
Umuntu ohlakaniphile wasekhaya
Yena, njengoba kudingwa kumuntu ohlakaniphile, ufundisa. Ngenxa yokuntuleka kwezithameli eziningi - ikhaya. Kunzima ukucabanga, ngoba iqiniso likhonkolo futhi kuleso simo esithile kufanele sidingiswe. "I-oracle yasekhaya" yikhiphe emalini yomqondo wayo onobuhle kanye nhlobo. Kuzo zonke izikhathi unesicelo esisodwa esibanzi: "Futhi ngakusho lokho! Kumelwe ngilalele!" Lokhu ukuhlukumeza kuncane kunokuba kuchaziwe ngenhla: kunikeza "umuntu ohlakaniphile" ngokuphakama kwengqondo ngaphandle komzamo kuye (futhi Yebo, ngaphandle kwesizathu esincane).
Iphiko lomunye umuntu
Ubani owayengadingeki ukukhuthazelela osebenza naye - ingane engunaphakade? Njengoba engakhulumi kahle, yena ngobuciko obumangalisayo usetshenziselwe inhlanhla, engacabangi, engaqondi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi yini abayifunayo kuye, elinde ukugqugquzela ubungane (ukunakekelwa). Ukubizela ukulangazelela okuphakade kwabantu abanomusa - ukuthatha ngaphansi kwephiko lababuthakathaka, abangaphenduliwe - lihlelwe ngaphansi kwephiko lomunye umuntu, njenge-cuckoo emgqeni we-robin: ekhululekile futhi ephelele. Akungabazeki - lokhu "isisekelo" siyosinda futhi sihlale (sihlale) bonke osebenza nabo abanethalente nabathembisayo.
Ingane emndenini
"Ngakho-ke zonke izinto zikhona kimi, kanti ngisho nomlimi uhlala phansi embhedeni usuku lonke, wawela ngaphansi kokuqhekeka, futhi kuze kube manje akukho lutho olubonisiwe," - abanye besifazane babika leli gama elinamaphiko wephethini lama-90 hhayi nje ngokuphikisana, kodwa ngozwela - ngesihawu. Kungani? Ukuthukuthela bekuyoba ngokwemvelo ngokwengeziwe. Kodwa akekho futhi angeke abe khona, ngoba i-hocus-pocus yaphumelela: "le ndoda embhedeni" yahlala kuye ngokujulile futhi isikhathi eside. Kungani ukhathazeka, hamba, ucabange ngesinkwa sansuku zonke? Umfazi uthanda ukuphuza, ukondla, ukuphazamisa, ukuzwelana. I-double-stranded - ukuthi ihamba kanjani inqola ekhaya ngobuhlakani.
Futhi nansi olunye uhlobo lwezintandokazi "zokufihla amagundane ku-cylinder":
Kanjani, awuzwanga? (Awubonanga?)
Isisebenzi, esivumelwaneni sekwephuzile isigamu sehora, sigijimela ehhovisi ngokubukeka okwethukisayo: "Hhayi, uthanda kanjani izolo?" Abantu baphakamisa amakhanda abo, induna enomsindo ikhohlwa yonke into ayehlose ukuyibeka "le ndoda engenasici." Okulandelayo yi-tele-sensation yangezolo, ne-pereprochennye kanye nemininingwane eminingi enamanzi. Wonke umuntu ujoyina engxoxweni ngesibindi, kanti owedlule uphonsa ngokuthula ngemuva kwedeski lakhe. Lapho izinkanuko ziphazamisekile, lo mhlukumezi unamathele emisebenzini yakhe okwenza ukuba akhulume kungaba yinto engacabangi kakhulu ... Ukwamukelwa kungenangqondo, kodwa kusebenza nakanjani.
Noma isimo, sijwayele ukujwayele bonke nonke:
Hhayi ngekhredithi yakho!
Simi phambi kwekhamera, sihlola ngokucophelela izibani zamatafula (amathanga, izikhwama, abahlanza igesi - hhayi okuyisisekelo), iningi lethu esingakwazi ukulikhokhela. Njengoba uthanda inala, sicela ubonise lowo olula. "Futhi mhlawumbe lo?" - futhi umthengisi osibona, ngokumomotheka kancane, uyagxuma emthunzini wesibani se-orange owenziwa eFrance. "Kungani ungibonisi?" Ngibonise! " - sibeka impendulo, sigwinya isigaxa emphinjeni futhi senze sengathi, okuzodingeka sishiye ngenxa yale nto yezilwandle ... Konke kulungile. Sathengile ebuqili obunqunu, bokubala - wathengisa into kude neyodingeka kakhulu endlini.
Leyo yinkomba evamile yendlela eyenza noma yikuphi ukuxhaphaza: umbonisi ubona futhi ngokushesha ubala ubuthakathaka bethu. Ziyizinto "izimpahla", "ukuthenga" nokuthi "ukuthengisa" okuyinto umlawuli wezinkampani azinzile empilweni.
Kungani singabonakali kakhulu kubo, kuyilapho bona "into-in-ngokwayo", "ibhokisi elimnyama"? Isixazululo sisekuthi ukuphathwa, ngokuvamile, kusemvelo. Kungani wenza umzamo ngokwakho, uma omunye umuntu ezithatha? Izingane, isibonelo, ziyi-model manipulators. Uhlobo luni lwababa aluzange lufake ama-equations esikhundleni sezinyunu ezincane eziqala ukucela ifomula, bese "ukhohlwa" ukuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani, njll. nokunye okunjalo. Ukuvutha ememori, noma ubani ozokhumbula ukuthi kaningi kangakanani ehamba phezu kwempumlo yabafuna izifiso ezinhle, ebaphoqa ukuba babeke amathambo abo lapho ebenobuwula kakhulu ukuhambisa umunwe wakhe omncane. Kodwa sakhula. Ngolunye usuku kwafika kithi ukuthi ukuthembela kwabanye akugcini nje ngehlazo, kodwa futhi kuyingozi: umuntu uhlambalaza, wenqaba ukubhekana nobunzima bokuphila ngokuhambisana nawo wonke umuntu. Ubuntu buvuliwe. Okuthile okuvela kuso kubhekene naso, ngaphandle kwalokho okungekho ukuhlonishwa noma ukuzihlonipha okungenzeka. Kunomngcele ongakwazi ukuwela. Abakwa-Manipulators bawunaki - bawa ngaphandle kwendilinga yabantu ongabelana nabo. Benzani labo abangathandi ukujoyina ama-magician nabadodgers? Ayikwazi ukuthengisa into engenakuyithengisa: ububele, isihe, isihawu, uthando? - Yazi amaqiniso ambalwa alula. Futhi kokuqala ukuqaphela: siyazivumela ukuba siziphathe ngokwethu. Kuthiwani, uma kungesona isisasa esishibhile, usisigxilisa okwesikhombisa ukuba siwele phansi kwe-Dodger? ("Ungabonanga kanjani?")
Futhi akukhona yini ukungaphelelwa isineke, hhayi isifiso sokususa ingane ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuphoqelela ukuba sikhulume ngamafomula esikhundleni sayo? Fundisa, uhumushe, uchaze, ubuze ukuphindaphinda - isikhathi eside futhi esibuhlungu, kulula ukwenza ngokwakho ("Ngisize").
Amahloni amanga, futhi akukho okunye okunye, kusitshela ukuthi sibeke umholo wenyanga wezingekho ezingadingekile ("Akunakho isikhwama sakho"). Akusikho konke okwenzayo, kodwa ukunganaki (noma, ukwesaba, ukucindezela) kubamba iminyaka eminingi ekuthungeni umonakalo nomuntu onobuqili ohlala endaweni yomunye umuntu ("iphiko eliphilile"). Uma uqaphela ukuthi ubanjwe kuphela ubuthakathaka bakho, kulula ukubona isikhathi sokuxhaphazwa. , ngokufanisayo, isibonakaliso esithembeke kakhulu ukuthi usuzoba "igundane" kuyisizwa sokuhlazeka nokuphazamiseka.Uyazonda ukwenza lokho okulandelayo okushiwo isilinda esincane (noma ngobumnene, veiledly): ukuboleka, cela , shayela "ilungelo" (hhayi wena, kodwa kuye) h umuntu, "Friendly ukubuka" inkambo-njll., njll.
Kuhlale kunzima ukwenqaba: umdlali ekati nasegundini ukwakha izibalo zakhe ngezindlela eziningi. Futhi awunqabe. Ungasho ukuthi cha. Kukhona inkulumo eyodwa yemilingo engatholakali noma yikuphi ukuhlukunyezwa-kokubili okucashile futhi okuncane. Nansi ukuthi: "Ngesaba ukuthi uyangikhathazeka kakhulu (ngingaba nokwedlulisela) amakhono ami (izinsiza, amathuba)". Umqaphi uzokuthuthukisa ukuphikisa ukuthi lokhu akunjalo, uqiniseke ngokuphakade kwakho nokulalela, nokubona kwangaphambili nokuphana ... Kodwa umzuzu ulahlekile - amehlo enkathi asevele ekhanya, isilinda esisha somlingo siye savela ngokucacile. Manje ungaya kancane kancane kulokho okuthiwa ukuvikelwa okungahambi kahle, ungaphenduli ekuhlukunyezweni nhlobo. Mhlawumbe awuqondi kahle noma ungaqondi kahle. Humusha ingxoxo kwenye isihloko. "Khumbula", ukuthi uzothola ucingo oluphuthumayo, futhi izindaba ziyaziwa kakhulu futhi kufanele ubalekele. I-manipulator cishe izosuka kuwe idangele.
Ngokuvamile, kusukela ekubukeni kwezingqondo zengqondo "ziyimbala eyimpumputhe": ubudlelwane bomuntu obuningi obuhlukahlukene bubabalekela, ngoba beye bakhetha imibala emibili: grey nobumnyama, "badinga" - "abangadingeki". Ukuhlukunyezwa kuyingozi yokuziphatha okubi. Akunakwenzeka ukusebenzisa abanye ngokungenasikhala impilo yabo yengqondo. Futhi yingakho abaningi be-manipulators bengenangqondo. "Ukuzingela" komunye kudinga ukucindezeleka njalo. Abahlukumezi abayiziwula baqonda ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukubala zonke izimo ezibucayi. Futhi-ke esikhathini esilandelayo, omunye wabo uvele phambi kwawo kukho konke ukungalungi kwawo. Into edabukisayo yilabo abaxhaphaza, abadlali abaqeqeshiwe ngisho nokufinyelela ezindaweni eziphakeme "zobuciko obubi bokuxhaphaza," balahlekelwa into encane, okuyinto ngesizathu esithile ababengazicabangi-ukuphila kwabo. Ngoba umbala walo - ubungane, uthando, ukubonga, uthando luhlale lungathandeki.
Lyubov Scherbatova
"Udokotela Womndeni", # 5, 2000