Mhlawumbe, akekho abazali abanjalo abangenakubhekana nesimo esinjalo:
Uphuma ukuhamba nomntwana wakho endaweni yokudlala, e-sandbox, ingane yakho iqoqa amathoyizi akho ozithandayo isikhathi eside (ibhakede elinama-spatula, izinkuni, amakhrayoni, amabhontshisi ensipho), ilanga likhanya, umphefumulo ujabule kakade ehlobo elishisayo ehlobo .... Kodwa konke kuvela ngokuphambene nomzwelo wakho ngokuhamba okumnandi nomntanakho othandekayo.
Amathoyizi azama ukuthatha ingane yomunye, athulule amabhulogi ensipho, ingane yakho ifuna ukubheka amathoyizi omunye umuntu, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiwe ithola isikhwama noma isanti emehlweni akhe ebunzini. Lapho ukhuluma ngokuthukuthela ngokuziphatha kwengane, umama wakhe omomothekayo uthi usekhulisa ingane yakhe ngendlela entsha futhi ngokuvamile akunakwenzeka ukuba izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka engu-5 zivimbele noma yini. Futhi ekugcineni, ubilisa ngokuthukuthela, uhudula ingane ekhwazayo kwenye indawo, uzizwa ubuhlungu eshaweni, isimo sengqondo sithinteka, futhi kuvele ukulimala okwesibhakabhaka ebunzini lakho ... Ngezinye izikhathi, uma izingane ezingenabo obaba abanobudlova babona ukulwa kwengane ebhokisini le-sandbox, phakathi kwabo. Kube khona amacala okubulala ...
Futhi kwenzeka ukuthi ingane yakho iphenduke ingelosi ibe idemon encane, ihola zonke izingane, igxumeke e-sandbox efanayo, futhi uphoqeleka ukuba ubalekele kusukela empini kuya emakhaleni omama odabukile, uthembisa ukuthi uzohlela u-swill wendlu yakho.
Kungaba kanjani ukuthi ukuhamba akusivivinywa njalo isikhathi sokuba namandla wezinzwa nemandla ebunzini?
- Uma umntwana engafuni ukuya futhi adlale nezinye izingane nhlobo
Ungaphoqeleli. Ingane ngayinye inesigqi sokungena ngokuhlanganyela okusha - umuntu ngokushesha uba ngumqondisi, futhi omunye umuntu kufanele abheke kuqala eduze, ahlole ngokucophelela ukwenza abangane, bese-ke, mhlawumbe, adlale ndawonye. Ngakho-ke, uma ingane yakho ikudonsa kude nenkampani yabantwana, mlandele. Isikhathi sizofika futhi yena ngokwakhe uzothathwa enkampanini jikelele, futhi ungafunda incwadi ebhentshini.
Zama ukumfundisa ngokucophelela ukudlala eqenjini, ufundise ngesibonelo. Sondela kwelinye ingane, yithi, thola igama lakhe, usho igama lakho, cela imvume yokudlala naye futhi uma enye ingane inqaba - ungafaki emdlalweni ohlangene. Ukuhlonipha izithakazelo komunye, ubeka isibonelo kumncanyana wakho futhi umtshele ukuthi izithakazelo zakhe nazo zizocatshangelwa. Zama ukudlala nezingane ezifanayo ekuqaleni, ukuze ingane yakho ingabhekana nokubhekana nobuso obusha uma ingajoyina iqoqo. Isimiso esiyinhloko kancane kancane, hhayi ukuphikelela, ukulandela ijubane lomntanakho.
- Ngomntanakho, wathatha amathoyizi, waphula i-kurichiki.
Into esemqoka ukuthula. Bheka indlela ingane yakho iphendula ngayo esimweni. Ngokuvamile, lokho esikubona njengokungabi nabulungisa okungacacile akukona okomntwana. Mhlawumbe akanandaba nalesi sikhathi. Yiqiniso, uma lokhu kwenzeka njalo lapho ingane yakho nezingane zakho zisebenza njengomxhasi wegceke lonke, kuzomele ucabange ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka. Uma ingane ingakwazi ukubhekana nesimo futhi izinyembezi zigcwalise amehlo akho, thatha lesi simo ngezandla zakho. Woza naye kumhlaseli, ucele ngokuthula nangokuzithoba ukuthi ubuyisele ithoyizi noma uyishintshe, zama ukungena endaweni yakhe enye. Zama ukunikeza enye ithoyizi uma ingane yakho idinga lokho. Uma kungakusizi lutho, cela usizo kumama wakhe, vele ukugwema ukuhlambalaza, ukuze ungalimazi ukuhamba kungabi kuye, noma kumntanakhe.
- Ingane yakho idlala nabanye, kodwa ayifuni ukwabelana noma yini
Futhi makungahlukaniswa. Noma ingabe unamahloni ukuthi ingane yakho izokwahlulelwa njengomhaha? Ngakho lokhu kungukubona kwakho kuphela. Ingane encane iyinhlangano egoist. Amathoyizi akhe ingcebo yakhe. Ungabelana ngezindwangu zakho zamadayimane noma ingubo yobuso obuyigugu? Yilokho okufanayo ... Futhi kunoma yikuphi, ungakhethi futhi unganiki amathoyizi akhe ukuba alahlekelwe kwezinye izingane, ngisho noma zingaphansi kweyakho. Kulesi simo, umane ube ngumthengisi kumntanakho. Kuvela ukuthi uhlangothini lomunye umhlengi wezihambi. Esikhundleni salokho, tshela enye ingane ukuthi lokhu kuyisitokisi sakho esiyintandokazi yengane yakho, ngakho mcele ukuthi angayithathi. Phakamisa omunye ngokubuyisela. Uma ingane yakho ihlinzeka ngamathoyizi akhe kwabanye, qiniseka ukuthi uyomdumisa. Kancane kancane, uyaqaphela "izinzuzo" zalokho okungabelwa.
- Ingane yakho iyisibhamu nomhlukumezi
Yilapho uvela khona, amanye omama aqala ukuqoqa amathoyizi futhi afune enye indawo ukuhamba? Ungazami ukuhamba naye ezindaweni zangasese ngesikhathi sokuphumula. Mhlawumbe usemncane kakhulu futhi akakwazi ukucabangela izithakazelo zabanye nemicabango yabo. Mfundise ukuthi ahlanganyele eqenjini. Sonke isikhathi sichaze futhi siphendule ngalokho okwenzekayo. Uma nje ubona imizamo yakhe yokuhlela ukulwa, thatha isitokisi somunye umuntu, ume futhi uchaze ukuthi kungani kungenakwenziwa. Fundisa ukungakhethi, kodwa ukushintsha. Baxolise futhi bafundise ingane yakho ukuba ixolise uma ecasula omunye. Uma ukukholisa kungakusizi, yishintshele kwesinye isifundo, udlale umdlalo ohlukile. Chaza ukuthi kungani wenze lokhu. Chaza ukuthi uma eziphatha ngale ndlela, kuzodingeka uhambe ekhaya. Kodwa ungesabi, kodwa chaza.
Mtshele umdlalo onentshisekelo namadoda amancane, izilwane ezincane, izimoto ezisesigabeni esisodwa se-sandbox, ukuze adlale eduze kwezinye izingane kanye namathoyizi, kodwa wayematasa ngomsebenzi wakhe.
Izingane ngenxa yobudala bayo, namanje akucaci ukuthi bayalimazana. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuyichaza kaningi.
Ngokuvamile, ngokuvamile akuphazamisi izingxabano zezingane. Vumela ingane ngokwakhe ifune izindlela zayo futhi ibonise ukuzimela. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kubaluleke kakhulu kubantwana. Kusukela kulokhu kuqala ikhono lakhe lokwakha ubuhlobo nabangaphandle. Futhi-ke ungakwazi ukuxoxa ngesimo, imbangela yayo, ezinye izindlela zokuxazululwa futhi udunyiswe ngomntanakho ukuthola indlela yokuphuma empini.
UHarutyunyan Anna