Into esemqoka ukuyiqonda: ingane iyayinaki izicelo zakho nemiyalo engekho engozini (ukuze "ikukhiphe futhi ikwazi ukukhipha izinzwa zakho"), kodwa ngoba lokhu kuyiminyaka yakhe evamile. Abazali kumele bazi kahle into eyinhloko ngomntwana oneminyaka engama-4 ubudala - lokhu kuwuphawu olukhethekile lokuthuthukiswa kwesimiso sakhe sezinzwa. Kuyiminyaka engaba mihlanu kuya kwemihlanu ukuthi ingane ibambe inqubo yokuvuselela. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uma ingane encane kakhulu into ethile, ngakho ukunakekelwa kwakhe kunzima ukushintshela ezindabeni zokuzinza. Unenqubo yokukhwabanisa, okungukuthi, ingane ingakwazi ukulawula isimo sakhe. Akakwazi ukuzola, uma ejabule kakhulu noma, isibonelo, esaba. Lokhu kuboniswa okungenani noma ngaphansi kuye ngokuthi ubumnene. Konke lokhu kusho ukuthi izidingo zabazali zokuzithiba ("Hlonipha phansi!") Uma umntwana ekhululekile kakhulu kuyinto engelutho. Ngikholelwa: ingane ingase ijabule ukuzola, kepha ayikwazi ukuyenza. Leli khono uzokwenza iminyaka engu-6-7 kuphela, esikoleni kuphela.
Imithetho yokuxhumana nengane
Zisekelwe ezintweni eziphathelene nokuphila okubaluleke kakhulu kokudabuka ngaphezu kokuvinjelwa. Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna ukuxhumana kahle nomntwana, ukuze akuzwe futhi akuqonde, kudingeka wenze lokhu okulandelayo:
1. Qaphela ukuveza imizwa yakho. Uma abazali basesimweni esinjabulo (ukuthukuthela, ukucasuka, ukwesaba, ukuhlekisa) - akukho mqondo wokulinda ukuthula kwengqondo kusuka kwengane. Isithombe esisezingeni eliphezulu enkampanini yezitolo enezingane ezineminyaka engama-4: ubeka abaxhwele ekukhathaleni nasekukhulekeleni, futhi abazali bayakhala ngokukhamuluka: "Yebo, thola phansi! Yeka ukumemeza! ". Kodwa-ke, i-psyche kanye nayo yonke inyama yengane incike kakhulu esimweni sabazali. Uma bejabule - ingane nayo ikhathazekile. Futhi ukuze kube khona isimo esilalelayo nesokuthula ezimweni ezinjalo ukuze ingane ingenzeki.
Uma ufuna ingane ikuzwe, zama ukuzithulisa. Philisa kakhulu, uphuze amanzi, cela ukuzola ingane kumuntu okhululekile futhi otholile.
2. Ukuheha izingane. Ngokuzimela kwengane kunzima ukushintsha kusuka kunoma yiliphi ibhizinisi elithakazelisayo (egijima eduze kwekamelo, ukubukela izithombe, njll) kuzicelo zakho. Uzibonele kangaki isithombe: ingane ikhetha ngokujulile echibini elingcolile (hhayi njalo ngenduku), futhi umama umi phezu kwakhe futhi "amathayi" amancane ":" Yeka ukwenza lokho! Phew, lokho kusho! ". Yiqiniso, akufanele kube khona ukusabela kwengxenye yengane. Akakhulumi ngempela, ngoba yonke ingqondo yakhe igxile entweni enkulu.
Thatha isinyathelo sokuqala - uhlale phansi ezingeni lekhanda lomntwana, "ukubamba" amehlo akhe. Kuye, buka ukuthi yini eyithakazelisayo kuye: "Maye! Yeka i-puddle! Kuyadabukisa ukuthi awukwazi ukuyithinta. Ake sithole okunye. "
3. Chaza ngokucacile. Imishwana elula futhi emifushane - ingane ngokushesha izoqonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo kuye: "Manje sithatha ama-cubes, ke izandla zami bese sidla". Gwema izincazelo ze-verbose, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi esifanayo sokushintsha ukunakwa. Uma kungenjalo, ingane ayinaso isikhathi sokulandela inkambo yomcabango wakho.
4. Phinda izikhathi eziningana. Yebo, ngezinye izikhathi kuyamcasula. Kodwa intukuthelo nokucasula kulokhu kuwukuthi, sorry, izinkinga zakho. Akuyona iphutha lomntwana ekuhleleni kwakhe, ebuchosheni bakhe, izinqubo zamakhemikhali nezimboni. Yini ngempela ecasula kakhulu uma kudingeka siphindele into efanayo izikhathi eziningana? Kuphela iqiniso lokuthi kithi, abadala, kubonakala ngesizathu esithile: konke kumele kufike kithi kuqala. Futhi uma ingazange isebenze (ibhalansi ayizange iguquke, ingane ayizange ilalele) - Ngiyaduka! Leli "hello" kusukela ebuntwaneni bethu, lapho noma yikuphi iphutha lalandela ngokushesha isijeziso. Ulwazi lwezingane, kubonakala sengathi lukhohliwe, kodwa ukwesaba ukwenza okuthile okungalungile - kwasala. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kusinika injabulo enkulu lapho ingane ingafuni ukusilalela. Ingane ngokwayo ayihlangani nhlobo nhlobo. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukubuyela emuva kokuqala "ukulalelisisa imizwa nemicabango," hhayi ukuthi kungakanani ukusola ingane ngokungenalutho.
5. Bonisa ukuthi yini oyifunayo kumntwana. Ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa eminye imisebenzi emisha kuye. Isibonelo, ingane ivele iqale ukuzakhela izinkinobho zakhe, izigcwalise i-pastel, njll. Esikhundleni samazwi angenalutho: "Fold amathoyizi okusheshayo" - zama ukuqala naye. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukudumisa lapho ebhekana ngempumelelo nesicelo sakho!
Kunoma yisiphi isigaba senkulumo, lapho ingane ikhathazekile (ukukhala, ukuthukuthela, i-hysterical) - kufanele iqinisekiswe. Kukhona uhlelo olukhethekile, isethi esilandelayo: ukuxhumana kwamehlo (hlala phansi phambi kwengane!) Ukuxhumana komzimba (thatha isandla sakhe, uthinte) ukuthula kwengqondo yakho. Uma ukhulumisana kahle nengane, khona-ke uyakuthola ngempela. Jabulela ukuxhumana kwakho!