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Ulwa ngokunciphisa kancane, ngokuphoqeleka kuthatha ezinye izinto zokudlala zamanye abantu, ama-jostles kanye nokukhala, ngenkathi ephikweni lakhe nasemehlweni akhe kukhona inzondo yangempela yalowo okhulunywa ngaye. Unina uyamesaba esiteshini lapho uhamba khona, ngoba akadingi ukuvula elinye itshe libe yinye ingane - futhi lokhu kungaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, bazama ukuhlala kude naye.
Wena ngokwakho ungethuki futhi ungesabi nje kuphela ngenxa yokukhathala okungapheli lapho ubhekene nemiphumela yenkinga yansuku zonke, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nempi yangempela ne-villain yakho, eneliswe nokubonakala kwentukuthelo emntwaneni omncane. Unamahloni ngabanye omama, futhi uhlupheka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unquma yini kuzo zonke izindleko zokugcina uhlangothi lomntwana wakho futhi ume ukuvikela kwakhe ekuhlaselweni kwezemfundo zabanye abantu abadala, noma, ngokuphambene, ujoyine i-choir ngokumangalela futhi, kanye naye, uphawu ingane. Isimo sibonakala singenathemba kuwe. Omama abaningi ezimweni ezinjalo bamane balinde ingane yabo ukuba ikhule futhi ihlakaniphe. Yiqiniso, le ndlela iyaziqinisekisa kuphela uma ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-crumb empeleni kwakudala.
Ngokuvamile, uma ungenzi lutho, lapho ukhula uba mkhulu futhi ukubonakaliswa kwentukuthelo emntwaneni omncane kungakhula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ube yisiphepho sangempela semimoya. Futhi lezo zindlela ozisebenzisayo ku-aggressor encane ngaphambili, isibonelo - ukubamba ngaphansi kwegundane, uthathe futhi ukhiye imizuzu ngamashumi ayishumi nanhlanu ekamelweni elikhiyiwe ekhiye, ukuze agxilise phansi futhi acabange - akasafaneleki. Kungani? Awunakukwazi ukukhulisa umuntu osekhulile, futhi ngeke akhonze isijeziso, futhi ungalindi. Ngakho udinga ukuthatha isinyathelo manje.
Kungani kunjalo?
Ngokungangabazeki, kunezizathu zokuthi kungani ingane yakho inama-hooligan futhi ihlazo, futhi isebenzisa inkulumo yentukuthelo encane encane. Futhi lezi zizathu zingahluka kakhulu, ngoba zonke izingane zihlukile futhi zihlukile.
Izinkinga zezempilo
Futhi akudingekile ukuthi udokotela oyidingayo isazi sezinzwa zegazi. Kungaba kokubili i-ENT, ne-gastroenterologist. Ingane yakho ingaziphatha kabi ngenxa yokungazinzi njalo, okungenakukwazi ukuchaza, ngoba isetshenziselwa yona, izwa njalo njalo. Izingxabano ezifihlekile emndenini. Ingane yakho ayiyazi ukuthi umama nobaba baye balahlekelwa ukuqonda okufanayo, ukuthi esimweni sabo sengqondo komunye nomunye kukhona inzondo, akakho lapho ecacisa ubuhlobo. Kodwa ingane iyinkomba, ukuhlolwa kothando emndenini. Uthando yilokho oludlayo, njengesitshalo ne-carbon dioxide. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uthando kuphela alanele kuye. Isimo sengqondo esihle samalungu omndeni komunye nomunye kubalulekile.
Futhi ukubonakaliswa kwentukuthelo emntwaneni omncane okwenzekayo akukona kuphela uma kukhona izingxabano phakathi kwabashade. Isibonelo, umama wakho noma umkhwekazi beza ukuzokusiza ngane. Wena noma umyeni wakho usuvele ulwa nezingxabano ezindala nabazali bakho, okuyinto esukela eminyakeni yakho esemusha noma komunye womlingani wakho ongaqondi kahle nomama womunye. Zonke lezi zinkinga ziholela ekuziphatheni okubi komntwana, okuyisisekelo sokubonakaliswa kwentukuthelo emntwaneni omncane.
Umhawu
Ingane yakho ikuhawukela usana olusha emndenini, mhlawumbe kumyeni wakho omusha, uma ushadile okwesibili. Noma-kokubili, uma ingane yesibili izalwa emshadweni olandelayo. Kodwa izinto ezinjalo ngokuvamile ziphawuleka kahle: umama ngokwakhe ezimweni eziningi uqonda ukuthi empilweni yamaphuphu akhe lapho kube khona izinguquko ezinkulu, futhi angasiza ngobudlova kubonisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe. Ngendlela efanele, ukuziphatha okuhle kwabantu abadala, ngokushesha ingane iyaqaphela ukuthi akukho lutho lokukhathazeka ngalo. Izici zobunjwa. Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi izinyane liyashesha, lilaka, lingapheli ngokwemvelo. Isimiso esinjalo! Noma uvame ukubuka ukuthukuthela komunye wabantu abadala emndenini (futhi ubona ukuthi intukuthelo iphumelela kangakanani!). Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ingane iyisibuko sakho, akubonakali nje kuphela izinto ezinhle kuphela, kodwa nobubi obukuye. Futhi kulula ukukopisha ukuziphatha kwakho, ngoba umama nobaba bayisibonelo.
Kuhlutshiwe futhi kuphephile
Mhlawumbe ingane yakho ayiyazi ukuthi ubani ophethe ekhaya. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi abantu abadala emndenini baqondiswa kukho konke yizifiso, izintshisekelo, imikhuba yomntwana okufanele athathe indima yomholi. Futhi indima enjalo yengane ingakabikho. Khumbula ukuthi hlobo luni lomphathi othungela kulabo abangaphansi kwakhe? Okuyiqiniso: ukungaphephile. I-crumb isenzima kakhulu ukuba ngumphathi wakho, kepha, uma esitholile le "post" esandleni, manje uzoyilwela, ngoba ihloniphekile.
Izijeziso eziqinile
Wena ngokwanele (noma ngokwanele) ujezisa kakhulu ingane. Ngomgomo: Ngiyakufanelekela - hlala ekhoneni, uhlale ngaphandle kwe-TV, amaswidi, amathoyizi, njll. Mhlawumbe wena, wesaba ukuthi uzowa (ukukhubeka ekhoneni letafuleni, naretsya izindlela zokugeza izitsha), phakamisa izwi lakho ngaphezu kwakho kufanele kuzimweni ezibonakala ziyingozi kuwe. Umntanakho uzizwa ehlambalazwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uqinisekile ukuthi "akenzanga lutho olunjalo." Ngokungazelelwe - ukucasuka kwabazali bakhe, ukumemeza, isijeziso esinzima, kulokhu, ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo kwe-crumb kuhlotshaniswa nomuzwa ohlala njalo wokuthukuthela. "Yebo, kubalulekile ukujezisa izingane, kodwa kungcono, ikakhulukazi uma kungenjalo into ejulile, njengokweba, uma isenzo nemiphumela yengane kufanele ikhunjulwe ngokuphila, ayijeziswanga "ngobukhulu obukhulu", kodwa kancane kancane kunalokho ayifanele, ngakho-ke emphefumulweni wakhe kwakukhona indawo engeyiyo yokuthuka, kepha ukuzisola unembeza. Ukungajabuli komama. Omama abaningi, emva kokushintsha umsebenzi othakazelisayo wendima yomama wendlu, emva kwesikhathi baqala ukuzwa bekhathele futhi bekhathele. Bacabanga ukuthi baye baba yiziphukuphuku, ababi, abanganakiwe, ukuthi ukuphila kuye kwaphela kuze kube phakade. Ukunganeliseki ngesiphetho somuntu, ukucasuka, ukukhathala kuqoqa futhi kungcolise ngokunganaki ingane njengesizathu salesi simo.
Futhi uma ngesikhathi esisodwa anikezwa isikhathi esincane, ke, ngesikhathi esifanayo, uyakhanga, ngakho-ke, ukunakekelwa kwabantu abadala.
I-Hyperopeka
Izingane zigcwele ngokweqile ukunakekelwa komama nokukhulumisana ngokweqile ukuthi noma yikuphi oxhumana nabo abangadingekile kuye bacindezelekile. Uzama njalo ukugwema ukukhulumisana ngokuziphatha kobudlova kulabo abafuna ukuba abangane naye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, unina kamama, ongeke aphile ngaphandle kwengane yakhe okwesikhashana, akanalo ithuba lokuba yedwa, futhi lesi sidingo akuyona nje kuphela abantu abadala, kodwa kubantwana, uzizwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ngaphansi kokubheka kokunakekelwa ngumama, lokhu kudala ukungezwani kwesibindi , ephuma ngaphandle ngentukuthelo nolaka. Ilukuluku. Uma usabela ngokweqile ukwenza izenzo ezingenele, omncani angakwazi, ngaphandle kwesithakazelo nesifiso, afune kuwe lokhu kuphendula. Kufana nokwamukelwa okuthokozela kakhulu kusuka kumabhayisikobho angenalutho, lapho umlingisi ahlasela khona izikhathi eziyishumi ngokulandelana ngokuthunyelwe kwesibani esifanayo.
Ubudala obuhle
Noma mhlawumbe ingane yakho encane kakhulu futhi ayikwazi futhi ayikwazi okuningi? Angazi ukuthi angacela kanjani - uyasusa, akazi ukuthi ungathini: "Buyela emuva" - uyaqhuma. "Wayengazange acabange ukuthi abanye bazizwa bebuhlungu futhi bakhathazekile.
Ukwenza Abangane Izitha
Ukuze ingane ingabi nobudlova, zama ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izizathu ezingenhla ezingathinta ukuziphatha kwemvuthuluka yakho. Bese uzama ukuyilungisa. Futhi basebenzisa ngokunenzuzo amathiphu aqinisekisiwe. Zama ukunciphisa ukubonakaliswa kwentukuthelo emntwaneni omncane, mbonise ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani futhi uyamthanda.
Ngenkathi izingxabano zengane yakho nezinye izingane, wena, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyimangalisa kangakanani, kungcono ukuhlala ohlangothini lomntanakho, futhi ungamhlaseli nabomama abathukuthele bezinye izingane. Lokhu akusho ukuthi konke okwenza ingane yakho kuhle, ngoba kungokwakho. Kodwa akufanele ube ohlangothini lwabashushisi futhi, uNkulunkulu makwenqabe, futhi unqume ukuthi ingane yakho ibubi, iyesabekayo, ingabonakali. Ungabonakali ukuthukuthela kwakho nosizi ngenxa yokuziphatha kobubi. Ngokuvamile, vumela ukusabela kwakho kube okungenani okungokomzwelo.
Ungazami ukuqonda ukungqubuzana kwengane. Ungatholi ukuthi ubani oqala ukulwa, ngubani omuhle, nokuthi ubani omubi. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuthatha umntwana ngokuphepha ephepheni lokudlala. Kuwusizo ukumthatha lapho evumela khona into enjalo. Awudingi ukuchaza noma yini. Ingane ikhunjulwe kakade: iziphatha kabi - ukuhamba sekuphelile.
Siza ingane ukuba iqonde lokho akuzwayo, ichaze ngezibonelo abanye abantu abakhathazekile lapho belimala. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuba ichaze ngamazwi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi yini ayifunayo. Isibonelo, awukwazanga ukumshayela uSasha, kodwa utshele ukuthi: "Ngicela uhambe lapha, imoto yami iyahamba." Ungaphuthelwa uKatya ezandleni zedoli, bese unikeza: "Masidlale ndawonye." U-Katya akafuni? Khona-ke kungcono ukuhamba. Ukubonakaliswa kwentukuthelo encane encane ngezinye izikhathi kusekelwe ekuqondeni okuhambisana nabazali. Chaza ukuthi intukuthelo umuntu angakwazi ngayo ibalwa ngokwemvelo njengesitha sangempela: i-bandit efuna ukumphanga, umhlaseli owahlasela izwe lakhe, kodwa hhayi umfana womakhelwane uKolya, futhi ngokuqinisekile hhayi kumama wakhe. Thembela ingane yakho bese uzama ukuqonda izimbangela zentukuthelo.