Ngezinye izikhathi ukumomotheka okunjalo kukhanya ebusweni kanye nezingane ezinesonto elilodwa, kodwa i-True Smile yokuqala ivela endaweni ethile emasontweni angu-4-8, lapho umntwana, ekulungele amehlo akhe ebusweni bakho, uzomomotheka, futhi akekho omunye umuntu. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ukumamatheka kuyisenzo esingenasisekelo, esenziwe ngezakhi zofuzo, hhayi "sobeyazannichchennoe" ebusweni bomama noma kababa - ngokuphendula izwi lomama, ngisho nezingane eziyimpumputhe ezizalwa ziyimpumputhe zingamomotheka, ongenakulingisa noma ubani.
Iqiniso
Ukuhleka nokumamatheka kwengane encane kungenye yezinkulumo ezikhangayo kakhulu ebusweni bomntwana, njengoba kuboniswe ngemvelo. Ngakho-ke ingane iyenze yona, ibangele ukuzwelana, icela ukuvikelwa kubantu abadala. Ngeke ukwazi ukumelana nalo! Ngezinye izikhathi ingane ingamomotheka lapho izalwa, uma ukubeletha kwaba mnene futhi kuyimvelo.
Uyazi ukuthi ukumamatheka kuyasiza ekuthuthukiseni amakhono emvuthu?
Ukumamatheka okubanzi, okwenzelwe umama, kufaka inani elikhulu lemisipha futhi kusebenze isifunda esifanele sobuchopho, ukuthuthukisa ukucabanga okucabangelayo, ukucabanga, ubuciko kanye nokuqonda.
Ukuhleka nokumomotheka kwengane encane, okunikezwa abantu abangabazi, kusebenze inombolo encane yobuningi bombuso kanye nengxenye engakwesokunxele yobuchopho, okufaka isandla ekuthuthukiseni ukucabanga okunengqondo nokuhlaziya.
Ukuxhumana!
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ukuhleka kokuqala nokumamatheka kwengane encane noma usana olusanda kuzalwa kuyisenzo sokungabonakali kobuso bomama, kodwa ngezwi lakhe. Ukumamatheka komntwana kuyisimo sokuxhumana. Uma umama ehleka impendulo, ukumomotheka kwakhe kuyaba mkhulu, ujabule ukuthi uqondwa kahle, futhi umama uzojabula nakakhulu - unokuxhumana kokuqala. Kukhona othintana naye! Kusukela ezifundweni zokuqala ezibalulekile zokukhulumisana, i-crumb ikhumbula njalo ukuthi ukumomotheka kubonisa ukumomotheka njalo. Uma ulungisa ukulungisa lokhu engqondweni yakhe, khona-ke lokhu kuyomntwana okungaqiniseki kube yisikhuthazo sokumamatheka kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma ebona ukuthi ukumomotheka kwakhe kuyisenzakalo sokuqala ukukhuluma nawe (noyise, umkhulu, ugogo), uzama konke okusemandleni akhe ukwenza "izikhathi" ezinjalo ziphindaphindiwe kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, okusho ukuthi uzomomotheka futhi afune izindlela ngikujabule.
Iqiniso
Ososayensi bathole ukuthi uma umama ebona ubuso bomntwana wakhe omomothekayo, uvula izindawo ezifanayo zobuchopho njengokuthatha ezinye izidakamizwa. Ukumamatheka komntwana kuyisidakamizwa esingokwemvelo nesilimaza.
Ukumomotheka kusho ukuthi "masidlale nawe futhi sibe abangane!"
Owokuqala, kusukela ngosuku lwesithathu lokuphila kuze kube sekupheleni kwenyanga yokuqala, umswakama-smile, obonakalayo. Kubonakala okwesibili futhi cishe kungabonakali. Kungaba impendulo kumsindo wesifazane, ukukhipha uphawu.
Ukumomotheka okuvamile kubonakala emva kweviki lesine lokuphila. Kulula ukuqaphela: i-crumb ilungisa amehlo ezento ezizungezile, abantu. Ngenyanga yesibili yokuphila kwengane, ukumomotheka okulindile isikhathi eside kubonakala. Ingane kakade iyayiqonda ubuso babazali, iyaphenduka phambi kwabo.
Ukuhleka ngebhola elifushane
Futhi manje i-crumb iphenduka iminyaka engu-3-4 ubudala futhi abazali bayamangala okokuqala ... Yebo, yebo, ingane iyahleka! Yiqiniso, zonke izingane zizenza ngendlela ehlukile: umuntu ohleka ngokuthula, ovule umlomo futhi ekhanye ngezikhathi ezithile, othile uhleka ekuhlekeni okuthelelekile, ngezinye izikhathi aze avuke esivumelwaneni somzwelo, umuntu wenza imisindo ezwakala sengathi ikhala, kodwa iqukethe Inkulumo ebusweni ibonisa ngokucacile ukuthi ingane iyahleka. Lesi yisikhathi esifanele kunazo zonke ukuba abazali baqale ukufuna ngenkuthalo phakathi kwemisebenzi ehlangene labo abangela injabulo enkulu, ukuhleka nokumamatheka kwengane encane. Qala ngazo zonke izinhlobo zabantu "uya izinhlamvu zezimbuzi," "ukukhala okungamashumi amane", "ladushki-ladushki," "hamba, uye emzaneni ngamantongomane." Snort, somersault ndawonye, bethana omunye nomunye ngenjabulo yakho! Omunye wemidlalo oyintandokazi yalesi sikhathi yilokho okubizwa ngokuthi i-peek-a-boo emazweni akhuluma isiNgisi - isikhumba sokuqala futhi sifuna. Ngokwesibonelo, umama ufihle phansi kwetafula, ngemuva kwefenisha, ngemuva kwekhawundi, bese ingane iboniswa. Njalo ukubonakala kwakhe i cub ihlangana nokuhleka kwenjabulo. Uveza injabulo yakhe yokuthi umama watholakele. Ukudlala ufihle futhi ufune, omncane ufunda ngosizo lokuhleka ukunqoba ukwesaba. Futhi uyazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi unina ngeke ashiye!
Izivivinyo zibonisa ukuthi abantu balindele ukubona i-movie ehlekisayo, ukwanda kwe-87% kokuqukethwe kwe-hormone yokukhula!
Futhi futhi bakhiqiza i-beta-endorphin enye yesithathu kunelabo abahlela ukubuka ephephandabeni nemibiko yezinhlekelele. I-hormone yokukhula inesibopho sokuzivikela, futhi i-beta-endorphin isiza ukulwa nokucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka kanye ne-analgesia.
Ngakho khetha lokho okufundayo noma ubuke umndeni wonke - ifilimu enemibala enombala eneziqhawe zangempela noma i-thriller.
Ukuzijabulisa kudonsa ukuhlukunyezwa komunye umuntu futhi kukhulule ukucindezeleka ekukhulumisaneni nokumomotheka. Akukhona kuphela lokho "okuwusizo empilweni! Labo abahleka ngaphezulu, baphile isikhathi eside. Izingane zihleka kaningi kunabantu abadala - zidlala futhi zivame ukuwela ezimweni zamahlaya
Omunye umuzwa ongenabuzwa uzwela, ikhono labantu ukuzwelana, ukuzwelana, ukuqaphela imizwa yabanye futhi "bajoyine". Yena, njengomfoloko wokugcoba, uthatha imizwa yakhe futhi uyaguqula kuye. Ikhono lokuzwelana likhula kahle kuphela uma ingane ichitha isikhathi esiningi nabazali, futhi uma izwe labo elingokomzwelo lihlukile. Umama, njalo esesimweni sokukhathazeka noma ukuvinjelwa ngokweqile, ukufihla imizwa yakhe, akamniki ingane ithuba lokubona imizwa ehlukile futhi ecacile. Ukuthuthukisa uzwela kumntanakho, unikeza ikusasa elijabulisayo ngabazukulu bakho ngendlela ethembeke kakhulu kunokuvula i-akhawunti ebhange.
Izifundo zokuhlekisa
Kodwa-ke, uma ukuhleka kokuqala nokumomotheka kwengane encane kungabangelwa kalula ngokumtshela ngokucophelela, ukuphonsa esihlahleni, ukwenza ubuso obuhle noma ukulingisa inhlanhla yakhe, khona-ke umuntu kufanele ahlukane ukuze ajabule ingane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sekuyisikhathi sokucabangela indlela yokukhulisa umuntu othakazelisayo, onobuhle onomqondo omuhle. Futhi kungenzeka.
Yiqiniso, ingxenye ephawulekayo yomqondo wokuhlekisa, ukuhleka nokumomotheka kwengane encane kuzalwa: noma yimuphi umama onomntwana ongaphezu kweyodwa uzoqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zizalwa ngezinhlamvu ezahlukene: omunye umuntu ujabule, othile ocabangelayo, othile uyajabula, othile uzimisele ukuhlukaniswa ...
Kodwa-ke, ngokungangabazeki, ekwakhiweni nasekunakekeleni kwengane, kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono okuqonda (ukufunda nokubala ngonyaka nonyaka), kufanele kube khona indawo kanye nokuthuthukiswa komzwelo. Phela, akuyona nje ikhono lokuhleka ifulethini elihle kusukela kuhlaya elihle noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, yenza inkampani ehlekisa. Lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kunazo zonke emhlabeni jikelele, okufundisa ukungahlali ezinkingeni, ukubheka impilo ngokuzethemba, ukubona izinto ezinhle, ukujabulela izinto ezincane.
Abasizi emfundweni yokuzijabulisa
Umkhathi jikelele emndenini. Uma upapa evame ukuvela emsebenzini nge-beech kanye nezicingo ezivela emndenini enethelevishini, uma umama engenawo isikhathi sokwenza noma yini owaziyo ukuthi yini okumelwe akhamuluke futhi abe nokwesaba uma ugogo ekhononda usuku lonke ngokuthi akahlonishwa lapha futhi akabhekwa naye uma umkhulu bekhathazeke kakhulu ngenxa yokuguqulwa kwezempilo okwakamuva ... Cishe usuqonde kakade: akunakwenzeka ukuthi bazofundisa ingane ukuthola abantu abajabulayo empilweni yabo abangakwazi ukwenza lokho ngokwabo.
Jabulela kunoma yikuphi ukuhleka nokumamatheka kwengane encane. Masihleke kaningi, khumbula ukuthi yini eyenza ajabule. Thokozani ukuthi usevele akwazi ukubona into ehle kakhulu, ngisho noma ungayiqondi. Masihleke ngangokunokwenzeka, khumbula lokho okuthandayo lapho ehleka, kanye nemizwa yakhe yokuhleka.
Khetha amabhuku ahlekisayo, amathangi - into engakwazi ukwethula kuphela ukuziphatha okujulile engaphansi kwe-subcortex yengane, kodwa futhi ukuyivuselela. Ake uqale nje ingxube yemisindo encwadini oyifunayo: "Bach! I-tyr-tyr-tyr! Zhzzhzh! "Noma izimo ezimnandi ezifana nobaba othukuthele ku" Prostokvashin ". (Lokhu akusho neze ukuthi ingane yakho izobhujiswa kuze kube sekupheleni kwezinsuku zakhe ukuze ife ngokuhleka lapho umuntu ewela emgodini.) Ungacabangi kanzima ukuthi ngabe ingane yakho ayifuni kakhulu ukulalela amavesi athile nokuthi uyaziqonda yini, kungenzeka , ukuthi uzozwa okuthile kubo. Funda ezinganeni funny funny: "Winnie the Pooh," "Carlson," incwadi E. Uspensky, izindaba mayelana nenja Sonia A. Usachev.
Ungakhathazeki ngoba ungathwali umntwana "onengqondo, omuhle, ophakade", kodwa othakazelisayo. Ungangabazi, izimiso eziyisisekelo zokuziphatha nezokuziphatha uzodinga ukuyibuka, ukubukela, kepha ukuhleka nokumamatheka kwengane encane kudinga ukuqeqeshwa nokuthola.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ingane yakho kusukela ezinyangeni zokuqala lapho izimo ezintsha zivela empilweni yakhe, okokuqala, ubheka ukusabela kwakho kuqala, "ubhala" enkumbulweni njengokulungile. Funda ukugcina "ubuso bakho", ziqaphele, zama ukuvimbela imizwelo engathandeki lapho usumntwana, futhi ugcizelele okuhle. Uma ujabulela izivakashi, uma ukwazi ukubuza, ukuzwakalisa, ukuzwakalisa ukujabula - konke lokhu kuzodluliselwa kumntanakho. Uma, lapho ehamba, ezama ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, uyamgijimela ebusweni obusabekayo, akukho lutho okumangalisa ukuthi uzowela encane lapho ecindezeleka kancane. Ngakho zama ukwenza isethi yokuphendula kokuqala ezenzweni ezahlukene, ngakho-ke, ekubukeni okukukhathazayo kulezi zimo, angakukopisha. Isibonelo, uma iwa (ngokwemvelo, sikhuluma ngokuwa okukhanyayo), singathi: "Bam-mms!", "Hhawu!", "O-la-la!", Futhi konke lokhu kunesihawu, kodwa ukumomotheka. Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi udinga ukuzisola, kodwa ukuze ingane ingenele ukunambitheka kwalolu daba. Ngokuphendula kwakho, njengokungathi uthi: konke kulungile, akukho lutho olwesabayo, lokhu kuyize!
Izingane ezikhulile zisiza kakhulu ukuthuthukisa ukuhleka kwemizwa zonke izinhlobo zokudlala funny, isiskithi kanye namaqhinga ikakhulukazi. Yebo, uma uvame ukwenza izinto ezimangazayo ngomntanakho - mazenze zibe mncane, kodwa ezimnandi. Kuhle uma ubhala izindaba ngaye mayelana nokuzijabulisa kwama-heroes, lapho angase ahlehle khona ekuhlangeneni nakho kwakhe, isibonelo, tshela lo mfana oneminyaka emithathu ngomuntu ongeke adle nge-spoon, futhi yiziphi izimo ezingenangqondo ezithola ngenxa yalokhu. Yiqiniso, kuyomhle kuye, uma yena ngokwakhe eyazi lokhu esikhathini esidlule!
Abafana abaye bafunda ukudweba noma ukubhala, ngenjabulo enkulu badlala "abangenangqondo" - khumbula, lokhu kungukuthi omunye umuntu udonsela ingxenye yomzimba, isibonelo, ikhanda, bese ehlanganisa iphepha, izandla phezu komunye, nalowo ongaboni i-torso ngezandla, i-wraps ... Noma ungabhala izinkondlo, ushiye igama lokugcina ngomlolotelo. Omunye umdlalo omkhulu futhi obulalayo uhlezi yi "Associations", uma abadlali behlukaniswe ngamaqembu amabili, ngamunye wabo eqagela imibono, amagama wezingoma, izincwadi, bese umuntu oyedwa ovela eqenjini eliphikisayo efunda ukuthi uyaziqhenya futhi uzama ngaphandle kwamagama ukukhombisa iqembu, ukuthi abaphikisi babo bafuna. Ngokuvamile ekugcineni, wonke umuntu ulele phansi ehleka, ngendlela, le mdlalo nayo iyamangalisa ngamaholide "omdala".
Njalo ekukhulumisaneni nengane kanye nabanye, nikeza ingane yakho isibonelo sokuphendula ngokuhlakanipha, ukuhleka nokumomotheka kwengane encane. Uma ukhuluma naye, hlaziya njalo futhi ukhuthaze imizamo yakhe yokuphendula. Zenza sengathi awukwazi okuthile (okungazi ukuthi ungazi), angazi ukuthi ungadla kanjani, ngokwesibonelo, udlale izigcawu ezincane kuwo (kungcono ukukwenza nabantwana ngaphezu konyaka - izingane kuze kube yonyaka zingathatha kabi "ukuguqulwa komama" "). U-Wit akuyona nje ubuwula kuphela, kodwa futhi nokuthuthukiswa kokuphendula okusheshayo, ubuchwepheshe, hhayi kuphela ikhono lokuxhumana elibalulekile, kodwa nokuqeqeshwa kwengqondo, ngakho-ke ukuhleka kwemizwa kuvame ukuhlanganiswa namakhono amakhono okucabanga.
Iqiniso
Ezinyangeni ezintathu kuya kwezine ingane izokujabulisa ngomunye uphumelelo omusha: manje akagcini nje ukumomotheka ngezindebe nangamehlo akhe, futhi uhamba ngokumomotheka kwakhe ngokugcoba izandla, imilenze, ne-buzz. Uyabonisa ukuthi uyajabula ukubona futhi ulungele ukuxhumana.
Kanjani ukubhubhisa umqondo wokuhleka kwezinhlanzi ezitholakala enganeni? Zama ukufunda ukuqonda uma ehleka ngempela, nalapho ehleka usulu. Ungavumeli ingane ukuba ihlabe. Ukuziqhenya akuyona inzwa yintsana. Enye incazelo "ukuthi ungahleka usulu nabangane bakho. Ngabantu abadala, isikhathi asikafiki.