Yiqiniso, akekho kithi ofuna ukucabanga ngesahlukaniso, ukushada. Kodwa izibalo akunakunqotshwa: eRussia yonke imibhangqwana eshadile yesibili iyahlukaniswa. Akekho owesifazane ofuna ingane yakhe ikhule ngaphandle kobaba. Futhi, cishe, ingxenye yengxenye yezingane ikhuliswe emindenini engabodwa. Singabhekana kanjani nathi futhi sithole ukuxhumana phakathi kukababa nezingane ngemva kokuhlukanisa? Indlela yokwenza izingane zihlambalaze ngenxa yokuntuleka kukababa okungakhuli zibe yizicukuthwane ezindala?
Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, kunezinhlobo ezine zokuziphatha kwabazali abahlukanisile: "izitha ezimbi kakhulu," "abangane abathukuthele", "osebenza nabo" nabangane. Okufanelekile, umama nobaba kufanele balondoloze ubudlelwano obuhle. Qaphela ngokucophelela ukuthi manje ingane idabukisayo kakhulu. Ukuhlukanana akuyona enye yalezo zenzakalo ezikhohliwe ngokushesha. Futhi, ngaphambi kokubi kakhulu, kuzothatha okungenani iminyaka engu-2-3. Zama ukubekezela. Ingane noma intombazane, ngokungangabazeki, izobuza imibuzo yansuku zonke - iphindaphindiwe, iphakamise, iyamangalela. Phendula konke, zama ukuthola okuhle. Ngokuqonda, bhekisa ezingqondweni zezingane mayelana nokuhlangana kabusha, kodwa ungabondli.
THOLA NGENA
Uma nje uhlukanisile nomyeni wakho, ungafake ikhasi bese uqala impilo entsha, ukhohlwe ngakho konke okwedlule. Eqinisweni, ngemva kokuhlukanisa, kungcono ukuthi abashadile bebengakwazi ukuhlangana okungenani okokuqala - ukufutheka nokubopha ngokomzwelo kunamandla kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, uma kukhona ingane, ngeke kwenzeke ukuba ihlukane kuze kube phakade. Obaba babadala abakwazi futhi akufanele babe khona. Khumbula izithakazelo zomntwana. Vumela umyeni wakho futhi angazange asebenze, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi umshado wakho awuphumelelanga, ngoba izingane zakho zazalwa futhi zakhula othandweni! Ungavumeli umyeni wangaphambili ukuthi abone ingane, ungammangazeli, futhi ungatshele izingane mayelana nokuxabana kwakho noyise. Phela, ukukhulumisana kukababa nezingane kubaluleke kakhulu kuzo zombili izinhlangothi.
Isimo 1. Wabe ukhathazekile kakhulu lapho uhlukanisile nomyeni wakho. Nokho, uyaqonda ukuthi indodana yakho evamile idinga ukuxhumana noyise. Awulindele ukuba umyeni akhumbule izidingo zomntwana, futhi ungalokothi unqikaze ukumtshela ngezibopho zendodana. Ucabanga ukuthi uthembekile kakhulu.
Yebo, ukhethe isimo sengqondo esifanele. Ubeke ngokucacile okubalulekile kwakho: ukusindisa ingane kayise - futhi uthathe zonke izinyathelo ezingenzeka ukuze wenze lokhu, ungavumeli izikhalazo zakho ziphumelele phezu kwalesi simo. Ngenxa yalokho, bonke ababambiqhaza kule ndaba banqobile.
Kubalulekile ukuthi awuzange uqale ukwenza inhlekelele kusukela ekuhlukaneni kwakho kusukela ekuqaleni. Izingane zizwa sengathi zikhona abantu abadala futhi "zizibukoze". Uma ubuhlungu, ukukhala, ukubulawa, indodana yakho nayo izozizwa ixhala futhi ididekile. Uma uphawula umyeni wakho (ikakhulukazi ngamehlo), ingane ingathatha amagama akho kwi-akhawunti yakho. Umsebenzi wakho ukuchaza ukuthi umama nobaba abazange bahlukanise ukuze bahlukane, kepha wonke umuntu ajabule.
AKUSIKHULU
Yile ndlela indlela yokudumisa eyaziwa kakhulu wesilisa ezwakalayo. Abanesithakazelo ekushintsheni izindiza, ngokulinganisa i-irikiki ebhokisini le-sandbox, ukuhlola izifundo ... Ngempela, amadoda amaningi azizwa esondelene nengane lapho ehlala emphakathini, lapho engathintana nezinga lobuhlakani. Futhi into eyinhloko kumama ukushiya indoda yangaphambili ithuba lokubonisa isithakazelo sakhe nemizwa yakhe ngomntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungakanani ubudala.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, emadodeni, isisulu sikababa senziwa ngokuxhumana nomntwana.
Isimo 2. Uhlukanisile nomyeni wakho lapho umntwana eneminyaka engu-6 ubudala. Kwakunzima kuwe ukukhohlwa izikhalazo zakho, kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke wathukuthelelwa isimo sengqondo somuntu wangaphambili kumyeni wakhe. Kathathu ngesonto wavakashela i-gym, eseduze nomuzi wakho. Kodwa akakaze kwenzeke kuye ukuvakashela ingane. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, waqala ukubona ukuthi ingane yakho ibuye ikwazi kabanzi mayelana nobaba ofunda nabo-ukuthi bangabani, bayabathokozisa ... Uyaqonda ukuthi ingane ihluleka kanjani ukuxhumana noyise. Ubize abazali bomyeni wakho wangaphambili futhi wabamema ukuba bavakashele. Futhi bathonya indodana: wabe eseqaphela ngokwengeziwe - waqala ukuya emntwaneni, wachitha isikhathi esiningi naye. Usuyakhathazeka kumyeni wangaphambili, kodwa awuphazamisi ukuxhumana kwakhe nengane, ngoba uyaqonda ukuthi kuye kubalulekile futhi.
Awu ...
Kukhona izinto ongafanele uzenze futhi ngaphansi kwezimo. Uma kungenjalo, usengozini yokulahlekelwa yithemba lomntanakho futhi ubhekene nokuhlupheka kwengqondo.
✓ UNGAKUTHI uthole ubuhlobo nengane.
✓ Ungalokothi usole ingane yakho ngokufana noyise.
✓ Ungakhulumi imishwana efana nokuthi "Ubaba akasithandi".
✓ AKUKHO ucele ingane ukuthi yini okufanele ayitshele uyise nokuthi nini.
✓ AKUBA ukuphazamisa ukukhulumisana kukababa nezingane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso. Kungani unikeza izaba kubo bobabili ukuba bakuphikise kamuva?
NOMA UKUFANELE KUNGAZI
Bobabili amadodana namadodakazi badinga ukukhulumisana okuningi, ukuze umbono wabo wezwe ungabodwa. Indlela yokugcwalisa ukulahlekelwa kokunakekelwa kwengane enganeni?
✓ Kubalulekile ukuba izinyane libone ukumomotheka kwakho, wazi futhi uqonde ukuthi unina ukhula, ujabulele impilo kanye nengane yakhe.
✓ Ukuphila kwakho akufanele kubekwe kuphela ubudlelwane bomndeni. Vumela ingane ukuba idlale kakhulu nabafana namantombazane asebudala bakhe, buke ukuthi abesifazane abadala bakhuluma kanjani nabayeni babo noma abangane babo.
✓ Nikeza indodana yakho esigabeni sezemidlalo. Ezinye zezinto eziyisisekelo "umbono wesilisa wezwe" zizokwethula umqeqeshi noma abagijimi abakhulu. Amantombazane kufanele akhethe iklabhu yokudansa, lapho eyohlala khona nomfana ngababili. Ngakho angafunda ukuxhumana nobulili obuhlukile.
✓ Yakha nendodana yakho nendodakazi yakho izinhlelo zokuphila, uphuphe. Ngakho uzoqonda ukuthi yini ingane yakho efuna.
✓ Thola ndawonye ukuthi yini ongayenza manje ukuthi ujabule, ngoba yini usubonga kakade ngokuphila komunye nomunye. Kungaba ukuhamba engadini ye-botanical, imidlalo, ukulungiselela ngokuhlanganyela kokudla kanye nokuhlanza indlu.
✓ Ungayishintshi imisebenzi kayise endodaneni yakho noma indodakazi yakho kumthandekayo wakho. Ungasheshi - ake othandekayo kunabo bonke bangabangane.