Abanye abantu bayashada, bese behlukanisa. Imishado ephela ngesahlukaniso, ezimweni eziningi aziphinde zihlanganise. Eminyakeni yamuva, inani lehlukaniso emhlabeni jikelele laqala ukwanda. Yiziphi izimbangela eziyinhloko zesehlukaniso? Imiphumela yocwaningo ngabachwepheshe bezengqondo kanye nezenhlalo zezenhlalakahle kubonisa ukuthi izisusa zesehlukaniso kanye nesizathu sokuhlukanisa kunezizathu eziningana nezizathu ezingenangqondo.
Ukungabikho kwezibopho eziphathelene nomshado, ukungahambisani ngokobulili nokungathembeki komunye wabashade. Imishado akusiyo njalo uthando. Ngezinye izikhathi abantu bashada, benza izinqumo ezisheshayo, futhi lapho bethola ukuthi okulindelekile akulungile, ubuhlobo buphukile.
Isizathu sesehlukaniso singaba ukuhluleka kokuxhumana phakathi kwabashade. Ngaphandle kokuxhumeka okusheshayo nezithakazelo ezivamile, ubudlelwane ngeke bube bude futhi buhle. Ukuhlambalaza nokunganaki komunye wabalingani kwenza ibanga phakathi kwalabo abashade, okungabangela ukuhlukana ebuhlotsheni.
Utshwala
Namuhla, ngokuvamile ukugqugquzela isahlukaniso kungukudakwa ngokweqile, ukudakwa noma ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa ngomunye wabashade (ikakhulukazi amadoda). Imikhuba emibi, izinguquko ekuziphatheni komlingani zidala umthelela omubi ekulinganiseni kwengqondo nokuvikeleka ngokomzimba.
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba
Ngokuvamile ubudlova ngokomzimba, ikakhulukazi amadoda kwabesifazane, kuba yisisusa sokuhlukanisa.
Izimo ezinjalo zidinga isinyathelo ngokushesha. Uma usesimweni esiyingozi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uzihlukanise ngokushesha nomuntu onjalo kanye nobuhlobo naye.
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba komunye womshado noma, ikakhulukazi, kubantwana bakho akumukeleki.
Ukungezwani kwezenkolo
Isizathu sokuhlukanisa singaba ingxabano yezinkolelo noma amafilosofi, kanye nokuhlukana kwezenkolo. Ngezinye izikhathi ngesikhathi esaziwayo nasezinyangeni zokuqala zomshado abashadile abathinteki ukubaluleka kulezi zingxabano, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanele bangaba isizathu sangempela sokuhlukanisa.
Isizathu sokuhlukanisa
Ukuhlukanisa kuwukucindezeleka kubo bobabili bomshado. Isizathu sesehlukaniso singaba nezici ezihlukahlukene ezingathinta ubuhlobo bomshado.
Lokhu nokusola, ukudelela, ukuphindiselela. Ukuxhashazwa kwezingane: ubudlova noma ukuziphatha ngokobulili okungalungile kubantwana: phakathi kwezimbangela zesehlukaniso, lesi simo sidinga isinyathelo esiphuthumayo kakhulu. Kudingeka ukulinganisa wena kanye nezingane ukuxhumana nalo muntu futhi ngokushesha ufune usizo lochwepheshe!
Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okungenamkhawulo
Izifo zengqondo ezingalawulwa komunye womlingani zingase zingaphephe omunye.
Izisusa zesehlukaniso kanye nesizathu sesehlukaniso zihlangene kakhulu.
Izimbangela zesehlukaniso yizimo lapho abashadile bexoxa khona kabi futhi bangakwazi ukuxazulula ngokuthula ukuxabana kwabo. Ukuhluleka ukuxazulula izimpikiswano zezimpikiswano yizikhalazo ezivame kakhulu zokuqhathanisa imibhangqwana. Ngaphambi kokuba wenqabe umshado, zama ukufunda indlela yokuxazulula izinkinga emndenini ngokuthula nangaphandle kokungqubuzana. Uma kungenjalo, emshadweni wesibili ungase uzithole usesimweni esifanayo.
Uhlobo lentshisekelo luyashintsha ngesikhathi, imizwa iphela futhi ukuqala kwe-heady kokuqala kuthola ikhwalithi ehlukile esikhathini esizayo. Uma ungashintshi isimo sakho sengqondo kumlingani wakho futhi ungabe usishaya indiva yothando - isehlukaniso esikhathini esizayo akunakugwemeka.
Izinkinga zemali
Imali noma izici ezihlobene nazo zingabangela imbangela yokungavumelani phakathi kwemibhangqwana. Imibhangqwana eshadile ingakwazi ukuphikisana ezindabeni ezinjengomthwalo wemfanelo jikelele wezezimali, isikhundla sezimali esingalingani, isimo sezimali esingachaziwe, ukusebenzisa imali nokuntuleka kwezimali.
Okuhlangenwe nakho kubonisa ukuthi imali akuyona njalo kuphela noma isizathu esiyinhloko sokuhlukanisa. Noma kunjalo, zisabalulekile ekuhlukumezeni ubudlelwane bomshado.
IBhayibheli lisitshela ukuthi umshado udalwa nguNkulunkulu ngokuphila. Ngakho-ke, abashadile kufanele bacabange ukuthi bangafunda kanjani ukuxazulula ukungezwani, ngokubambisana bahlukane nobunzima, futhi bangalweli isahlukaniso.