Kulula kakhulu ukujwayelana nabafana, into esemqoka nje ungabi namahloni. Zitholele ezinye izinto zokuzilibazisa, izinto zokuzilibazisa. Lokhu ngokuqinisekile kuzokusiza esikhathini esizayo lapho ukhuluma nomngane wakho omusha. Ukukwazi nabesilisa abaneminyaka eyi-10-13 engcono kuncike ekuthandweni okufanayo. Ngemuva kwalokho, njengoba bethi, izinto ezizilibazisa ezifanayo ziletha abantu ndawonye. Okokuqala, qaphela abafana abakuzungezile ekuphileni kwakho kwansuku zonke. Isibonelo, esikoleni, egcekeni, kumbuthano, lapho uya khona. Ngendlela, le ndlela yokugcina iyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthola umfana. Lapha unesithakazelo esifanayo, futhi ubona cishe nsuku zonke. Yebo, futhi inzuzo ebalulekile ohlangothini lwakho kuyoba ukuthi ungakwazi njalo ukusizana.
Uqala nje ngombuzo: "Uhlobo luni lomfana okufanele lube ngu-10-13? Futhi uyini "umfana ovamile" ofanele wena? ". Lapha, ngicabanga ukuthi abafana abangaphezu kweminyaka engu-15 abafanelanga kahle nawe. Uma esekhulile, akukho okuhle okuzovela kuwo. Abafana babe nemibono ehluke ngokuphelele ebuhlotsheni nentombazane kanye nomdala osekudala, okuzoba nzima ngaye. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi awukhulile njengoba ucabanga. Futhi injongo eyinhloko yokwazisa kwakho ubuhlobo, ukukhulumisana, ukuhamba okuhlangene nokusiza omunye nomunye kunoma yini. Ngakho, ngaleso sikhathi, kungcono ukuqala ngobuhlobo obuseduze phakathi kwakho nomfana. Ngendlela, futhi encane kune-10-13 (kuncike ukuthi ungakanani okwamanje), funa umfana, futhi, akufanelekile. Khumbula ukuthi amantombazane kule minyaka akhula ngokushesha kakhulu kunabesilisa. Ngakho-ke, ngeke nje ube nesithakazelo ekukhulumisaneni, njengoba uzoba nemibono ehluke ngokuphelele yezwe. Ngakho-ke, ake sonke sifinyelele okufanayo kumbuzo okufanele uzibuze wona. Ake sicabange ndawonye, ngakho-ke, umfana ovamile, ngokuyinhloko smart, "epholile" (wena nezintombi zakho), umfana okhuthele futhi onomphakathi futhi ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngempela ukuthobeka. Abafana abanesibindi abaseminyakeni yakho abadingi. Ngokuvamile, uma impendulo yakho yile, kufanelekile ukubuka umngane, uqale kulezi zimfanelo zobuntu bakhe.
Njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, zama ukufuna umfana, oqondiswa ukufana kwezithakazelo zakho ezivamile naye. Kuletha ndawonye futhi kusize ukuchitha isikhathi kakhulu bezijabulisa. Emva kwakho konke, unento eyodwa efana nayo, ngenxa yokuthi bobabili nizofunda lokhu noma lolo hlobo luthando. Uma ungenalo ithuba lokuvakashela ama-mugs. Ungakhathazeki. Hlela usesho lwakho kumfana ngendlela ehlukile - vakashela kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka ama-discos esikoleni kanye neminye imisebenzi esikoleni sakho. Ngakho-ke, uzokwazi okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka namadoda avela ku-parallel yakho, ongakaze uyibone ngaphambili. Futhi njengoba bethi: awazi - ngeke uqonde. Ngakho, bheka, ngokuzumayo phakathi kwabo, futhi uzothola isikhulu sakho. Awuzange uyibone ngalesi sigaba. Uma u-100% uqinisekile ukuthi izikole azizona ezakho futhi isifiso sakho esiyinhloko ukuthola umfana ongenalutho nokuphila kwesikole sakho. Khona-ke kufanelekile ukufuna umfana kwezinye izindawo. Isibonelo, thatha intombi yakho bese uphuma naye endaweni yokudlala noma ebhishi. Joyina amantombazane ukudlala okuthize (i-volleyball, i-tennis, mhlawumbe ngisho nebhola) futhi ingxoxo izoboshwa yodwa, ngeke uqaphele nokuthi uzoba kanjani nomngane omusha futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, akukho nhlobo. Uzokhetha kuphela okudingeka ukwenze ukunambitha. Abafana bakho bayakwazisa njalo ontanga yabo, yimuphi umuntu osebenzayo, othakazelisayo futhi ojabule wena. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kulesi simo, ungalokothi ukwesaba nje ukuhambisa futhi ubuze umfana ukuthi, isibonelo, igama lakhe likhona nokuthi kungenzeka yini ukujoyina lo mdlalo.
Futhi, ungasebenzisa i-Intanethi. Ngendlela, esikhathini sethu, i-intanethi ikhuphuka zigcwele izingosi ezihlukahlukene ezenzelwe ukuphola, lapho ungathola khona umuntu ngokulingana nesigaba sakhe sonyaka. Futhi, ungakhohlwa ukubhalisa ezihlukahlukene zokuxhumana nomphakathi (isibonelo, i-VKontakte). Qinisekisa ukuthi lapho uzohlangana nabaningi abasondelene abazobe bengacabangi, baxoxe nawe. Shintsha izinombolo zocingo futhi ungakhohlwa ukuhlela imihlangano empilweni yangempela. Amadoda amaningi - izinketho eziningi. Ungakhohlwa ngakho. Ufuna ngempela ukuthola umfana omuhle kakhulu. Ngakho-ke ungesabi ukuhamba phezu kwabafana ngenkathi kunethuba elinjalo, lisebenzise. Amantombazane, ngendlela ayamukela ngokwengeziwe isifiso sensizwa ukuba azijwayele. Ngakho ungakhathazeki ngokuthi unento ethile, mhlawumbe ngeke isebenze. Yiba ngokwakho, wenze ngokwemvelo futhi ngokukhululekile. Njalo ufike emhlanganweni ngokumomotheka kanye nomoya omuhle. Khumbula iminyaka yakho idinga yona. Tshela ngangokunokwenzeka ngawe futhi ufunde mayelana nomfana ngaye, lokhu kuzokusiza bobabili ukuba nisondelane.
Ukudweba umugqa ngaphansi kwazo zonke ezibhalwe ngenhla, ngizosho ukuthi ukuzijwayeza nabafana abaneminyaka engu-10-13 akuyona inkinga kakhulu, lo mhlobo ungaba ngisho nobuhlobo. Into esemqoka ukukwazi ukuzibonakalisa ohlangothini oluhle, ukuthi uzoba nesithakazelo kuwe. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi usasaphambili. Kungani ugijima izinto ngaphambi kwesikhathi sakho. Uma uthanda wena ngokushesha noma kamuva, njengomfana, uzothola ithuba lokujwayela wena, ngakho ungasheshi. Konke ngesikhathi esifanele. Lapha anginakuzaza ukuthi embuzweni wakho mayelana nokuthandana nomfana, nonke nizokwaziswa ukuba nifunde. Futhi ufunda ngokungathí sina ngenkathi, uzoba nesikhathi sokuthi uzuze ubuntwana bakho. Uyothanda futhi uthande isikhathi esengeziwe. Kodwa noma ngabe kwakunjani, futhi noma yini, awuzange unqume, ngithemba ukuthi kunoma yikuphi ukulingana nobudala, uzothola umfana omuhle.