Ukukwazi nentombazane. Lokhu kungafundwa kanjani? Amadoda ayesaba futhi abalekele into enesifiso sabo, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukuhlaziya ukwesaba okuvakashela isigamu esiphezulu sabantu. Ukwenqaba.
Okungenani kanye, bonke abalimi abaphikisana nabo babenqatshelwe. Indoda ithola isakhiwo esiyinkimbinkimbi futhi isaba ukuzijwayeza. Ungaphakamisa ikhala lakho - kungani sidinga indoda esaba isithunzi sayo? Ungakwazi ukukhombisa ukuzenzekela futhi wazi ngokwakho - esikhathini sethu sokuqeda futhi akunakwenzeka ... Yebo, ukhetho lwesithathu ukufunda ngokuhlakanipha, ukunikeza inombolo yefoni yakho.
I-Consent.
I-tet yezinzwa emuntwini owatholwa ezandleni zento ethandekayo yathandeka i-tsiferki - kuvamile. Ukwehla kwesilisa kulesi sigaba kuseduze nomphawu olubucayi, ngakho-ke kunezindlela ezimbili kuphela: ukuzibiza, noma ukulinda isinyathelo esivela kule ntombazane.
"Bayohleka mina!".
Yebo, indoda ingase ibe yinto yokuhleka usulu izintombi zakho, ngakho-ke ukuze ugweme izigameko, kungcono ukusindisa ulwazi olusha lwesimo esinjalo, futhi uyisuse ekhamphani "okubi".
Ukungaqiniseki komhlaba.
Ukunikezwa: amadoda amaningi angalondekile nomfazi oyedwa omuhle etafuleni e-cafe.
Thola: izinketho zokuphola.
Isinqumo: mhlawumbe intombazane enhle izolinda isikhathi esizayo isikhulu esinqumile, kodwa kuhle, kodwa amadoda angalondekile ayoyesaba. Yini? Ubuhle, ama-stereotypes, okuthiwa "umsebenzi" wobuhle.
Umphumela: intombazane iya ekhaya yodwa.
Okuthile akuzizwa sengathi ...
Ubuvila bomhlaba bubizwa ngobuciko, ngakho ukungafuni ukuchitha isikhathi eside ukuchitha amandla ebuntwini abalulekile ekuthandweni kuchazwa ubuvila. Ukubuka, ukuchophaza nokushiya - ukuchitha isikhathi okuthandayo okuvilaphayo, noma nje abantu abamatasa.
Ukubuyiselwa kokuzethemba.
Indlela yokufunda ukujwayela amantombazane ukuze singalimazi, futhi amandla alo mhlaba, konke kwavela?
Indlela yokuqala ukujwayela okungaqondile. Umbuzo mayelana nendawo yephoyisa eliseduzane elisetshenzisiwe yensimbi noma indawo yelabhulali ngeke ibophe, kodwa ingasiza ekuxoxweni okuqhubekayo.
Indlela yesibili ukukhubaza ama-stereotypes. Kuzuzisa uma usaphila ukulahla yonke "imikhosi" yayo ngamantombazane amahle amantombazane, "ukuzithokozisa" emgwaqweni nokuphela kwezwe ngokungabi khona kwekholi elithembisiwe!
Okwesithathu ukukhipha ukuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi ekhanda lakhe. Vele uthathe futhi wenze - indlela engcono kakhulu yokuzijwayeza.
Futhi wokugcina. Isimo sengqondo esihle asizange siphazamise noma ubani, ngakho-ke shintshela ipeni lokucabangela ekhanda lakho esikhundleni se-"Super-order" futhi phambili, ekufundeni nasekufundeni okusebenzayo ngezinselelo zokuthandana kahle namantombazane!
Elena Romanova , ikakhulukazi indawo