Indoda enjalo ngeke ikubize ukuthi ushade. Kuwuvila kakhulu ukuba adonse inombolo yakho futhi abuze nokuthi ibhizinisi lakho liyiliphi. Uvame ukubiza kanye ngenyanga futhi kuphela lapho efuna khona. Kodwa kungenakuzwa izwi lakhe e-tube, uphonsa konke futhi ugijime kuye. Futhi ekuseni ngokuzayo uyazibuza umbuzo: "Kungani konke lokhu?" Nakuba kungaba ngcono kakhulu ukubuza: "Kungani?"
Kuphekwe
"Ubudlova obunothando", "uthando lwesifo", "ukulungiswa ngokweqile" - ezweni le-psychotherapy kunamagama ayishumi nambili, ngosizo lokuthi kungenzeka ukuba luchaze lo mkhuba njengento eqanjiwe yowesifazane kumuntu. Abesifazane abaningi, lesi sifo sibonakala sisebancane futhi ngokuvamile "siphulukiswa" ngokushesha kakhulu. Njengoba sithole isipiliyoni esibuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa esiyigugu, thina, njengombuso, sithole ukuzivikela okuphila isikhathi eside ukuze singabi nempilo enempilo kakhulu.
Kodwa ezweni lethu, ukuzisola okukhulu, ungahlangana nalabo okuthiwa izisulu eziphakade ezingakwazi ukuchitha kumuntu "ongalungile" okungaphezu konyaka owodwa wokuphila kwakhe. Ngendlela, iqiniso eliqakathekileko ukuthi bangakwazi ukubala inani elilodwa. Ngokwezibalo, ama-23% wezocansi ezihlelekile abahlala emadolobheni amakhulu akakaze ashade. I-11% yabo engaba ngu-5-6 iminyaka yokuphila kwakhe yachitha indoda eyayingaboshwa ngumshado, ngisho nasengqondweni. Yiqiniso, laba besifazane kunzima kakhulu ukufakazela inani lokukhohliswa. Kuzo, akekho ozama ukufaka amathemba amanga. Njengoba beqaphela ngokuphelele ukungabi nalutho kwalesi simo, bafaka i-vzdravom ingqondo kanye nezizathu bazibonela ngesizathu sosizo lombhalo owodwa kuphela: "Angikwazi ukushintsha noma yini futhi ngeke ngisize! Ngidonsa kanjani umlenze, njengamanye amathempeli afihliwe! Futhi kuphela ngithola naye injabulo engazilibaleki! ". Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi leli qiniso liyiqiniso, abesifazane abanjalo banqatshelwe ngokulinganayo bonke abantu abafanelekayo nabajwayelekile.
Ngokuvamile, la madoda anesimo esijwayelekile, kodwa lona wesifazane uthola into ethile ekhethekile, eqala ukuheha nokudonsa. Isici esiyinhloko esihlanganisa bonke laba abamele "uhlobo" olulodwa - ukuziphatha okubi, isimo sengqondo ebusweni, imfihlakalo nokuqedwa okuphelele. Ngamanye amazwi, okuphambene ngqo nalabo okuthiwa "abahle". Yilokho okuheha owesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunzima kakhulu ukuthi umuntu onjalo agcinwe noma akhonywe ubulili, futhi umcabango wokuthi "umuntu, hhayi ukuthi ngilale futhi ngichitha isikhathi naye ..." nje kungikhathaza. Ngemuva komhlangano ngamunye, wena, kanye nenjabulo engavumelekile, uzizwa uhlane olusendle kanye nomqondo ongaziwa, futhi ingabe umhlangano wakho uzophindaphinda futhi? Lona umgodi omnyama - lapho ehamba noma enjabulweni ekupheleni kokuphelelwa amandla - lapho evele ngokuzumayo. Uma uthanda, awukwazi ukuyivuselela, noma ukuphumelela lokho okukucasulayo, kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho ezenza uzizwe, uyakhohlwa ngokushesha konke. Futhi ngisho noma uziphindaphinda ukuthi lokhu akunakwenzeka, ungavumi ukuphindaphinda kaningi ... Kuzo zonke lezi zindlela ezijabulisayo, umhlangano kufanele uhlanganyele isikhathi esingapheli, futhi uphendule umbuzo othi "Sizohlangana nini?" Ukhawula kuphela amahlombe akhe. Futhi umzimba wakho uyamdabukisa. Lokhu ukulutha kwengqondo kocansi okuphelele, okwakhiwe ngomgomo wenzuzo.
Inzuzo
Kulabo besifazane, njengoba umthetho, ubulili buhlukaniswa nomzwelo. Ukukhanga okungokomzimba okungenakugwenywa kunesisekelo sengqondo. Isizathu sokuqala nesinye sezimbangela ezibaluleke kakhulu - ekuboneni kuqala, indoda evamile iyavumelana ngokuphelele nomfanekiso we-macho yangempela, oye wamema ngokuphindaphindiwe emibonweni yakho. Enkumbulweni, kukhululwa imishwana, izenzo, izenzo. Ziyiphasiwedi enhliziyweni yakho. Wena ezingeni lokungaqondakali kulindeleke ukuthi "uzothola". Ngaphezu kwakho konke, lokhu kuthanda kuthatha amandla ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka, ngemuva kwefasitela, kanye nasemphefumulweni, bonke bayagonywa ngamathoni amhlophe. Kodwa kukhona ingozi ukuthi ngempela engozini ikhiye izothatha umuntu engalungile oyidingayo ngempela. Futhi ilokhi izokwenyuka endaweni, futhi uzobe uboshwe ekudleni kwakho ngezinye izikhathi isikhathi eside.
Ngelinye ilanga, izazi zengqondo zazama ukuhlukumezeka ngama-nudes. Iqembu elilodwa lezilwane lalingavunyelwe ukunakekelwa: ama-pups ayelokhu ekhishwa. Abanye - akekho oye wangena. Okwesithathu, bese unaka, ke cha. Ama-puppies eqembu lesithathu abe esondelene kakhulu nabanikazi.
Abantu abakule ndaba abahambanga kude nalezi zingane. Ukugeza okuphambene ngokomzwelo, okubizwa ngokuthi i-psychology ngokudlala "eduze-kude" kuyindlela enhle yokubopha umlingani wakho. Ikakhulukazi uma ingxoxo ikhuluma ngomuntu wesifazane futhi ongenakho ngokuphelele. Embhedeni, ukuthokoza kunamandla kakhulu kunomlingani ohlangene nohla lokushisa. Futhi ngenxa yezifiso ezingavamile, usukulungele ukubhekana nephuphu elibuhlungu. Zisuse enaliti yomzwelo futhi iphazamise umshuwalense wokuthi ngokungazelelwe omunye umuntu ngeke abe ipharadesi elinjalo.
Ngendlela, abesifazane bavame ukuba baningi amathuba kunokuba amadoda azibeke icala ngoba ubuhlobo abuphumelelanga. Lapha "i-complex complex student" iqala ukusebenza: konke kufanele kube ngu-5 +. Kodwa ngesikhathi samaphutha, ukuhlolwa kuyasuswa. Uthisha oqinile uyindoda lapha futhi angeke abanjwe nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kodwa ngeke akunike ibhola eliphakeme kakhulu elingalingana nendima: "Ngizoba nguwe!". Kuphela ngezikhathi zobuseduze uzizwa ukuthi konke kuvele futhi kungokwakho kuphela. Eqinisweni, uphenduka kakhulu, kodwa ukushintsha okuthile akusikhathi nje kuphela, kodwa nesifiso. Futhi lokhu kuvelaphi, uma yonke into engokwenyama nengqondo idonswa ukulinda ukumiswa?
Insindiso
Ukuphuma nge-hook yezocansi, kudingeka uqaphele - u-uvass ngeke athole ukushintsha umlingani. Futhi akanandaba nhlobo into eguqukile ebuhlotsheni bakho - konke kuhambisana naye! Kodwa udinga usizo eqinisweni. Yilokho izazi zezokwelapha ezilulekayo:
Asikho isidingo sokuzama ukumbopha . Owesifazane, lokho kuxhomeke, ulungele ukuphuma ngaphakathi ukuhlazisa indoda. Ukholelwa ngenhliziyo yakhe yonke ukuthi uma enza konke akufunayo, lokho kuzoshintsha isimo sonke. Maye, leli qhinga lingafaneleki futhi libi, lo muntu ujwayele iqiniso lokuthi uyahamba nazo zonke izinto.
Awudingi ukuhileleka emidlalweni . Isisekelo sokunamathiswa okubuhlungu yizinhlobonhlobo zemidlalo-ezinye izinkolelo zokuxhumana lapho zonke izindima zihanjiswa khona. Wena, cishe, wanikezwa indima yesigqila esithulile, esingasolwa futhi sithethelelwe. Okungenani ngenxa yelukuluku zama ukuphula lesi script.
Hlala kude ne-hook . Kunzima ukwenqaba izidakamizwa, uma zihlala zikhona. Shiya umuzi ngesikhathi. Enye. Lapho, lapho ungathola khona umuntu omusha. Okokuqala, susa lesi sifo. Yeka ukucabanga ngezinkinga bese uzenza ngokwakho. Futhi uma ubuya, ungabukeli imihlangano "ngokugula" kwakho.
"Phonsa" ophahleni . Le ndlela yaseNtshonalanga ibhekwa njengendlela ephumelela kakhulu yokuqeda ukulutha. Isimpumputhe kusuka ebumbeni leqhawe lakho, khona-ke yilowo nalowo aphule yonke imilenze yakhe (kufaka nalona), futhi i-wreckage ulahlela phezulu. Kulo mzuzwana, funga phezulu. Ngemuva kwenqubo enjalo, bathi, ukuthembela kuya ekuphileni.