Ngemuva kokuba abazali bahlukanise, ingane, njengombuso, ihlala nomunye wabazali bayo. Umzali wesibili ngokulondeka kwawo ukhokha alimony ngaphambi kokufika kweminyaka. Ingane kumele ikhulume nazo zonke izihlobo zayo futhi zibazi, futhi inelungelo lokuxhumana nabazali bazo. Akunakwenzeka ukukuvimbela ezenzweni zakho noma ekuzondweni komuntu siqu. Uma abazali bengakwazi ukuxoxisana ngokuthula mayelana nesikhathi nokuhleleka kokuxhumana nendodakazi yabo noma indodana yabo, inkantolo ingayinquma lokhu ngokubamba iqhaza kwezindikimba zokuqapha kanye ne-trusteeship.
Kuzothatha:
- Isicelo enkantolo yesifunda,
- ipasipoti,
- isicelo kwizindikimba zokuqapha kanye ne-trusteeship,
- iphakheji lobufakazi obuqinile.
Isehlukaniso sabazali sibheka ingqondo yengane kakhulu. Emva kokuba ingane ithanda omabili, nobaba, futhi abanecala, ukuthi abazali abafisi ukuhlala ndawonye. Kule nkathi enzima yokuphila kwakhe, ingane kufanele igweme ngokuqinile ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo ukungaphazanyiswa nokuxhumana nezihlobo kanye nomunye umzali. Amalungelo wengane encane ukuxhumana nezihlobo zombili, nokwazi izihlobo zabo, zihleliwe ngokomthetho.
Umzali ingane ehlala naye ihlangabezana nemizwelo emibi komunye umlingani, kodwa konke lokhu akusho ukuthi uvunyelwe ukuvimbela ukuxhumana nendodakazi yakhe noma nendodana yakhe. Kungancikelwa kuphela uma kunesithakazelo esihle somntwana. Futhi ukwenza lokhu, udinga ukufaka isicelo esibhaliwe enkantolo futhi wazise i-ejensi yokugcinwa kanye ne-trusteeship ngakho.
Ukuze inkantolo icabangele leli cala, kuyadingeka ukuba inikeze ubufakazi bokuthi ukuphazanyiswa kanye nokuvinjelwa kokuxhumana kufana nezithakazelo zabancane. Kumelwe kubhalwe ukuthi umzali wesibili ufika ngolunye usuku ngendlela engavumelekile: esimweni sokudakwa ngokweqile noma ukuphuza ngokweqile, ungumlutha wotshwala noma umlutha wezidakamizwa, akakhokhi okuqukethwe, amthinte kabi kabi ingqondo yengane.
Inkantolo kuphela enganquma ukuthi ukuxhumana kungaphazanyiswa noma kungalinganiselwe. Kwezinye izimo, kuphikisana nomthetho ukuvimbela ingane ukuthi ingabonisi nezihlobo noma umzali wesibili. Umzali onqunywe yinkantolo noma ophazamise ukuxhumana angase afake isicelo sokuphikisa futhi afakazele ukuthi indodakazi yakhe noma indodana yakhe idinga ukuxhumana naye, ngoba ungumuntu ofanelekayo futhi angakwazi ukuxhumana nomntwana.
Umzali ohlala ngokwehlukana nomntanakho angahlanganyela ekukhuliseni kwakhe, unelungelo lokuxhumana nengane ekuxazululeni izinkinga zemfundo yengane.
Umzali okungekho umntwana wakhe ophila naye akanalo ilungelo lokuphazamisa ukuxhumana kwengane yakhe nomunye umzali, uma lokhu kukhulumisana kungalimazi ukuthuthukiswa kokuziphatha, impilo yengqondo nengokwenyama yengane.
Abazali bangangena esivumelwaneni ngendlela abazali abahlala ngokwehlukana ngayo. Isivumelwano kufanele siphethwe ngokubhala.
Uma abazali bengavumelani, impikiswano phakathi kwabo ingaxazululwa yinkantolo ngokubamba iqhaza kwegunya lokugcinwa, ngokucela komunye wabazali.
Uma umzali onecala engathobeli isinqumo senkantolo, izinyathelo ziyasetshenziswa kuye ezihlinzekwe ngumthetho womphakathi. Uma kwenzeka ukwehluleka okungalungile ukuhambisana nezinqumo zenkantolo, uma omunye wabazali ephazamisa ukuxhumana nengane ehlala ngokwehlukana, inkantolo, ngokucabangela umbono kanye nezintshisekelo zengane, ingenza isinqumo futhi imnike ingane.