Isizukulwane ngasinye sikhonona ukuthi, bathi, intsha namuhla "ayiyena", igqoka futhi iziphatha "akunjalo" nokuthi ngokuvamile "kwakungcono ngaphambi". Kodwa-ke, intsha yanamuhla inesiphambeko esibi kakhulu, i-infantilism, noma ukungafuni ukukhula. Lokhu kubonakala hhayi kuphela ngabazali, othisha nabachwepheshe bezengqondo. Abafazi abakwanelisekile ngamadoda omncane, namakhosikazi angamadoda angamazinyane ... Futhi akubhekisele ekunciphiseni kwengqondo ngokomzimba ngenxa yokuntuleka kwe-oksijeni ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ukuphazamiseka kwemithi kanye nezinye izinkinga zempilo - nangomqondo ongokwenyama wengqondo. Futhi nakuba kungenalo lutho ngezakhi zofuzo kanye ne-congenital akakho, ngabazali "abazuzisa" izindlalifa zalolu hlobo ngesiphambeko, i-infantilism - ukungathandi komuntu ukukhula.
Kukhona igama elinjalo "kumele"
Izimpawu "zobuthakathaka" - i-infantilism, wonke umuntu uyazi kahle - ukungaqiniseki, ukungabi nokuzimela, ukungafuni ukusebenza nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, i-naivety, ukunganaki, izithakazelo ezingenasisekelo kanye nomzwelo oguquguqukayo - ngokufishane, konke okungafani nezingane ezincane. "Ungakhathazeki futhi ungenangqondo!" - Sang ku-tortilla edumile yefilimu i-Tortilla. Kodwa kungenye into yokuba "ungakhathazeki futhi ungenalutho" uneminyaka engu-7 ubudala, kanti nakwezinye - ngo-17 ngisho naku-37 ... Maye, kuze kube ngu-10-12 iminyaka ukuqaphela ukuthi uyindlalifa izimpawu ze-infantilism akunakwenzeka, ngoba zonke izingane ezincane zidlala ukudlala, futhi bazonda igama elithi "kumele". Kamuva, uma uneminyaka engu-13-14, lo mqondo kufanele ungaguquki ekuqondeni - ekuqondeni ukukhula, lapho ingane ifunda ukwenza kuphela lokho akufunayo nokuthandayo, kodwa futhi okudingekayo. Isibonelo, susa amathoyizi ekamelweni, thatha umfowenu osemncane enkulisa, noma u-pester amahora ngaphezu kwe-physics ehlosiwe. Okhulile ingane iba, imithwalo yemfanelo eyengeziwe, umthwalo obaluleke kakhulu okumelwe awuthwale izenzo zakhe.
Kodwa kwabanye abantwana lolu shicilelo ekuqaphelisweni ngesizathu esithile alukwenzeki, futhi baqhubeka beziphatha njengabantwana - naseminyakeni yokuguquka, nangemva kwalokho. Esikhundleni sokulalela uthisha, bakhulume ngokuzwakalayo esifundweni nomakhelwane, badonsa ezincwadini zokubhala futhi baphupha ukuya e-Afrika. Esikhundleni sokwenza umsebenzi wesikole, ukudlala amahora kwi-computer noma ... ukulala njengabantwana! Esikhundleni sokusiza abazali ekhaya, bacasulwa ukuthi abazange babasize futhi abazange bathenge into esetshenziswe isikhathi eside. Esikhundleni sokutshela iqiniso mayelana nesizathu sokuthi sekwephuzile, bafika ngezizathu zobandlululo ezifana nokuthi "Ngahamba ngawela emgodini" noma "Ipayipi yamanzi iqhuma ngokungalindelekile ekuseni." Futhi njalo.
Abanye abazali baqale bathole ukuzithokozisa okunjalo futhi bebathinta, bese bebuza: "Lo mfana uneminyaka engu-25 ubudala, futhi usehlezi entanyeni yabazali bakhe!" Futhi uzohlala, ngoba kuye kuye kukhululekile. Phela, akajwayele ukusebenza, ukuphendula ngamaphutha akhe kanye neziphambeko ezimbi. Lokhu, ngendlela, ingozi enkulu ye-infantilism. Labo abanjwe ebuntwaneni abavami ukugcwala umsebenzi ohloniphekile - emva kwakho konke, kudinga izinga eliphakeme lomthwalo wemfanelo. Futhi bayesaba ukuzwa ngokuhlonipha kwabo umshado womshado we-bravura kaMendelssohn, okhetha ukuhlala emshadweni womphakathi: uma kukhona, sizohlakazeka, futhi akekho obophekile kunoma ubani. Ngokuvamile bashintsha abangane nabalingani bocansi, ngoba bahlale bedikibala. "Infantiles" ngokungafuni ukuzala izingane: lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu! Nansi inja-enye indaba. Yiqiniso, uma uhamba naye nsuku zonke ekuseni futhi kusihlwa kuyoba khona omunye umuntu ...
Ngubani osemngciphekweni?
Isiphi isibonakaliso esingokwengqondo sokuzalwa esingakazalwa - ukungathandi komuntu ukukhula? Kukhona inguqulo eyaba yingqikithi ngenxa ... inhlalakahle ngokweqile emphakathini. Njengoba uBoris Grebenshchikov ehlabelela: "Izingane zamakhompiyutha ziyaphambuka ngoba azidingeki lutho." Intsha yanamuhla isidla nje kuphela: kokuba yonke into esuka kuma-laptops kuya emotweni, ayisayifuni ukulwela noma yini. Le mpikiswano iyaqiniseka, ikakhulukazi uma sicabanga ukuthi i-infantilism isisifo sesizukulwane esincane, hhayi kuphela e-Ukraine.
Noma kunjalo, igama lokugcina namanje kubazali. Uma bekhuthaza ngokuzimela ukuzimela nokuzimela kwengane, inzalo ayinakwenzeka ukuba 'ibambelele' ebuntwaneni isikhathi eside. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izingane ezingaphezulu, eziphazamiseke ngothando lwabazali, ukunakekelwa nokukhathalela, uphinde ungene umunwe ngomunwe. Futhi kungani kuba nzima uma abantu abadala bephethe ukondla i-spoon, umbhede uzohlushwa, amabhuzu ahlanzeke, izingubo zihlanjululwe, futhi nabo esikoleni bapake isikhwama esigcwele se-raznosolov?
Uma umama nobaba bengavumi ukuba bacabange futhi bayeke ukunakekelwa kwengane njengesiguli, ukuqinisekiswa "kwengqondo yokucabanga kwengqondo" kuqinisekiswe kuye. Ikakhulukazi uma ...
Ukuhamba kwesikhathi, ingane elinde isikhathi eside. Abazali baye baphupha ngokubukeka kwakhe iminyaka eminingi kangangokuthi balungele ukwenza yonke into "yezinkukhu" zabo ezithandekayo, ngisho noma "ikhukhu" liyisikhathi eside liphunga.
Ingane encane emndenini omkhulu. Uvame ukuhlunga, ukuqapha ngokucophelela, ukujeziswa kaningi. Kuye, njengomthetho, ama-nannies akuyona nje umama nobaba kuphela, kodwa futhi nabafowabo nodade abadala.
Abafana abavame ukugula ebuntwaneni babo. Abazali, besaba yizifo zabo ezingapheli, zama ukuvikela izindlalifa hhayi kuphela emikhankanyeni, kodwa futhi kusukela ekucindezelekeni okuncane: "Ungagumbuki phansi, kodwa ngokuzumayo uzohlakulela ukungena emthonjeni?"
Izindlalifa zokuphumelela, ezithintekayo empilweni yabantu. Abazali abakhuthele, abanamandla, abanenjongo ngezinye izikhathi babamba inzalo ngokubaluleka kanye nokuphumelela kwabo: "Ngifunde ekuqaleni ekuqaleni kwezinsuku zikaShakespeare noDickens, futhi awukwazi ukuxhuma amagama amabili ngesiNgisi!" Ekholelwa ukuthi akakwazi ukufinyelela ezingeni eliphakeme lezimpumelelo zabazali, umntwana kusengaphambili udlulela ngaphambi kwanoma yiziphi izinkinga zokuphila, uba ngumuntu onamahloni futhi ongenakulinganisela, ebuka nxazonke kumama nonina onamandla onke.
Kunesinye isikhathi esiqine kakhulu , lapho abazali abacebile begeza izingane zabo ngokunethezeka: "Ingabe uzogeza izitsha? Kuthiwani ngomgcini wezindlu?" Ngokweqile, indlu ine-daishisher. " Ngakho-ke, abantu abadala bahlakulela emadodaneni nasemadodaneni ukungazimisele ukusebenza. Kodwa ngisho noRockefeller, indoda engekho empofu, wagcina izindlalifa zakhe ezigulini zamantombazane, ezinika imali ephaketheni kuphela emsebenzini. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, ukukhishwa kwendleko yamapensela amasenti ayishumi, ihora lesifundo somculo - ezinhlanu, ngenxa yokhula eyishumi ekhishwe ensimini yokhula ingane kufanele ibe nedoli eyodwa, futhi ngokunamathela izinkuni - izinhlamvu eziyishumi nanhlanu. Ngisho nebhayisikili, kanti enye yabantwana bakaRockefeller eyodwa kwabane: ubaba wayekholelwa ukuthi ngakho-ke izingane zizofunda ukuhlanganyela.
Myeke aqhubeke nomkhankaso!
Ingabe uyesaba ukuthi ingane yakho inethuba lokuba mahhala futhi i-slacker? Bese uthatha ngokuphuthumayo ukuze umkhiphe kule nhlanzi! Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokwama-psychologists, ngesibonakaliso esingaqondakali sokuthi umuntu angakhula, ukubikezela ngokuvamile kuvumelana - izifundo zokwelashwa kwabasebenzi, ezibalulekile futhi ezibaluleke kakhulu, izabelo ezinomthwalo wemfanelo - futhi ingane ikhula phambi kwamehlo ethu! Kodwa ezimweni ezingenakiwe ikakhulukazi ngaphandle kochwepheshe angeke akwenze, ngoba ngaphandle kwengxoxo egcina umphefumulo, ungadinga nemithi.
Okokuqala sikusikisela ukuthi usebenzise izincomo zengqondo.
Khuthaza ingane ukuba ibe yedwa. Uma enquma okokuqala empilweni yakhe ukupheka pasta (okuyinto aphendukela ibe iphalishi), ungamhleki uchwepheshe ongenalwazi wokupheka. Ngaphezu kwalokho - ngezinye izindlela udumo! Futhi hhayi kuphela ngesinyathelo, kodwa futhi nesidlo sakusihlwa esilungisiwe. Futhi phakathi kwamacala angitshela ukuthi esikhathini esizayo i-pasta izoba mnandi ngisho nangaphezulu, uma ivuselela ngezinye izikhathi.
Ungalahleki nendlalifa: khuluma okuningi naye, zama ukugcina okungafani nakho konke okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Hlela amaholide omndeni, uvame ukuphumula nomndeni wonke. Izingane ezingenabantwana zingabonakali kalula futhi zingawela ngaphansi kwethonya lezinkampani ezimbi nazo zonke imiphumela ...
Cabanga ngohlu lwezinto ingane yakho engayenza. Kuzokwenza kube lula, kumsindise ekubuyiseleni okungadingekile, kumfundise indlela yokuhlela usuku lwakhe futhi athathe umthwalo wemisebenzi ethile. Ake sithi umfundi osemncane esikoleni esiphakeme uyakwazi ukuhlanza itreyi yenkathi nsuku zonke, uhlanze ikamelo lakhe bese uya esitolo isinkwa. Nika ingane imiyalelo, ibe njalo futhi iphikelele. Uma uthi: "Ukuhlanza ikati - umsebenzi wakho wansuku zonke," ke ungabi nobuvila kusihlwa ukuhlola ukuthi ngabe indlalifa yakho iyayikhumbula. Ukhohlwe? Qinisekisa ukukhumbuza! Uma ingane ifunda ukuthi ibhekene nezindaba ezincane, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngisho nezinkulu zizokwenza ngokuthembeka nangokwenza ngobuqotho.
Izingane ezingenabantwana abangama-romanticists abangenabugovu. Khumbula lokhu! Umsebenzi wakho - ukuqondisa izinkanuko zezingane zokuzijabulisa ngendlela evulekile. Ingane iphupha ngokuya kwamanye amazwe? Bhala phansi esigabeni sokuvakasha. Futhi akukhathaleki ukuthi lo mzila uzohlala eduze kwehlathi-isiteji, hhayi enkangala yaseSahara, kodwa izakhamuzi zizoletha leli phupho livela ezulwini. Ngemuva kwalokho, kuzofunda ukuthi angakha kanjani umlilo, alungise ukudla, ahambe ngezinkanyezi. Lona ukulungiselela ukuhamba kwesikhathi eside!
Indodana kaMama iyingozi!
Amadoda, umama womphefumulo ongafuni ukuphuza - wathatha isandla, wamvikela kumngane "omubi", ephazamisa izingxabano zezingane, akhula njengamadodana kamama futhi ... amadoda angenalusizo. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi ukukhulekelwa okukhulu komama kuholela ekutheni indoda ikhula ngobugovu, ikholelwa ukuthi konke okukhona kuleli zwe kuphela kuye. Akathandi ukuthatha imisebenzi engadingekile - emva kwayo yonke into eyenziwe ngumama wakhe, futhi manje, ngokusho kwelogi yakhe, konke kufanele kwenziwe ngumkayo. Amantombazane angamazinyane aziphatha njengabantwana: afuna ukuba aqoqwe emsebenzini, ukudla kwasekuseni okuphekwe kuwo, ngisho noma othandekayo engalalanga ubusuku bonke noma elele embhedeni enezinga eliphezulu lokushisa. Lapho usana lungena emndenini, izingxabano zingenakugwemeka, ngoba "ukungaqondi kahle okuqhubekayo" kususa owesifazane othandekayo! Inkathazo ukuthi abantu abanjengobulili obuhle, ngoba banothando kakhulu. Bangakwazi, isibonelo, ukuphonsa ama-roses ezibomvu eziyizigidi ezinyaweni zabo. Yiqiniso, imali yama roses cishe iyothathwa kubazali ...
Infantile kulula ukuvimbela kunokwelapha. Qaphela uma inzalo ...
- Akathinti lutho noma izintshisekelo zakhe ziyashintsha njalo;
- ukuzijabulisa nokuzijabulisa kuye kubaluleke ngaphezu kokutadisha;
- uhlala ecaleni lakhe, ebeka abanye icala:
- njalo ubuze umbono wabantu abadala, ngisho nasezinkingeni ezingabalulekile kakhulu;
- unenkinga yokuguquka kwemizwelo ebukhali; Ukuhleka ukuhleka kuyindlela yokubamba;
- kungenjalo kuze kube sekugcineni kwesifundo, akugcini ngokugxila.