Yeka ukuthi kuhle kangakanani le migqa, akulona iqiniso: "Ah, Romeo, Romeo othandekayo"? Ayaziwa ukuthi kungani uShakespeare weqhawe eveza imizwa yakhe kangaka, mhlawumbe ngoba usemncane, noma uma ukuzizwa kwemizwa yakhe kumsondeza ngokuphindaphindiwe nsuku zonke.
Wonke owesifazane emhlabeni ufuna othandekayo wakhe amtshele amazwi akhe omusa kaningi. Kufanelekile ukuba umuntu athi inkulumo ethi "enhle, othandekayo, othandekayo nothandekayo", njengoba owesifazane ehlile njengeqhwa leqhwa entwasahlobo, ezandleni zakhe. Kodwa namanje abesifazane banesithakazelo ngokwengeziwe ukuthi kungani engasho lokhu "Ngiyakuthanda".
Ephendula umbuzo othi: "Uyangithanda yini," wakhulume okuthile ngokungahambisani naye futhi waqhubeka nokuphishekela ibhizinisi lakhe. Ake sizame ukuqonda le nkinga. Noma mhlawumbe amadoda nje analo ulimi lwawo siqu, alubiza ngokuthi "owesilisa"?
Yisho impendulo: uyathanda noma cha?
Abathandekayo bethu banjengama-guerrillas: phawula, angeke akhulume ngezinkinga zakhe aze afinyelele endaweni yokubilisa. Futhi amazwi othando? Zingabantu njengezicupho - zisho nje kuphela, futhi zithole okuthile okuthembisiwe, kube nokunqamula-konke - konke kuhlulekile, futhi awufuni ukubonakala njengomkhulumeli. Lapha bathule.
Uthanda, kodwa uthula?
Esimweni sethu samanje, owesifazane uhlala engowesifazane, naphezu kokuthi akabe ngumgcini wendlu kuphela, kodwa futhi ungumthengisi. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ingxenye engabuthakathaka yesintu ikhohlwe ngokuya kwayo okokuqala futhi yingakho izinkinga ziqala. Ukuze uthande, futhi yebo ngisho nokukhuluma ngalokhu, okungenani kanye njalo ngemva kwamasonto amathathu kufanele uzithande. Uthande, umnakekele, futhi uthole kuphela i-illegible mooing efonini futhi kungekho ukuvuma okushisayo, yini?
Iqiniso lokuthi indoda ibeka emcabangweni engiyithandayo nje ngamazwi omusa, okusho nje ngomsebenzi: "Ngithembisa ukukusiza kukho konke, ngizokunakekela, ngizobekezelela izihlobo zakho." Masingakhohlwa ukuthi ngamaqhawe esikhathi sethu, kunzima ukubona noma yimiphi imizwa nhlobo. Phela, bafaka ukucabanga kwabo kubo: "Angisoze nginikhaphela, ngingalokothi ngishintshe." Bona ngokwabo bayaqonda ukuthi uma bengagcini izwi labo, bazolimaza labo abakhathalelayo. Kodwa into ethakazelisayo kunazo zonke ukuthi amadoda ngokwawo ngeke aphumelele kuwo njengoba abonakala, ngoba azolahlekelwa idumela lawo, azovele ewa emehlweni owesifazane. Ngakho kufanele ngenzeni? Vele uthule, khona-ke sizokwenza ngaphandle kwezisulu ezinhlangothini zombili.
Futhi ubani ojabule kakhulu? I-Pupa noma owesifazane?
Ngokuvamile sithola ama-comedies aseMelika futhi sibone ukuthi i-protagonist yomthandi wakhe isinikeza isipho esiyigugu kakhulu, ngaleyo ndlela sibonise uthando lwakhe. Ngakho-ke, izinkolelo zivela ezingqondweni zabesifazane: uma ethanda, uzonginika izipho ezibizayo. Kodwa kunjalo?
Cabanga ngalesi simo, okukhulunywa kahle, sizokuqaphela: abesifazane ababili, omunye uhlangana nendoda enenzuzo ehloniphekile, kanti enye engaphezulu. Owokuqala ucela konke okuthandayo, noma yini, ngokuqala ngekhwama esuka ePrada nokuphela ngomgoxo we-diamond kaTiffany, kodwa uthanda kakhulu, njengokungathi zonke izipho zithi kuye: "Ungikweleta." Omunye uletha izimbali ngezikhathi ezithile futhi uhlela izidlo zothando, kodwa uthatha owesifazane onokuqonda, engafuni lutho ngokubuyisela. Futhi ubani ojabule kakhulu? I-Pupa noma owesifazane?
Yiqiniso, ngingathanda ukufisa wonke owesifazane kuleli zwe ukuthola indoda ehlakaniphile, enhle, enakekelayo futhi ephumelelayo. Kodwa ukuphila kuyinto enjabulo kangaka. Ake siphethe isiphetho: akukhathaleki ukuthi isipho siyodala kangakanani, into eyinhloko ukuthi uzosinika isibonakaliso sokunakekelwa, futhi leli elinye igama engiyithandayo, kuphela ngolimi "lwesilisa". Khumbula, uma umuntu wakho othandekayo ephuthuma emsebenzini evela kuwe, khansela umhlangano obalulekile kuphela ngoba inja yakho oyintandokazi igula, futhi lapho esendleleni yebhizinisi, ubiza izikhathi ezinhlanu ngosuku - ungazibuza ukuthi kungani. Mhlawumbe amagama angeke abaluleke kangaka?
Namuhla wambona futhi, futhi akazange akushiye okwesikhashana, wabamba isandla, wakuthinta, futhi wazizwa uvikelekile futhi ufisa, ngoba wayeseduze. Ngakho-ke, uyaphinda akutshele ukuthi udinga wena. Ukuthinta kwakhe, ukukhathazeka, ukunakekelwa konke lokhu kufanele kukukhumbuze lokho akuthandayo. Akuyona into enhle ukuthinta umuntu ongenandaba nawe, futhi ngisho nokubamba isandla sakho sonke kusihlwa, njengokwenziwe ngegolide.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isipho siyodala kangakanani, into eyinhloko ukuthi uyinikeza isibonakaliso sokunakekelwa, futhi leli elinye igama engiyithandayo, kuphela "kolimi lwesilisa".
Kodwa konke lokhu kungase kubonakale sengathi kuyinto encane uma kuqhathaniswa nokuthi iyiphi ingxenye yokuphila kwakhe ohlala kuyo. Uma engenisa wena kubantu abaseduze, abangane, unikeza izihluthulelo zendlu ukuthi kusho ukuthi uyayithanda. Uyakutshela ngomsebenzi, uvakashele imibukiso ndawonye, ungashiyi kude nawe - izindawo eziningi zokuphila okuthandwa ngumuntu othandekayo kuwe, lapho ethanda kakhulu. I-theorem elula, akunjalo? Uma nje engazange abe yinto engathandeki kakhulu.