Kodwa ekuphileni okunjalo umphumela wecala akuyona into engavamile, uma umqalisi wesihlukaniso engumyeni. Izikhalazo, ukuzisola mayelana nomshado ohlulekile, izinyembezi, ukucindezeleka, lapha awusodwa. Sizokubonisa indlela yokunqoba inkinga evamile.
Isimo singaba nzima ngenani lezingane ezihlangene, uma kukhona indodakazi encane, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzoqonda ukuthi ubaba wakhe uya kuphi, futhi uma indodana evela emshadweni wokuqala isetshenziselwe ubaba wayo wesifazane futhi isakwazi ukuthanda naye, kunzima ukunikeza noma yiziphi izincomo.
Izazi zengqondo zibhekana nesehlukaniso njengenye yezinto ezibalulekile ezicindezelayo, qaphela ukungabi nalutho. Umbuzo wokungabi nalutho okungokomoya, uma uvela ekuqaphelweni kokungabi nalutho nokunganaki, akukho ndawo ongayithola. Kodwa uma unendodana engene esikhathini sokuguquka, uyidinga yena, nendodakazi encane engeke ikhule ngaphandle kokunakekelwa kwakho.
Ngeke sikuqinisekise ngezimpawu ezincane kangaka "khumbula izingane," "konke kuzodlula," noma "thola enye indoda," nakuba kukhona iqiniso kulokhu. Ukuphila okunzima? Uma konke kubonakala ekukhanyeni okumnyama, kodwa akupheli lapho.
Yini engingayeluleka? Zama ukukhuthazela, ukunqoba, ukubhekana nezinkinga ezinzima kakhulu emva kokuhlukanisa, ezimweni eziningi le nkathi ihlala izinyanga ezimbili. Ngakho-ke i-psyche yethu ihlelwe ukuthi asikwazi njalo ukuwela phansi kwalashazekile nokukhala njalo, ngisho noma ukuhlolwa okunzima kunzima. Isibonelo, lapho uqala ukucindezeleka ukufa komuntu othandekayo, okwesibili ukuboshwa ngokungemthetho, futhi endaweni yesithathu ngaphansi kokucindezeleka yihlukaniso. Futhi isehlukaniso, uma uhamba nomuntu wakho, akuyona inhlekelele eyingozi.
Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbili noma ezingu-6, isimo sengqondo sizobuyela esimweni esivamile, futhi esikhundleni sokuphelelwa ithemba, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu uma kukhona izingane ezimbili ezisezinakekweni zakho, isifiso sokukholelwa okusemandleni sizofika futhi isifiso sokuphila sizofika. Akukho okuhlukile, ukuthi uzothatha ukuthandana kwamanye amadoda. Kodwa uma emva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha ukulangazelela kwakho ekugcineni kuphuka, kusho ukuthi usinqobe lesi sigaba esinzima empilweni yakho. Uma umuntu oshade naye engumuntu ovamile, angeke ahlale engenandaba nomntanakhe. Isibonakaliso sokuthula kwengqondo nokuthula kwengqondo yakho kungasebenza njengezentengiselwano nebhizinisi ekukhulumeni naye.
Awudingi ukubuka ngokungapheli ngezithombe ezihlangene, ukuhlunga izinto ezinikezwe ngumyeni wangaphambili, ukukhala izinyembezi emifudlaneni yakho, futhi ubethele umphefumulo wakho. Futhi mhlawumbe kungcono ukuzinakekela wena? Futhi lapha akudingeki nje ukuba ume ngosuku nosuku, kodwa ukujoyina eklabhu yezemidlalo, ukuya emasiloni omnandi, ubheke ubuso bakho nomzimba wakho. Bhalisa ukuqeqeshwa, ukusebenzisana nabesifazane abafanayo abaye bathola isehlukaniso, ungakwazi ukwandisa umbuthano wokukhulumisana, futhi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo onolwazi uyokutshela indlela yokuvumelanisa ngokushesha impilo entsha.
1. Awukwazi ukuhlala wedwa ngokusizi, ungazivali. Kuyinkinga yokuhlanganyela nabantu abaningi. Khona-ke uyozizwa ukuthi awunzima kakhulu emphefumulweni. Ungaphenduka intombi yakho, ukhale, kodwa kungcono ukuxhumana nomculi wezengqondo.
2. Uma ungumuntu ovaliwe futhi ungafuni ukwabelana ngezinkinga zakho nabanye abantu, qala idayari. Uyokusiza ukuba usinde ekuhlukaneni, uyazi kahle inkinga uma ubhala ephepheni. Le mizwelo izoyeka ukukucindezela emphefumulweni, futhi izokhishwa kancane kancane. Uzokhululeka uphinde ukwazi ukulawula kokubili ngokwakho kanye nakho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho.
3. Hlala phambi kwesibuko bese uzitshela ngodaba lwakho. Ukwelapha okunjalo ngokuphumelelayo kususa ukucindezeleka, bese udinga ukwenza ubuso obuncane, lokhu kuzothuthukisa imizwa yakho futhi uzozibonakalisa ungathà sina ngale nkinga.
4. Gxila emsebenzini. Umsebenzi iyithuluzi lemilingo kunoma yiziphi izinkinga, kuzosiza ukusinda ukuhlukana nokuphazamisa ezinkingeni zabo, bese umsebenzi uzuzisa, ukhokhwa.
5. Kudingekile ukuba usebenze kanzima ukuze uphelelwe amandla. Kungaba ukuhlanza okufuthekayo, ukubuyisela ekamelweni, i-aerobics, egijima. Kuyafaneleka ukuveza imizwelo yakho, badinga ukukhululwa ngaphandle ukuze bangakwazi ukukubhubhisa ngaphakathi.
6. Ezemidlalo kusiza ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, hamba ejimini, usebenze. Futhi imvelo iyaphulukisa, iya ehlathini, uhambehamba epaki. Phinda ubuyekeze ibhuku lakho ozithandayo, bukela ividiyo. Zama ukugqoka ngokukhululekile, ngisho noma uwedwa ekhaya. Kumele siqiniseke ukuthi impilo yakho igcwele izenzakalo.
7. Ukudla okunempilo kusiza ukulwa nokucindezeleka. Nika amaswidi namakha. Konke okudingayo kuhlukile izithelo, imifino, amanzi amaminerali namajusi.
8. Thatha ukuzindla. Kufanele ube esimweni sokuphumula nokuthula, ngalesi sikhathi amandla okuvuselela agijima kabili ngokushesha njengoba enza ngesikhathi sokulala.
9. Susa izinto ezikukhumbuza ngakho, akudingeki uthinte izinhlamvu ngezithombe, kungcono ukuthatha futhi uzilahle bonke. Kufanele ubeke umgomo, ubuyele ekuphileni. Manje unecebo langempela lokuzibonakalisa. Futhi ngokwanele ukukhala. Manje ungakwazi ukugqoka izingubo zakho eziwuthanda okwesibhakabhaka, azibheka njengenhlamba, ungahlangana nomngane wakho wesikole, ocabanga ukuthi uyisiphukuphuku, uye e-nightclub nabangani. Ukuphila kuqhubeka.
Ukubamba iqhaza, ufunde indlela yokunqoba ukucindezeleka ngemva kokuhlukanisa nendoda. Futhi esiteji sokuqala nasesontambeni sehlukaniso, isikhali sakho esiyinhloko sibona ngokuzethemba nangokweqile ngekusasa. Ngeke kufika ngesikhathi esisodwa, ekuqaleni kuyoba nokucindezeleka, kodwa emva kokuphelelwa ithemba, ukulala ebusuku nokuhlangenwe nakho, kuzodlula. Khumbula ukuthi kubhaliwe esitsheni lesikhumbuzo "konke kuzodlula, nalokhu," futhi ngesibhamu sakho uthathe le nkulumo kusuka ku-movie edumile "eminyakeni engama-40, impilo iqala nje."