Emndenini, mhlawumbe, emva kwesikhathi eside, isimo sengqondo sansuku zonke nesiphilisi siqala. Abashadile baqala ukuxhumana, njengomphathi kumqashi, njengengqondo kwengqondo nesiguli, njll Kukhona uhlobo oluthile lokungaboni kahle, inhliziyo enesiqingatha, isivinini esingabonakali sakhiwa. Nakuba izimbangela zesehlukaniso zihlukile kubo bonke abantu, abantu abaningi bafuna ukufeza impumelelo enkulu, baba umuntu ozimele, bafunde ngezifundo ezihlukene, kodwa lokhu kungokwama-singles kuphela. Ngakho lo mbhangqwana oshadile kufanele nje ususe imigomo enjalo empilweni yabo, ngoba umndeni usho izenzo zokwenza izinto. Kubalulekile futhi ukulahla zonke izinkolelo ezivele zivimbele futhi ziholele ezenzweni ezingalungile. Izizathu zokunqamuka kobudlelwano zingaba eziningana, sizocabangela ezinye zazo.
Isabelomali somndeni noma inzuzo . Ngenye yezimbangela eziyinhloko zesehlukaniso. Izibalo zibonisa ukuthi uma umholo womlingani ungaphezu kwesilinganiso, ingozi yecala lokuhlukanisa inciphise ngo-30%. Uma kukhona ingane emndenini, futhi imali engenayo yomndeni onjalo iphezulu, ingozi yokuhlukanisa iyancipha ngo-24%. Ngakho-ke, isizathu semishado ephuzile ephathelene nabesifazane (emva kweminyaka engu-30) iyacaca, bavele baphinde baziqinisekise ngokumelene nokubonakala kwesizathu esingadingeki emndenini. Kodwa ubulili obunamandla bunokwesaba okwenziwe ngokuhlukana kobudlelwane, emva kobudlelwano obuhlulekile, balahlekelwa sonke isifiso sokuba nomfazi. Amadoda anjalo ezimweni eziningi amane ahlale e-bachelors okuphila njalo.
Ukubuka okuhlukile mayelana nenkolo . Abantu abanombono ohlukile wezenkolo abavamile ukuguqula, kodwa uma lokhu kwenzeka, kukhona khona amathuba okuhlukanisa emindenini enjalo. Umyeni ofanelekayo angaba ngumuntu onenkolo efanayo, isiko lesizwe, isimo somphakathi njengomkakhe. Izibalo zinikeza imininingwane enjalo ukuthi abantu abalingana nobuzwe kanye nemfundo, kanye nesimo sezezimali, bahluleka kakhulu ukuhlukaniswa. Iningi lezinkolo alinaso isimo sengqondo esihle ngamacala ehlukaniso, ngakho-ke sinikeza isizathu sokugcina ubudlelwane bomndeni nokugwema isahlukaniso. Abantu abanezizwe ezahlukene abaye banquma ukwakha umndeni ngokubalinganiselwa kungenzeka ukuthi balondoloze kunabo abashada ngothando. Ngokwezibalo, imindeni ehlala ndawonye iminyaka emihlanu, amathuba okuhlukanisa ngo-10%, nemindeni yothando - 50%.
Ukungakwazi ukulawula . Amadoda amaningi, kanye nabesifazane ngokuvamile, bayeke ukulawula izwe elibazungezile, bayeke ukuba ngabaphathi bempilo yabo, noma yiziphi izintshisekelo kanye nemihlangano nabangani. Amantombazane, esaba ukuthi abe amantombazane asebekhulile, agijimela emishadweni ethile, ngesikhathi esifanayo amadoda - ngenxa yezinkolelo ezikhona kanye nesikweletu esakhiwe ngaphansi kwethonya lombono womphakathi. Kulokhu, ukuze ugweme imbangela yesehlukaniso, owesifazane udinga ukuthatha konke ezandleni zakhe, okungukuthi, ukubonisa ukubekezela, ukuzinza ngokomzwelo, ukuxhumana nomphakathi, kufanele abe nesifiso sokwakha uhlobo oluthile lobuhlobo obuthembayo.
Ukusetshenziswa kwamagama asevisi . Ngokombono wezokwelapha owaziwayo, kulandela ukuthi umuntu angakwazi kalula ukukala izinga lomshado. Uma usebenzisa amagama asemthethweni, ubude bomndeni womndeni bufinyeziwe. Inkulumo engalungile ingaba esinye sezizathu zokuhlukanisa imibhangqwana eshadile. Lawa magama angabandakanya ukusebenzisana, nezinhlayiya, neziphakamiso, nezihloko. Ezinye izifundo zibonise ngokucacile ukuhlobana phakathi kokusetshenziswa okuvamile kwamazwi ezisemthethweni nokuhlukaniswa. Abashadile abasebenzisa amagama anjalo bafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi ubuhlobo buphukile ezinyangeni ezintathu. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuhlotshaniswa nokucacisa ukuxhomeka kwezilimi.
Ukuthinta okuvamile. Esinye isazi sezengqondo kanye nesazi sezibalo sesinqume indlela ethile ongayinquma ngayo isikhathi eside seminyano yomndeni. Kwadalwa imodeli ephikisana nezingxabano ngaphakathi kwalababili, okunikeza ukunemba kokubikezela okungaba ngu-95%. Imibhangqwana emide futhi ejabulisayo ingabizwa ngokuthi labo ababephikisana nabo bangase bahlekise futhi bahleke. Futhi imibhangqwana eyayenza ngendlela ehlukile, eyayicasuka kakhulu kunoma yikuphi isitatimende, ngenkathi ihlukumeza futhi isetshenziselwa ukuhlambalaza, yayizolahlwa ukuhlukanisa.
Isizathu sisezigeni . Kunombono wokuthi imikhuba yokuziphatha okubi nokungathandeki kubantu ingahlobene nokubukeka kwabo, kanye nemvelaphi yegesi lesenzalo. Ngokusho kwemibono eminingi ososayensi abaqhuba izivivinyo ezinkomeni (inzalo engase ibe yindoda yomuntu), imikhuba engamukeleki emphakathini ivela kulezi zinzalo zasendulo. Ngokwezibalo ezinjalo kwavezwa ukuthi yindoda kuphela eyasinda, owayengesabi ukuthatha izingozi. Amandla nethalenta ayenayo ngesikhathi sokuhamba ngaphansi kwethonya lokuzingela. Nakuba ezinye izici zobuntu nokuziphatha zidluliselwa kithi njengefa. Kodwa kuthiwani uma izici ezinjalo ziphazamisa ukuphila komuntu okujwayelekile futhi zibe esinye sezimbangela zesehlukaniso? Khona-ke kuyoba ngcono ukuzama ukuqeda noma okungenani ukunciphisa amandla abo ukuze kulondolozwe ubuhlobo obufanele. Akulona iqiniso, izici ezinjalo zingabonakalisa kokubili abesifazane nabesilisa. Udinga nje ukuthola indlela yokuphuma, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, amandla okuqeda.
Ukukhashelwa komunye womlingani . Amadoda avame ukukholelwa ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwenyama akusiyo isizathu esiyinhloko sokuhlukanisa. Bavele bayiqaphele njengento efana ne-whim, i-trifle encane, futhi aboni lutho olubi ngokuhlubuka. Nakuba lokhu kungabandakanyi ama-halves abo nhlobo, futhi lokhu kuwumbono wabo bonke abantu abafanayo. Owesifazane oye wanquma ngesinyathelo esinjalo sokuphinga, ngokuziphatha ngokuqonda ukuthi ufuna ukuthini. Okungukuthi, ngaphandle kwemizwa cishe akunakwenzeka ukuba anqume ngothando oluhlangothini. Futhi abesifazane, futhi cishe bonke, abakwazi ukuhlala emigqeni emibili.
Ngokwemvelo, izizathu zokuhlukanisa emndenini zingaba ziningi, hhayi ukuthi zizovela phezulu, ngoba umndeni ngamunye ungumuntu ngamunye. Into esemqoka ukuyiqonda ngesikhathi futhi ukuyikhipha.