Ukuze ungaphazamise ingane yakho, kufanele ulandele imithetho:
1. Ungamqapheli lo muntu nengane ngesikhathi sokuqala kobudlelwane bakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, akusaziwa ukuthi ngabe lo muntu uzohlala endlini yakho isikhathi eside noma cha, angaphazamisa ingane yakho, bese elala phakade. Izingane zidinga ukuthunyelwa kulabo bantu abazoba izivakashi eziningi ekhaya lakho.
2. Zethule uma uqiniseka lo muntu. Umuntu ongokoqobo kuphela ongakhuthaza ukuzethemba, ngoba izingane zizwa izinhloso zomuntu.
3. Ngaphambi kokuhlangana nengane, yenze ingxoxo bese ulungiselela umntwana kancane kancane ukuthi umama udinga impilo yakhe. Ingane kufanele iqonde ukuthi naphezu kwakho konke, ingane kumama iyoba yabiza kakhulu futhi ethandekayo. Emva kokulungiselela kwengqondo, tshela ingane ukuthi ubuhlobo obunzima futhi bese wenza umngane wakho.
4. Akufanele ukhiphe umntwana ngosuku. Okokuqala, ukukhulumisana okunamandla okunjalo nomuntu okhethiweyo kuzokwenza ukuthi ingane yakho ibe nomzwelo omubi. Okwesibili, lokhu kuyoba nomthelela omubi ebuhlotsheni obuthakathaka.
5. Lalela lokho umbono wengane mayelana nomuntu omusha, kodwa ingane akufanele ikwenze isinqumo kuwe.
6. Uma umntwana engaboni okhethile, khuluma nomthandekayo wakho. Mhlawumbe ungakwazi ndawonye, thola indlela yokuphuma kweso simo, futhi uthole indlela ongayithola ngayo indawo yengane.
7. Ungadabuki bonke ubudlelwane nomyeni wangaphambili. Mvumela ukuba akhulume nengane futhi eze kumvakashele. Ngoba phakathi nalesi sikhathi ingane ingase ibonakale ukuthi umama wayeka ukumnakekela futhi abuyele kuye. Ngesikhathi umntwana engasetshenziselwa isimo esisha, udinga ukuzwa ukusekelwa kukayise.
8. Awudingi ukuchitha isikhathi sonke nengane, udinga ukuzibheka, unelungelo lokusebenzisa isikhathi sakho sokuhamba ngezinwele zezinwele, izitolo.
9. Kubaluleke kakhulu ingane ukuthi umama akhulume naye ngobuqotho ngento ethile. Ingane ingabuza noma imuphi umbuzo ophazamisayo futhi uthole impendulo elula futhi ecacile evela kumama wakhe. Izifiso zomntwana zidinga ukulalelwa, kepha ungavumeli ukuthi zilawulwe izenzo zakho. Kufanele wenze izinqumo ezithintekayo empilweni, hhayi yena, akudingeki ukhohlwe lokhu.
10. Akufanele kube khona into yokuba namahloni ekusebenzelaneni nendoda, futhi akudingeki ucele ingane ukuthi ifihle impilo yakhe yangasese kumuntu okhethiweyo. Ingane ayengazizwa elahliwe, udinga ukugcina ubuhlobo nomuntu osekude naye. Ukuxhumana noyihlo ngeke kushintshe ingane yakho, akukho muntu futhi akukho ezweni, ngoba le ndoda yangaphambili uyibaba wakhe omuhle.
Kunoma yikuphi, akudingeki ulinde umphumela osheshayo, kodwa nje ube nesineke. Ingane idinga ukuthola indlela ekhethekile, ingqondo yengane isengozini kakhulu, futhi ingane idinga ukunikezwa isikhathi. Futhi ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa imizamo yakho ingazala izithelo, futhi ingane yakho iyoba nobaba onakekelayo noothando.
Owesifazane uhlala yedwa ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Kokubili ingane kanye nokuphila komama ndawonye, lokhu kuyisivivinyo esinzima. Phela, akulula ukuthola ingxenye yesibili yowesifazane oyedwa onomntwana. Phela, kuleso simo akudingeki ubheke umyeni kuphela, kodwa nangomntwana wakho. Imvelo, izimiso zokuphila zomuntu wakho akufanele zihambisane nawe kuphela, kodwa kufanele futhi uhlele ingane yakho.
Indima yomama iyona enhle kunazo zonke, kepha empilweni yowesifazane akuyona ingxenye yakhe kuphela ekuphileni. Isidingo sothando, ubulili, ukusondelana kuyisici esibalulekile empilweni yomfazi, futhi sekulahlekelwe ngalesi sidingo, owesifazane ulahlekelwa yizinhlayiyana zakhe.
Izingane zakho zidinga ukwazi ukuthi ngaphezu kokuba ngumama, usengumuntu ogcwele izinto ezihlukahlukene, futhi impilo yakho kubantwana bakho ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Uma uhlela impilo yakho, iyoba yisibonelo esihle kubantwana, emva kwakho konke, bayobe sebefuna ingxenye yesibili. Uma ulandela amathiphu alula, kuzosiza ukugcina umhlaba nezingane futhi ujabule ngempela.
Ngokuvamile sinikeza izimo zengqondo ezingalungile nesijeziso ngokwehluleka ukuhluleka. Shintsha isimo singashintsha isimo sengqondo kuwe, futhi usebenze ngokwakho. Kunezintombikazi ezithakazelisayo, ezihlakaniphile, ezinhle futhi eziphumelelayo ezingakwazi ukuzibona emkhayeni womndeni. Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zalokhu nabo bonke bangaphakathi. Uma ufuna ukushintsha impilo ibe ngcono, udinga ukuthuthukisa. Kukhona amaphutha amathathu amakhulu womuntu okhululekile ofuna ukudala umndeni oqinile, kodwa akawutholi.
Iphutha lokuqala. Usheshe
Abesifazane abaningi, ngemuva kokuphula ubuhlobo babo nendoda, babheke ummeleli olandelayo ofanele endaweni yakhe. Owesifazane uqala amanoveli amaningi, kodwa, ekugcineni, uhlala, edumala emhlabeni wonke nasemadodeni. Futhi uma uqonda, akekho ozobekwa icala. Kalula iphuzu lonke ukuthi wagijima. Ukwakha ubuhlobo obunamandla obungadlulela iminyaka eminingi, udinga ukulungiselela lezi zihlobo. Akufanele 'uphonsa' kunoma yimuphi umuntu, udinga ukucabanga ukuthi umuntu onjalo ufanelekile, uma le ndoda inezimfanelo ezidingekayo ukuba zikhona kahle.
Ungafuni ubuhlobo obuseduze
Uma uchitha isikhathi sakho ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ukuze uthole umlingani, khona-ke akunakwenzeka ukuthi kuyoba umuntu ofanelekayo. Okokuqala, kufanele ujabule wedwa nawe, khona-ke abantu abaseduze nawe bayojabula nawe. Futhi impilo yomuntu siqu izohlelwa ngendlela yemvelo, ngokwayo.
Iphutha lesibili. Owesifazane ucabangisisa nezakhiwo zakhe. Abantu abambalwa kakhulu abangamaphesenti ayikhulu abanelisekile ngokwabo. Wonke umuntu unezinkinga zakhe kanye nokwesaba kwangaphakathi. Futhi nangu iphuzu lonke ukuthi bangakanani abantu abakhathazekile kakhulu nabo. Sidinga ukwazi ukuthi izingqinamba zethu zihlala ngaphakathi kithi, uma ucabanga ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle nawe, lokhu akusho ukuthi abantu abazungezile kufanele bacabange. Bayozizwa nje ukungaqiniseki okuvela kuwe. Uma ukuzethemba kwakho kuye kwahlupheka, ukuthi awukwazi ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi uhle, ubuhle futhi buhlukile, bese udinga ukudlala.
Ake sithi udinga ukudlala indima yowesifazane ongcono. Okufanele kube yilo, dlala le ndima usuku olulodwa. Ngosuku olulandelayo kufanele ube yingxenye yowesifazane ongcono kakhulu. Kakade kancane kancane, ngeke usebenze kule ndima, kodwa izokusebenzela. Wena uzoba yilowo odlala, lezi zithombe ezimbili zizohlangana futhi zibe konke okungenakuhlukaniswa. Omunye nomuntu ofanayo phambi kwabanye angadlala indima yomuntu ekhathele impilo futhi avele ngesimo somuntu okhangayo nokhazimulayo. Bhala wena umbhalo wokuphila kwakho. Smile ngokuhluleka. Futhi khumbula ukuthi udinga ukugaya noma yibuphi ubuciko, ungabi nhlobo ubuciko bokuba ekahle.
Iphutha lesithathu. Owesifazane uqiniseka ukuthi uma enezingane, kufanele akhohlwe impilo yakhe. Lesi sithombe kufanele siphulwe. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi impilo yakho kanye nezingane zakho imiqondo ehlukile engafanele ihambe. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukwakha kahle ubudlelwane bakho namadoda nabantwana. Ngokwemvelo, izingane kufanele zibe zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kodwa lokhu akusona isizathu sokwenqaba ukuxhumana nobulili obuhlukile. Kubalulekile ukulondoloza ukulinganisela ebuhlotsheni bobulili obuhlukile nokugcina izidingo zezingane zakho. Omunye akufanele agijimele ukuhlanganisa ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu nobudlelwane bomndeni. Kungenzeka ukuthi ubudlelwane nomuntu abuhambanga kahle, bese kuba yingane lokhu kuzoba yingozi kakhulu.
Uma umnumzane okhethiwe engamamukeli izingane zakho, kufanele ucacise ngokushesha isimo. Ungaqhubeka ukuhlangana nalomuntu ngaphandle kokumangalela impilo ehlangene, noma ngokushesha uphule wonke ubuhlobo. Udinga ukukwenza ngaphandle kokuthukuthela futhi ungacabangi, ngoba akukho lutho olubi olwenzekile.
Yikholelwa, kodwa emhlabeni kukhona inani elikhulu lamadoda abafuna ukwakha umndeni oqinile nowesifazane onabantwana kusukela emshadweni wokuqala. Uma umuntu ekuthanda, khona-ke uzozwa imizwa efanayo ngomntanakho. Futhi-ke, ngeke abe nendima enkulu empilweni yakho, ngoba into ebaluleke kunazo zonke izingane.
Indoda iyakwazi ukwamukela nokuthandana nabantwana bakhe abakhethiweyo, futhi ibone njengabantwana bayo. Kwabesifazane abangashadile, abashadile abanesizungu bayothola ukuthola kwangempela. La madoda ayazi ukuthi yiziphi izingane zabo futhi zidinga, zilungele ukusebenza kanzima ukwenza ubuhlobo bomndeni buqinile ngokwanele, ukulungele ukwenza izinto eziyekethisa.
Ungacabangi ukuthi owesifazane onomntwana angeke abe nokuphila komuntu siqu. Ungesabi ukungena empilweni entsha, ufinyelele imigomo emisha, wenze amaphutha amasha, uzivulele imizwelo emisha. Ukuphila kuhle, udinga nje ukubona konke, ekugcineni uvule amehlo akho. Ungalahli izandla zakho futhi ubheke ngokuqiniseka esikhathini esizayo. Yazi ukuthi uzoba kahle, kodwa uma kungenjalo ngeke kube khona.