Ngemva kokucabanga kwami, ngaqala ukuqonda lo mbuzo: "Yini engayenza owesifazane ophumelelayo, wesimanje nokuthi abe kanjani, nokuthi ngabe kufanele kwenziwe nhlobo?"
Izwe lanamuhla lisho imithetho yalo siqu, futhi uma sesivele sinyathelana nezikhathi, kungcono ukuthi singavumi ukuyeka. Yini yena (umhlaba) owenzayo nowesifazane? Uphendule umama wakhe nomama wendlu, umgcini wendlu yomndeni, abe ngowesifazane ozimele ongenamkhawulo owawunikeza zonke izimpahla nezinsizakalo. Owesifazane ukhulisa izingane, uthola imali, uzinakekele, ugqoke kahle, uyenzeka "emaqenjini" ahlukahlukene, ngokuvamile aphuza futhi "iziphuzo", ngokulinganisa inkambo. Cha, lo wesifazane akazange abe ngumuntu, wamane wathola ukuzimela futhi amanye noma aphelele.
Ingabe konke ukuphumelela kowesifazane kuzuza, noma kukhula kangakanani ekugqibeleni ebugqilini bokuphila? Kunzima ukuphendula lo mbuzo ngokuqinisekisile, ngoba wonke umuntu, ikakhulukazi wesifazane, unezidingo zakhe siqu zomphefumulo nomzimba. Owesifazane oyedwa, isibonelo, uhlangabezana nayo yonke imisebenzi ayimisile futhi angenza konke kalula, kodwa omunye akakwazi ukuzidonsa imisebenzi eminingi yokuphila. Yilowo nalowo wakhe. Nakuba, ezimweni eziningi, kufanele uhlabele okuthile. Uma umgomo kuwumsebenzi, khona-ke umndeni nothando uya endaweni yesibili, futhi ngokufanayo. Ngokuvamile kufanele uqaphele ukuthi, ngaphandle kokuba nesikhathi sokuhamba ngekhefu lokubeletha, owesifazane ngokushesha uzobuyela kuye ukuba enze okusemandleni emisebenzini yakhe futhi akhulise inhlalakahle yomndeni wakhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akaqapheli ukuthi ingane yakhe ikhula kanjani, bese kuthi eminyakeni edlule ikhononda ukuthi (ingane) ayiqondi neze.
Yebo, kunzima ukuba ngowesifazane wesimanjemanje, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, kulula ukuba ngowesifazane ezweni lanamuhla lapho umshini wokuwasha ukugeza, nemikhiqizo eqedile ukulungiswa ezitolo. Yini edingekayo ukuze uphumelele? Okokuqala, ukuhlakulela noma ukuthuthukisa izimfanelo ezithile. Mayelana nabo futhi ukhulume.
Owesifazane wanamuhla kufanele abe nenhloso , azi ukuthi ufunani nokuthi yini. Imigomo eyakhelwe ngokucacile neyakhelwe kalula ifinyeleleke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyimpumelelo ephumelelayo noma ukukhushulwa emkhakheni wezemisebenzi. Owesifazane ohlose imigomo uyazi ukuthi uzoshada yini, zingaki izingane azoba nazo, nokuthi uzothola malini.
Ukuzimela kuyisici esibalulekile esivela kowesifazane. Awudingi ukuthembela kubathandekayo bakho kukho konke. Ekuphileni, noma yini engenzeka (umuntu akakwazi ukuthembela ngokugcwele ekuthembekeni kwesigamu sesibili), futhi esimweni esinjalo owesifazane ozimele ngeke akhamangele. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akudingeki ukuba uzimele futhi uzimele kuzo zonke izinto. Vumela lo muntu abe ngumuntu: isibonelo, ukukuphatha esitolo sokudlela futhi ukhokhele.
Ngicabanga ukuthi owesifazane wesimanje kufanele akwazi ukuzibonakalisa, bheka 100% noma ngaphezulu . Ngakho-ke, akusoze kube yinto engafanele ukuqonda amakhono wokwenza, ukuqonda izitayela zemfashini nokuya eqenjini lokuzivocavoca. Ngakho-ke, imiphumela emibili izuzwa: owesifazane ubheka okuhle futhi uthola imizwa eyengeziwe emihle ebuhleni nasekulungiseni kwakhe. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba okungeziwe kusiza ukugcina ukuvumelana kwalesi sibalo, ukugqama okunempilo nokuqinisa ukuzivikela komzimba, okubaluleke kakhulu emdlalweni wokuphila okhulayo.
Ukuhlaziya ezinye izimfanelo namakhono, ngathola ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi owesifazane akwazi ukushayela imoto, azi izilimi eziningana zangaphandle, uthole okungenani imfundo emibili ephakeme, akwazi ukudlala ngothando, uma edingekayo, akwazi ukufundisa izingane, amomotheka futhi akhiphe imizwelo emihle. Kuhle futhi ukuqonda inkolelo yesenzo , ukwazi ukukhuluma kahle, uhambe uhlale . Kubalulekile futhi ukufunda ukuthi ungenza kanjani izinto ezintathu ngesikhathi esisodwa futhi ube nezindawo eziningana ngesikhathi esifanayo (ngenhlanhla, ukuxhumana okuphathekayo ngale ndlela kwenza ukuphila kube lula kithi). Ngomthwalo omkhulu wokusebenza udinga ukufunda ukuphumula ngethuba elincane, noma kuphi.
Ubuza, kodwa kuthiwani ngendlebe yomndeni ? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi "ukuthatha" emandleni akhe wesifazane okhubazekile kufanele ahlale ehlala owesifazane - omnene, otholile, wesifazane. Owesifazane weqiniso uhlale efudumele futhi ehlelekile endlini, uzwa izingane ezinomsoco, ezolile nezokujabula.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izwe liyashintsha kanjani, sihlala sinye. Awudingi ukuthatha zonke izinkathazo zezwe, udinga indoda ukuba ibe yindoda, futhi ngenxa yalokhu, owesifazane kumele ahlale engowesifazane. Lokho owesifazane ophumelelayo wanamuhla ongakwenza angancike ekutheni inhlalakahle yezinye iziqine, kodwa futhi nenhlalakahle yabantu abasha kakhulu emhlabeni, amadoda nabantwana. Ngisho noma empilweni ungenayo isikhathi, cabanga ukuthi ngabe utshele amagama akho kubalulekile izihlobo zakho ngokuthi "Ngiyathanda, ngiyakholwa, ngiyazisa" ... Ngeke neze uzuze yonke imali, ngeke ufike kuzo zonke iziqongo, ngakho-ke udinga ukucabanga , njengoba ezinye zichazwe, zodwa, kodwa ngokubaluleke kakhulu. Isimiso esiyisisekelo, umphumela wawo umndeni, asikakhanselwa okwamanje.
"Yebo, othandekayo, ngizobuya maduzane." Lesi sivumelwano sasayinwe, ngakho-ke manje ungaya olwandle ngokuphepha, - waphendula, njengoba kwenzeka uNatalie, kumyeni wakhe ngokushaya ucingo. Washiya i-cafe, wangena emotweni yakhe waya kumuntu othandekayo ukuba abe mnene, othandekayo, ongeyintengantenga futhi othanda "owesifazane ophumelelayo wanamuhla" ...