Ukuze ube ngowesifazane ojabulayo futhi ophumelelayo ukufeza impumelelo empilweni, zizungeze ngamadoda afanelekile, thandane nomuntu wamaphupho akho, ulawule isimo emndenini, ube nekhono lokuzilawula wena nabanye abazungezile ukuze uphumelele emisebenzini yakho, wenze abantu abajwayele ukuthuthukiswa umsebenzi wakhe kanye nebhizinisi. Ngakho-ke ungayithola kanjani impumelelo empilweni yowesifazane okhangayo? Ungakhohlwa ngokuhlakanipha okungenakuphikwa ukuthi wonke owesifazane. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu kuhlakanipha, uyazivuma njengoba eqinisile. Akungabazeki ukuthi kukhona ukuzethemba, futhi akukho ukwesaba ukuvuma. Ubona ukungavumelani okuzayo, futhi uma kuvuthiwe, uhlale enendlela yokuphuma kuleso simo hhayi eyodwa. Uyazi ukuthi impumelelo empilweni izofika kuye nakanjani. Okokuqala, qaphela isimo sabantu, bheka ukuthi abantu bakuzungeza kanjani, cabanga ukuthi ungabasiza kanjani esimweni esithile, futhi ngokufanele laba bantu ngeke bakukhohlwe. Ungakhohlwa ukuzinaka wena, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu okokuqala. Kunemithetho eminingana, ehambisana nalokho, ungakwazi ukuxhumana kalula nabanye ngaphandle kwezinkinga, futhi lokhu kuzokusiza ekufinyeleleni imigomo yakho:
Funda ukubona i-interlocutor (bheka)
Funda ukuthi uzwa kanjani i-interlocutor yakho
Yazi ukuthi ubuza kanjani imibuzo
Qiniseka ngamakhono akho
Kumelwe ube nomuzwa wokuhlekisa
Qiniseka
Uthando nokuhlonipha abantu
Yiba nobungane
Saqala ngalokhu kungekuhle, kodwa kuyinto elula kodwa yokwamukela kwengqondo. Uma ubheka amehlo e-interlocutor wakho, wena ngezinga lokuthinta kubonisa ukuthi uthembekile ngokuphelele kuye. Kodwa khumbula, ukuze uqinisekise i-interlocutor, kufanele ube nokubukeka okuvulekile nokuzethemba. Uma wazi ukulalela umuntu, uhlela ngokushesha kuwe. Uma ubonisa isithakazelo esiqotho endabeni yomxhumanisi, ubona inhlonipho yakho. Awukhohliwe ukuthi udinga ukuzibheka? Uma ubonisa isithakazelo, uphakathi kokunakekelwa okujwayelekile. Ngaphambili sasixoxe ngokusungula ubuhlobo nabantu, yisikhathi sokukhuluma ngawe. Ukuzethemba kwakho kungukuqala kwakho. Ukuzethemba kuzodonsela abanye, futhi kuzosusa ukuvalwa. Ungakhohlwa ngakho. Umngane wakho othembekile nomsizi uzoba amahlaya onawo. Akekho othi kudingeka udinga wonke umuntu futhi uhlale uhlaya. Umqondo wokuhleka usulu uzobonakaliswa ekukhoneni nabanye, ngomzamo wokumomotheka nokuthola izindlela zokuxazulula izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi ukwazi ukuhleka kuqala ekuhlulekeni kwabo. Ukuthembeka kwakho yisisekelo sabo bonke ubudlelwane obuthembayo. Akukhona kuphela ukuzama ukukhuluma iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa nokugcina izwi lakho, ukugcina isikhathi. Izinga lobuqotho bakho lithinta ukuzethemba kwakho, ukuzethemba wena nokuhlonipha kwakho kwabanye. Ukuhlala uthembekile kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kufanelekile ukufuna izindlela ezilula, uma umgomo ukuphumelela. Yiba ngokwakho futhi ungenzi lokho ongazisola kamuva.
Uma ubonisa uthando nenhlonipho kubantu, uzofunda kubo okuhamba phambili kwalokho abazi ngokwabo. Intshisekelo yakho ingumthombo wezinto eziyigugu. Qaphela, sebenzisa noma yimaphi amathuba okukhuluma nabo bonke abanethuba. Endleleni eya empumelelweni, ubunzima obuningi kufanele bunqobe. Ububele bakho buyoba usizo oluhle kakhulu lapho wenza abantu abasha nabajwayele ukuheha abantu. Konke lokhu kuthuthukisa inqubekela phambili. Kungakanani ofuna ukuthola kubantu, okuningi ukunikeza. Ingabe yisikhathi sokuphumelela? Ngakho phambili !!!