Iphupho eliyimfihlo lomuntu ovuthiwe .
Ngokwenhlolovo yezenhlalo, iningi labesifazane abaneminyaka engamashumi amathathu nanhlanu bangathanda ukuba nobuhlobo nomfana omncane. Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kwezinkulungwane ezintathu ezikhulunywe ngabafazi besigaba esiphakathi, amaphesenti angamashumi amahlanu nantathu abafihleli iziprofetho zabo kubantu abasha ngaphansi kweminyaka eyishumi noma ngisho nangamashumi amabili ubudala. Kodwa abesifazane abangamaphesenti angamashumi amathathu nesikhombisa bakuthola kunzima ukunikeza impendulo yalo mbuzo, kanti amaphesenti asele abaphendulile avumile ukuthi ahola abantu abasha emaphupheni abo, kodwa empilweni yangempela abasoze bavumelana nobuhlobo obunjalo. Ngokwezengqondo ze-psychologists, isizathu sokuthi abesifazane besilisa abancane kunabo abakuleli bangakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi isifiso sabesifazane abavuthiwe, ukuze baphile "intsha" yesibili eceleni komfana osemusha.
Phakathi kwezinye izinto, ubuhlobo obunjalo nomuntu omncani kunomuntu siqu kusiza owesifazane ukuzibiza njengomuntu, athole ukuvumelana naye futhi azibonakalise ukuthi uyamkhangisa futhi uyathandeka kumuntu onjalo. Ngeshwa, izazi ze-psychologists ezinombuzo zikwazi ukuxoxa nabesifazane abambalwa kule nkathi yobudala, empeleni, abesifazane abanjalo abanomlutha kumfana abasha futhi bafuna ukubona eceleni kwabo isoka elinjalo kakhulu.
Umlutha wabesifazane kubantu abasha kanye namahemuhemu .
Ubuhlobo obungalingani phakathi kwabantu luyimpunga isikhathi eside. Phela, ubuhlobo obunjalo buhlale 'bugijima' esweni lomuntu. Abaningi babo bayalahla, futhi banakekelwa abaningi. Ngokuvamile, bangaki abantu, imibono eminingi ngale ndaba. Ngandlela-thile, iqiniso elithakazelisayo liwukuthi ubudlelwane obungalingani, lapho umuntu omdala kunomphakathi wesifazane aphatha, okujwayelekile, kodwa ubuhlobo lapho owesifazane ekhulile khona - ingozi yokuba umthombo wokuphikisana no-nedomekov. Ngokuvamile, ubudlelwane obunjalo abukwahlulelwa abangani kanye nozakwabo kuphela, kodwa nezihlobo. Kungenxa yalesi sizathu, umbhangqwana onjalo kufanele abhekane nalezi zinkinga futhi ahlale engazitholi nje injabulo yakhe, kodwa futhi aqinisekise abanye uthando lwabo nokulungele lokho. Ngendlela, ubuhlobo obunjalo buvame ukubizwa ngokuthi buphumelele futhi bucebile, okuba ngumshado. Akubona bonke abantu abakuzungezile bakholelwa kuleso siphelo, okuqokomisa izinhloso kanye nezintshisekelo zowesifazane ovuthiwe kanye nentsha.
Okuyinhloko yobuhlobo obungalingani .
Ngokuvamile abesifazane banakekele izinsizwa, uma bengenaso isithakazelo ohlangothini lobuciko lobuhlobo obunjalo. Abesifazane abanjalo, njengombuso, sekuyisikhathi eside sebezibonela ngokwabo empilweni futhi kwenzeka njengomuntu. Laba besifazane sebevele benesimo esihle sokukhokha kakhulu, izindlu zabo futhi abadingi lutho ngaphandle kothando nothando. Yingakho, ukulinda indoda encane kunaye, ukwesekwa kwezezimali, owesifazane oneminyaka ayifuni. Okokuqala, ebuhlotsheni obunjalo, kungabandakanya ukuphila kocansi nomlingani omusha. Lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi abesifazane abanayo ukunakekelwa okwanele kubantu besigaba esifanayo, futhi ufuna into ekhethekile neyomzimba: ubusuku bugcwele uthando, okuzomsiza ukuthi azizwe engathandeki kuphela, kodwa futhi aphinde asemncane. Futhi emva kwakho konke, amadoda angamashumi amane kunzima ukunikeza owesifazane uthando oluqotho, ngokuthi anganikeza insizwa encane. Iqiniso eliqakathekileko ngukuthi ngemva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, abesifazane bahlangabezana nokuzibandakanya kocansi, kuyilapho besilisa, ngokuphambene nalokho, kunciphisa.
Ngaphezu kwalokhu okungenhla, ubudlelwane obunjalo bunikelwe ukunakekelwa okukhethekile nokuvikelwa. Kwabesilisa abasha, owesifazane onjalo angashintsha kalula umama, abe ngumeluleki nomeluleki empilweni, kumsize azibonele futhi athole indawo yakhe emphakathini. Lolu hlobo lokulondolozwa ngamakhosikazi luyaziswa ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi luyithathwa kalula ngabesifazane.
Indlela yokugcina ubuhlobo obunjalo ngokuvumelana nokuqonda ?
Okokuqala, owesifazane onobuthakathaka kubantu abancane kunabo kufanele akwazi ukuzibukela ukuba ahlale ebheka eduze nomfana onjalo ofanelekayo futhi omncane kuneminyaka yakhe. Uyakudinga konke lokhu ukuze akwazi ukuncintisana namantombazane amancane. Kodwa umqondo onjengomhawu wesifazane, ngeshwa, uyinto ebalulekile yobudlelwane obunjalo. Yingakho owesifazane kufanele abe namakhadi onke amacilongo ukuze agcine le nsizwa eceleni kwakhe.
Phakathi kwezinye izinto, isoka elincane akufanele lifakwe ezingeni le "ingane". Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi bonke abantu (ngisho naseneminyaka engamashumi amabili) bathambekele ekuholeni kuzo zonke izinto. Yingakho indoda idinga ukugqugquzela lokhu ukubikezela futhi kungabikho ukusizwa ngokuntuleka kokuphila.
Umuntu akufanele nanini ahlanganise ubudlelwano obunjalo nemali. Uma lo wesifazane ecebile futhi ekhumbuza njalo le nsizwa, njengokungathi uyayithenga, efuna esikhundleni sayo kuphela ubulili obuhle kanye nogqozi, insizwa ingase ibonakale iyisebenzisa. Yingakho inhlalakahle yezinto ezibonakalayo lapha akufanele idlale indima, kodwa ukuqonda nokuvulwa komzimba kuyisisekelo esiyinhloko sobuhlobo obungalingani phakathi kowesifazane omdala kunomuntu.
Ebudlelwaneni obunjalo, ungaphumuli ngisho nangemva komshado. Ungamcindezeli kumfana, ubeke icala futhi ube nomhawu nge-dicks hysterical, uma ekhetha owesifazane omdala kunokuba yena, naye, naye, kufanele aziqhenye ngawo!
Futhi njengesiphetho sokuphetha isihloko sethu, ngifuna ukusho ukuthi isifiso sabesifazane kubantu abancane kunabo bonke sijwayelekile futhi ubudlelwane obunjalo buwenza abantu abaningi bajabule. Yingakho, akufanele neze wesabe amahemuhemu abantu kanye nokuhleba okuzohamba ngokuhambisana nobuhlobo obunjalo. Ngakho-ke, uma nonke ninesifiso sokuba ndawonye, qiniseka ukuthi niyifaka ngesisekelo sobudlelwane obunjalo. Phela, umehluko weminyaka awukaze udlale indima ebalulekile, into esemqoka lapha imizwa!