Ukuthuthukiswa ngokobulili nokukhuliswa kwengane kuye kwadlala indima ebalulekile kusukela esemncane kakhulu. Kuze kube yiminyaka emine ingane ayizibonakali ngalokhu noma ngokobulili. Akayithandani nobulili obuhlukile.
Ekuthuthukiseni ngokocansi nokukhuliswa kwengane, uZigmund Freud ngokwakhe ubonakala emisebenzini yakhe. Ukuthuthukiswa ngokocansi kwengane kuhlanganisa kokuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba kufaka phakathi izici zobulili eziyinhloko nezesekondari, kanye nengqondo - leyo ingane eyayizwayo. Ngokuvamile kufanele bahambisane. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kunezinkinga. Lapho ingane izwa ukuthi akukhona lokho abazali bakhe nabanye abilindele ukuba abe khona. Namuhla, imithi ifunde ukusiza lapho imvelo eye yenza iphutha.
Ukuthuthukiswa ngokocansi kwengane
Ukuthuthukiswa ngokocansi akudluli ngamantombazane, futhi akudluli abafana. Iqala ngezimo eziqondile kakhulu. Emantombazaneni, ukuthuthukiswa ngokocansi kwenzeka eminyakeni embalwa ngaphambi kwalokho kubafana.
Ngemuva konyaka noma amabili emva kokuqala kokuya esikhathini emantombazaneni, ukuthomba kuqala. Ngokuvamile, ukuthuthukiswa ngokocansi kuqala eminyakeni engu-9-10. Le nkathi ibonakala ngokuthuthukiswa kwezigulane ezincelisayo kanye nokukhula kwezinwele ze-pubic. Amantombazane aqala ukukhula ngokushesha. Kancane kancane uqale ukugoqa izinkalo, ukhulise i-pelvis. Ama-ovari akhula ngesayizi.
Ngokuqondene nabafana, ukukhula ngokocansi kuyaqala eneminyaka eyishumi nanye. Njengamantombazane, abafana bakhula kakhulu kule nkathi. Izinwele ze-pubic ziqala ukuvela, i-penis iqala ukukhula. Abafana baqala ukuphula amazwi abo phakathi nalesi sikhathi.
Ukufundisa ngocansi kwengane
Abazali baphoqelekile ukuba bahlanganyele emfundweni yezocansi yengane yabo, ngaphandle kwalokho kuyomenza inqwaba yezindaba zobulili ezingcolile kanye nodlame ku-intanethi nasethelevishini. Okokuqala, abazali abanomthwalo wemfanelo kufanele babe nolwazi oluyisisekelo esihlokweni sokufundisa izingane ngokocansi.
Lapho uneminyaka engaba yisishiyagalombili, ingane iqala ukwakha ulwazi lwezocansi. Lesi sikhathi sinzima kakhulu kubafana. Lapho uneminyaka emithathu kuya kweyine ubudala, izingane zivame ukubonakala zihamba ze phambi kwabantu abadala. Sebevele baqala ukuzibandakanya ngokwabo nalokhu noma lobulili futhi bafuna ukuzibonakalisa. Ngaphandle kwalokho kufanele bahlaselwe futhi babe namahloni ngakho. Ngokuphambene nalokho, abazali kufanele basekele ingane, bathi yonke into ikhula ngendlela evamile. Ungakhathazeki uma ingane ibona omunye wabazali behamba, isibonelo, egijima endlini yokugezela. Lokhu kuzosiza kuphela emfundweni yakhe yezocansi. Ngokwemvelo, ingane ingaboniswa ngokuphelele izigcawu zobulili ezingcolile kanye nezenzo ezihlukahlukene ezingcolile. Kusukela eminyakeni emihlanu kuya kweyesithupha, ungayizwa umbuzo obekababaza abazali abaningi: "Ngangifika kanjani emhlabeni?" Umzali ngamunye uphuma kulokhu ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngokusemthethweni, akudingekile ukondla izingane ngezinganekwane nge-storks kanye neklabishi. Batshele konke njengoba kunjalo. Noma kunjalo, maduzane bazothola iqiniso, ngakho-ke lizwakale kangcono emilonyeni yakho. Abazali kufanele bachazele ingane ukuthi yiziphi izici zamantombazane, nokuthi yini abafana. Isibonelo, uma umfana efaka ingubo noma eqala ukusebenzisa umama wakhe. Lokhu akusho ukuthi indodana yakho ine-pathology. Mhlawumbe wayengaqondi ukuthi namantombazane kuphela agqoka izingubo.
Lapho ingane iya ebangeni lokuqala, uqala isigaba esisha sokukhulelwa. Izingane ziqala ukukhuluma nobulili obuhlukile. Ukukhulisa othisha kudlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu lapha. Kufanele abe nesihawu esikhathini esizayo sokukhulelwa, ikakhulukazi kubafana. Ngokuvamile amantombazane avamile futhi anesizotha kunabantwana.
Isigaba esilandelayo esibaluleke kunazo zonke sokukhulelwa kuyinkathi yobusha. Umsebenzi oyinhloko emfundweni yezocansi ngalesi sikhathi yindlela efanele yokulungisa amantombazane ngokuya esikhathini, abafana - ngenxa yokungcola. Kunezidingo zokuqala zocansi. Intsha eningi iyakhathazeka kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwabo ngokocansi. Imfundo yezocansi ihlanganyela emfundweni yezocansi yabantu abasha.
Khumbula ukuthi kumntanakho zonke izinguquko zenzeka okokuqala. Okubalulekile kuqala ukusekela nokuyiqonda ngokugcwele.