Iqiniso liwukuthi ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinqumo sokuthatha isinyathelo esinqumayo, kubalulekile ukucwaninga ngokujulile kule nkinga: ukuqonda ukuthi ukuhlukaniswa yikuphi, ukuthi kubonakala kanjani nokuthi yini engayiphakamisa. Uma usukwazi ukucacisa ngokucacile konke lokhu, umsebenzi wokuqeda lokhu kungaphumeleli kalula.
Kuyini ukuzihlukanisa?
Sinesizathu esithile esibizwa ngokuthi ukuvala ukukhubazeka. Iqiniso liwukuthi linikeza lo muntu izinkinga eziningi. Kunzima kuye ukuxhumana nomhlaba wangaphandle, okusho ukuthi ulahlekelwa uthando, imizwelo, isipiliyoni kanye nezinye izinto eziningi zokuphila umuntu ovulekile alamukelayo.
Ukuvalwa kungabonakala njengendlela yokulungiswa kwezinye izinto, izenzakalo, amaphethini wokuziphatha, ukucabanga noma umbono wezwe elizungezile. Ngokuvamile kuvame ukuphendula njengesenzakalo esithile ekuphileni. Ngokususelwa ekuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile okwemukelekile, umuntu ubikezela ukuthuthukiswa komcimbi ngamunye olandelayo futhi akazami nokusebenzisa ezinye izinto zokuziphatha. Ngakho, inkinga ayixazululwanga.
Ngosuku ngalunye oludlulayo, umuntu ohoxisiwe uyaqhubeka ehamba ezweni elingaphandle, elahlekelwa noma yikuphi ukuxhumana nomvelo wangaphambili. Lokhu kushintsha ikhono lakhe lokuxhumana nabanye abantu, ukwakha ubudlelwano nobungane obuhle.
Izimbangela zokuzihlukanisa
Phakathi kwezizathu ezivame kakhulu:- Ukwesaba
- Intukuthelo
- Ukungaqiniseki
- Ukuzidla
Zonke ziwumphumela wezimo ezimbi eziqondile ezingazange zithole incazelo nenkombululo ngesikhathi esifanele.
Ukwesaba kuveza ukungakholwa. Umuntu uvala ngaphakathi kwakhe, ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi lena yindawo ephephile kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi lokhu kungukukhohlisa, ngoba umuntu onjalo akadingi neze ukucasula. Intukuthelo nhlobo nhlobo - umphumela onengqondo womsebenzi osunaphakade ovela ezweni langaphandle.
Njengoba kunzima kumuntu ovalwe ukuhlanganyela nabanye okuhlangenwe nakho, ukuhlambalaza kuqoqa ngaphandle kokuthola indlela engokwemvelo. Ubhubhisa kancane kancane umphefumulo kanye nomphumela omubi kunazo zonke kungaba intukuthelo nesifiso sokuphindisela.
Ukuzethemba okuphansi, ukungabi nokuzethemba kungavimbela umuntu ukuba angathintana nabanye. Ukholelwa ukuthi akafanelanga ukuphila okuhle, ngoba akahlangabezi namazinga aphakeme kakhulu, ngokuvamile avame ukulandelwa. Kulesi simo, ukuvalwa kuyisixazululo esilula. Njengoba lokhu kulula kunokuzama ukufeza imigomo ethile noma ubuyekeze izidingo zakho.
Ngokusobala, ukuziqhenya ngokuvamile kuba isizathu sokuhoxiswa. Kodwa lokhu akuyona inketho yomuntu siqu, kodwa isimo sompoqo. Njengoba engasihloniphi izwe langaphandle, abanye abantu bayazibamba bezungu. Ngenxa yalokho, baqala ukuzungezile futhi akanakho enye indlela yokuphuma.
Ungasusa kanjani ukuhlukaniswa?
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokwelapha noma yisiphi isifo siyakwazi. Kudingeka uqaphele ukuthi lesi simo esingesihle nesingemvelo esikuvimbela ukuba uphile ngokugcwele futhi ujabulele ukuphila. Kunezinkambiso eziningi ezisiza ukufika endleleni yokuthola kabusha.
Ukuqeqeshwa ngokuzenzekelayo
Lena yindlela emisha kakhulu, eyaziwayo namuhla phakathi kwabantu abafuna ukufeza impumelelo empilweni. Kunombono wokuthi umuntu uyakwazi ukuzidala yena kanye nesiphetho sakhe ngemicabango emihle kanye nemicabango ethile.
Zama ukuzitshela ukuthi kukhona abantu abakuzungezile. Akukho okubi kakhulu futhi akukho okuhle kunakho. Akekho ozama ukuhlazisa, ukucasula, ukuhleka usulu. Bakhathazekile nje, phambi kwabafokazi kanye nemihlangano ebalulekile.
Amakilasi avamile azokusiza ukuba uqinise ingqondo yakho futhi kancane kancane uxazulule inkinga yokuzihlukanisa.
Hamba phambili
Le nqubo izodinga isibindi esikhulu kuwe. Okubalulekile ukukwenza lokho okubangela ukwesaba kuwe. Ukwesaba ukujwayelana nomgwaqo? Yenza sonke isikhathi. Ukuzivocavoca kubonisa ukuthi ngesikhathi esifushane kakhulu ukwesaba kuphelile futhi umuntu uvula kakhulu emphakathini.
Into eyinhloko ukuqaphela inkinga bese uzama ukuyixazulula. Sebenzisa zonke izindlela zokuthuthukisa impilo yakho, ngoba unayo yedwa. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukwenza lokho ngokwakho, xhumana nochwepheshe.