Abazali abamukela umntwana, ngokushesha bayazibuza ukuthi kufanelekile ukutshela ingane ukuthi iqinisile ngani. Futhi uma uthi, ungatshela kanjani ingane ukuthi uyisamukeli nini futhi nini?
Uma ingane iba nesithakazelo endabeni yokuzalwa kwakhe, khona-ke ilungele ukuthola ulwazi abazali abangabelana naye, kuphela okufanele abe eseduze neqiniso ngangokunokwenzeka. Ingane akufanele izwe ukuthi ikhohlisiwe.
Kuze kube neminyaka engu-4, izingane cishe azifisi ukuthi zizalwe kanjani. Abacabangi ngekusasa noma esikhathini esizayo, kodwa bavele baphile emzuzwana wamanje. Ngakho-ke, into ebaluleke kakhulu kule nkathi ukudala isimo sokukhanya nokuvumelana kwabo. Kubantwana ngalesi sikhathi, into eyinhloko yilokho abazali abazwayo ezinhliziyweni zabo mayelana nokutholwa.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kufanele usuqale ukulolonga ukukholelwa kwengane ukuthi abazali abamukelayo bajwayelekile futhi akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokhu. Ungakwenza lokhu ngokusebenzisa inganekwane, lapho abazali bezingane ezihloswe khona (kungakhathaliseki ubuntu bakhe), izigcawu emidlalweni kanye nokunye okunjalo.
Izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka engu-4 zibona konke abazali babo abakushoyo, ngokoqobo. Ngakho-ke, ngombuzo wengane, lapho avele khona esikhundleni sezindaba nge-stork noma iklabishi, ungasho ukuthi uyitholile ngokwakho, okungukuthi, eyamukelwa. Njengoba ingane ingenakuqonda ukuthi leli gama lisho ukuthini, uzoqhubeka ekhumbula ukuthi ungumzali wangempela, ngenkathi efunda iqiniso.
Lapho umntwana ephenduka amahlanu, uqala ukuba nesithakazelo kuzo zonke izinto emhlabeni. Kule ndawo ukuthi kungcono ukudalula umntwana ukuthi imfihlo yokuzalwa kwakhe. Bangakwazi ukukusiza kakhulu lo msebenzi, bezama ukufunda izincazelo zamagama.
Zama ukuphendula imibuzo yengane ngokucacile, ngokucacile okukhulu, ngokuthula nangokumane, ngokwezinga lakhe lokuthuthukiswa. Ungazami ukukhuluma naye njengomuntu omdala, ukhuluma ngokuhamba kwabazali bakhe ngezincazelo eziyinkimbinkimbi - akaqondi kahle, kodwa angamethusa.
Yisho engxoxweni yokuthi kukhona abazali abanjalo emhlabeni abangababili babelethe futhi bakhulise ingane yabo, futhi nokuthi kukhona nalabo abangakwazi ukubeletha, kodwa abakwazi ukufundisa. Futhi, ekugcineni, ukuthi kukhona labo abangakwazi ukuzala, kodwa bafuna ukufundisa, futhi ukuthi ke abazali besibili banikela izingane zabo okwesithathu, ukuze wonke umuntu ajabule.
Zama ukulungiselela ukuthi umbuzo wengane mayelana nokuvela kwakhe emndenini uzovuka okungaphezu kwesisodwa. Lokhu kungenzeka ngenxa yokuthi izingane zivame ukuzwa into ethile izikhathi eziningi ukuze zikhumbule lokhu futhi zenze imibono ecacile mayelana nayo. Ngokuphindaphindiwe okunjalo, zama ukuqiniseka ukuthi ingane ikuqonde kahle. Futhi, ngenxa yalokhu unga, isibonelo, cela umntwana ukuthi abuyele indaba yokuzalwa kwakhe ezinganeni zakhe, kanti, uma kudingeka, ukulungisa.
Isikhathi sokukhula, okungukuthi, ngemuva kokufinyelela eminyakeni yobudala eyishumi nambili, akukwazi neze ukubizwa ngokuthi kufanelekile ukukhulumisana nezindaba ezinjalo, ngoba ngaleso sikhathi ingane ibuza yonke into, isimo sakhe sengqondo nokuzihlonipha kushintsha njalo, futhi noma yikuphi amagama angaphandle angabhekana nokuphendula okunonya . Ezimweni ezinjalo, izindaba ezishiyekile, bese zamukelwa futhi engazange zitshelwe iqiniso kuze kube manje, zingaba buhlungu kakhulu, ngakho-ke uma usenquma ukuyibika manje, kuyadingeka ukuba ukhethe ngokucophelela futhi ukhethe ngokucophelela isikhathi namazwi, okuyinto ezokwethula.
Okwamanje lapho unquma ukutshela ingane ukuthi ungumntwana, kuyadingeka ukuthi phakathi kwakho akukho ukuphikisana nokuxabana, njengoba lokhu kungamsiza ukuba afakaze konke okungahambi kahle ebuhlotsheni bakho naye. Mqaphele ukuthi uyamthanda, futhi imvelaphi yakhe yemvelo ayikuthinti nhlobo indima kuwe.
Ngokuqinisekile, kuyoba ukuhlakanipha ukuxolisa ingane uma efunda iqiniso sekwephuzile. Zama ukumchazela ukuthi kuwe uhlale ezalwa futhi ungafuni ukumlimaza. Futhi-ke ungaxoxa naye ngokulingana okulinganayo, ubale ekusekeleni nasekuqondeni kwengane.