Abantu bakhulumisana ezimweni ezahlukene. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyathandwa kanjani ukuhlangana emahhafini, ezindaweni zokudlela nakwezinye izindawo zomphakathi, ifomu elivame kakhulu lokuxhumana livakashela abangane, izihlobo noma abangane ekhaya. Kulungile kanjani ukuhambela ukuvakasha?
Ukuziphatha: kanjani ukuvakashela?
Isivakashi esingalindelekile ngeke nje sijabulise abanikazi, kodwa futhi sizobamangaza. Ngakho-ke, akusilo ukuziphatha okuhambela ukuvakashela ngaphandle kokuxwayisa nesimemo. Uma udinga ukuya kumngane ukuxazulula umbuzo, kungcono ukumbuza ngocingo noma ngomuntu, ngasiphi isikhathi esilungele ukuba ufike. Ngokwesiko, izivakashi aziphuli ebusuku futhi ekuseni kakhulu. Ngokwezifiso, izivakashi ziya ezivakashi kusukela emahoreni angu-12 kuya kumahora angu-20. Okuhlukile kubantu abasondelene kakhulu noma ngezihlobo. Bangase bahambele ngaphandle kwememo.
Emnyango wezinyawo zezindlu kufanele usule emgodini bese ubiza umnyango ngokushesha. Ungase uvakashele ukushintsha izicathulo. Owesifazane, uma efika okwesikhashana, angase anganaki. Izingane zingathathwa nazo uma abanikazi banezingane zabo.
Uma isivakashi siholwa futhi sishiywe yedwa okwesikhashana, khona-ke imele ilinde ama-Host. Kodwa akusiyo isiko ukuphonsa izinyembezi ezivulekile emnyango ovulekile, ubuke izinto kanye nesimo ekamelweni, uhambe kusukela ekhoneni kuya ekhoneni.
Uma ukuhambela kuhambelana ne-dinner noma isidlo sakusihlwa, futhi umsikazi wesifazane ucela ukuthi ungabi nandaba nawe etafuleni, udinga ukubonga nokwenqaba, ukubhekisela kulokho ongakudli esikhathini esidlule. Kodwa uma umnakekeli ephikelela, futhi ebeka izinsimbi, akudingekile ukuba aphikelele, kodwa emva kokudla kwakungalungile ukugxuma phezulu bese uhamba.
Akulungile ukushiya ngokushesha uma uvuka etafuleni, kodwa futhi ukuthi uyisimenywa, akudingeki ulahlekelwe umqondo wesikhathi. Uma inkosi njengokungathi izokutshela noma yimuphi umsebenzi ongaqediwe futhi izobuka amahora, kusho, yisikhathi sokuba isivakashi sihambe, sihlale isikhathi eside kakhulu. Mhlawumbe wezwa isaga esinjalo "Ungesabi isivakashi uhlezi, kodwa wesaba isivakashi sokuma." Lokhu kusebenza kubo bonke abathanda ukusho okuhle kubanikazi babo isikhathi eside.
Kunezinhlayiya eziningi zokuvakashela. Ngokwesibonelo, cabangela insizwa, uzoshada futhi ufuna ukujwayelana nabazali bomlobokazi. Ngesikhathi esimisiwe, kumele eze ngezimbali ngezikhwebu zomamazala wakhe wesikhathi esizayo. Mhlawumbe, uzonikezwa ingilazi yewayini noma indebe yetiyi. Kodwa ukuhambela akudingeki ukuba kubambezeleke. Ngesikhathi esifanele, umkhwenyana kufanele asho. Uma abazali bomakoti bengayanga ukuyobona umkhwenyana, umakoti wenza lokho kubo. Uhamba naye ukuvakashela abazali bomyeni wakhe.
Ukukwazi nabazali bomkhwenyana noma umakoti nakho kungahlelwa ngaphandle kwezindonga zendlu. Isibonelo, uma uvakashela ikhonsathi noma yaseshashalazini ndawonye. Umkhathi womhlangano ungaba nzima kakhulu.
Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi indoda ehlonipha yona kanye nomnikazi wayo, ngeke ifike endlini ngodakiwe, ngogwayi emlonyeni wakhe noma engaphephile.
Ekuphetheni, ake sengeze ukuthi ukuze uhambe kahle, udinga ukwazi imithetho yokuziphatha, ngoba ukuvakashelwa kuyisibonakaliso senhlonipho nokuhlonipha abanikazi bendlu.