Mhlawumbe kwakungokwemvelo - ukulinganisela amathuba abesilisa nabesifazane kanye nokusebenzisana kwabo ngokuvumelana ngababili. Noma mhlawumbe yisithelo sezahlulelo ezibekwa emphakathini okhokho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunjani, futhi owesifazane akanayo ngaphandle kwesizathu abhekwa njenge "intamo", yimuphi umuntu-ikhanda "ekuqondeni kwesokudla eqondisa. Eqinisweni, yiyo kanye lezenzo azilindele kuye.
Ukuziphatha komuntu ebuhlotsheni bugcwele izintandokazi eziyinkimbinkimbi zezenzo ezenzelwe ukuqinisekisa induduzo yokuhlala kulezi zinsuku zabanye abahlanganyeli babo. Abagqugquzeli abayinhloko kulowo mlingani wakhe bangesifiso sokubheka abanye ngempumelelo kuphela, kodwa futhi ukuthi babe yingxenye enkulu ngokuqondene naye. Nguyena wesifazane onquma ukuthi kuyoba yini ukuziphatha komngane wakhe kubambisene babo. Futhi ikakhulukazi kuxhomeke kulo, ubude babo buzohlala isikhathi eside kangakanani.
Izikhathi zishintsha, abantu bayashintsha futhi.
Futhi manje ukulingana kwabesilisa ngokobulili, njengokuphila kwefilosofi ngokulandelana, kwakha kahle izingqondo zeningi. Kodwa lokhu akuzange kushintshe izinto eziyisisekelo zokuziphatha kobulili ebuhlotsheni. Indoda isadinga ukuqashelwa, ukusekelwa, ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa. Futhi lo wesifazane akazange abe namandla ngokomzimba wokubhekana nomsebenzi odinga ukusebenza. Ngandlela-thile, ukuziphatha kwamadoda ebuhlotsheni kuyindlela entsha yokuxhumeka kokuphikisa, yebo, kuye kwashintsha: waba ngaphansi kokudla kwasekuseni okuphekwe futhi wafunda ukugeza izingubo zakhe noma ukugqoka umbhede. Kodwa isu eliphelele lezenzo zesikhathi eside liye lahlala lifanayo: indoda eduze komfazi ifuna i-caresses, ukufudumala, ukuthula, izithembisa ukuthi ngokuqinisekile uzothola konke nokukholwa okungenakunyakazeka emandleni akhe. Futhi ufuna ukunikeza - njengakuqala - konke akwazi ukukufeza eceleni kwakhe futhi kuye (okungenani, lo muntu uyaqiniseka ngakho).
Ikhwalithi yezimbuzi ngempela.
Lokhu kubonga okungapheli, okungapheliyo, okuqhubekayo nokujulile, okwesifazane okulangazelela ukubona nokuthi yikuphi ukufihleka ngokucophelela. Lo mzwa ophezulu enhliziyweni yakhe awuncishisiwe phakathi namakhulu eminyaka. Njengoba kwakungekho ukuvuleka ekukhulumeni kwakhe. Mhlawumbe, lokhu kungenye yalezi zinkinga ezingaxhunywanga zobudlelwane phakathi kobulili: indoda kumfazi wayo njalo iyakubonga ngokwanele ukuveza ukubonga kwakhe nje ukuthi ayikwazi. Kodwa kulula ukuhlanganyela lo mzwa nabazali bakho noma abangane bakho.
Yini enye ebeka ukuziphatha komuntu omuhle ebuhlotsheni?
Okokuqala, isifiso sokududuzeka. Ekuqaleni umuntu ugoqela ngobugovu nobugovu kunowesifazane. Ngakho-ke, ukwethemba umlingani othize, uyitshela kakhulu ngaye nangokuzizwa kwakhe ukuthi akanaso isikhathi sokulalela imicabango yakhe. Ngokwemvelo, njenganoma yimuphi umuntu, ozikhathazeke kakhulu ngaye, indoda ixhomeke ekuthuthukisweni kwengqondo ebuhlotsheni. Ngakho-ke, kuye ngalelikhwalithi nokuziphatha kwayo.
Okulandelayo, ezolile. Lapha akukho lutho olushintshile - njengaseNkathini Ephakathi noma phakathi nesikhathi sama-cavemen abantu bazizwa isidingo somuntu endlini yakhe, lapho izitha zakhe nokubonakaliswa okungakahle kwemvelo kwakungeke kuphule ukuthula nokulondeka - futhi uyayidinga namhlanje. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlangana nendoda ngokumomotheka kanye nesidlo esishisayo noma indlu yokugeza yangasese. Noma yiluphi ilungu lezocansi ezinamandla indoda yombono wokuqala nokugcina. Futhi uma lezi zithombe zikhunjulwa kuye njengento emnandi, ngakho konke okwakungathandeki phakathi kwabo, uzokwehlisa futhi akhohlwe ngokuphepha.
Yiqiniso, umuntu akufanele akhohlwe ngesici esiyinhloko esinqumayo isimo sengqondo somuntu kumuntu wesifazane - lo nguye ngokwakhe.
Ngokuqondile, ikhono lakhe lokubonisa ubuqotho bakhe, ukwethembeka nokuthanda umthandi wakhe. Ngenxa yalezi zimfanelo ezilula, noma yikuphi owesifazane kunoma yimuphi umuntu angaphenduka enqoqweni enzima nohlukumezayo enkingeni elawulwayo, efudumele neyothando. Yiqiniso, uma lezi zibonakaliso ziba yinto engacabangi futhi indoda iyazibona, ukuphindiselela kuyoba buhlungu. Amadoda atholakale kakhulu kunabesifazane. Futhi ukuthethelela kunzima kakhulu kubo. Ezinye izazi ze-psychologists zihlanganisa ngisho nokuziphatha okunjalo kwesimo somuntu ngesimo esibucayi sobulili obuqinile. Njengabantu abahlala emndenini, abanikezeli kanye nabanqobile, amadoda anqatshelwe ikhono lokukhohlwa into ebalulekile. Ngakho-ke, ngisho nalapho esithethelele othandekayo, ngeke aphinde amhlambaleze ngephutha lakhe elide, elimzwisa ubuhlungu ekuphileni kwakhe konke. Ngisho noma owesifazane ehamba nomunye uthando efika endaweni yakhe, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzokwazi ukukhohlwa indoda ekhononda.
Kukhona umbono wokuthi indoda ebuhlotsheni kuqala kuqala ifuna injabulo yomzimba futhi kuphela-ubuhlobo obungokomzwelo. Futhi ngokuvamile kuvamile. Akusikho ngaphandle kwezizathu ezihlakaniphile abantu abakusho ukuthi noma yikuphi ubudlelwane lwakhiwe ngezigaba ezintathu. Okokuqala, kukhona ukuthakazeliswa nomzimba, khona - ukuzwelana komphefumulo futhi, ekugcineni, ukuvumelana kokunamathela komzimba nangokomzwelo. Kubantu, lolu hlu lwezokuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane lubalulekile ikakhulukazi. Ngempela, bona, ngokungafani nalabo abathanda amazwi amnandi wabesifazane, bathande kuqala ngamehlo abo kuphela bese bezwa ngezindlebe zabo. Yikuphi, okuyikho, okungenani ekuqedeni iqiniso elidumile mayelana nethuba lokunqoba okunamathiselwe komuntu ngokusebenzisa izinjabulo ze-gastronomic.
Yiqiniso, bangaki amadoda, amasu amaningi kakhulu ekuziphatha kwabo ebuhlotsheni. Umuntu othanda ukuqhuma njalo ngemizwelo futhi ngazo zonke izindlela kungabangela ukuhlukunyezwa nezinye izinselele ezingokwengqondo. Omunye, ngokuphambene nalokho, ulangazelela ukuthula nokuzinza futhi ulungele ngisho nokuzenza sengathi uyimpumputhe futhi uyisithulu kubo, hhayi ukuqaphela ukunganaki kwezifiso zabo. Abanye bahlala bethembekile eqinisweni elilodwa elingenakunqotshwa futhi besaba kakhulu ukuzithola bekhohlisiwe, ngakho-ke bayashesha abavela othandekayo baze bangathandwa, bengabesabi ukubuyela eqinisweni. Kodwa into eyodwa ngabo bonke abantu beplanethi ingasho ngokuqinisekile. Ngamunye wabo ukhetha isu lokuziphatha ebuhlotsheni kuye ngokuthi izinto ezintathu. Owokuqala umgomo awenzayo ekuxhumaneni okuqondile nalona wesifazane. Owesibili yizizwa azizwa ngomkakhe. Owesithathu yi-degree of goodowal, ayibona kumthandi wakhe.