Yebo, yebo! Kungani amadoda acebile engasenandaba nesithakazelo samantombazane? Impendulo ilula. Abesifazane abanjalo abazi ukuthi balinde kanjani. Baye baqiniseka ukuthi ngemuva kokuqala kokuqala kufanele banikele izipho, futhi akulula futhi hhayi eshibhile. Kancane kancane uba umzingeli, bayesabisa amadoda, ngoba banomuzwa wokuthi baphathwa njengento yokuphangwa, i-trophy edingekayo ngezinhloso zobugovu. Futhi, njengoba wazi, into esemqoka emibhangqwana kufanele ibe yindoda, ikakhulukazi uma inesimo sezenhlalakahle esiphakeme. Kusukela kulokhu kulandela ukuthi amadoda anjalo azokuzikhethela wona, azoba nobani, futhi obani, okungenjalo, okungenjalo, nomuntu ongeke afune ukuqhubeka naye ubuhlobo. Kodwa, ukuba naye ube ngowesifazane omuhle, olula, kungenye indaba. Ebudlelwaneni obunjalo uzobusa futhi enze izinqumo. Uyoba umuntu othandekayo nothando. Noma kunjalo, akuwona wonke umuntu ocebile onombono onjalo. Phela, intombazane enesizotha izokukhetha kuphela kumabhizinisi osomabhizinisi omkhulu, kude nokuphila komphakathi, ngubani oye wazuza konke, futhi ngubani ongenasithakazelo ku "mazhorki." Kodwa "ama-majors" afanayo ane-intelligence ephansi, kunesidingo sokuba intombazane esivela esikhwameni, lapho angaya khona kumaqembu kanye namaqembu ukuze akwazi ukuziqhayisa futhi akhulise ukuzethemba kwakhe emehlweni abantu abaningi abazungezile.
Amadoda amaningi acebile futhi abanjwe afuna umfazi angabonakali ubuhle, "ohlala" ezindaweni zokudlela, owesifazane olula ongathanda ngobuqotho. Ukungawuthandi ngesikhwama samafutha, hhayi ngamathuba akhethiweyo angamnika wona, hhayi ngamakhelwane akhe kanye nokuxhumana, kodwa ngesimo sakhe. Ngenxa yokuthi uyamthanda, uyakwazisa, uyabamba futhi awanga, ngenxa yokujula kwamehlo akhe nokumomotheka. Imfashini ye "imodeli yamantombazane" isivele ikhukhumeza ngokwayo. Phela, akukho izingubo kanye nezingubo zokugqoka kuso okungahlobisa umphefumulo nengqondo yakhe. Futhi la madoda afuna lokho eduze kwabo kwakungomunye ongasisekela noma iyiphi ingxoxo nokuthi ungaba kanjani, ngaphandle kwemaski nama-pathos. Futhi amantombazane avela emindenini ecebile aphila ngokuvumelanisa okungenasisekelo, awaziqondi ohlangothini lweqiniso lomshado nobuhlobo. Ungaqondi ukuthi yini "okufanele ushade" kusho ukuba "ngomyeni"! Amadoda aphumelele ebhizinisini afuna abesifazane abathobekile nabesifazane abahlakaniphile abazoba umngane, hhayi ukubheka, kodwa ngendlela efanayo nabo.
Ukushada komuntu ocebile nomfazi ompofu kungenzeka. Kungokuthi ngokuvamile abanaso isikhathi esanele sokuthola lowo abaphuphayo. Yebo, empeleni, imihlangano enjalo ayikho ngokwezimo ezihleliwe, kodwa njengenjwayelo. Kungenzeka uma ungalindeli. Isibonelo, e-cafe encane, emgwaqweni, ehhovisi noma nasesibhedlela. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kungenzeka noma kuphi.
Kodwa izinyunyana zomshado ezinjalo zinenkinga eyodwa - lokhu kungalingani komshado. Emva kwakho konke, indoda eyayifuna konke, yajwayela ukuthi kufanele ilawule konke, ilawule futhi ilayise konke. Lokhu angakuletha emndenini. Ukuze lokhu kungeke kwenzeke, izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuthi ubudlelwano obunjalo bwakhiwe ngokulingana okulinganayo. Dala ukusebenzisana kwabantu abalinganayo. Akudingeki ube namahloni ngokuvikela iphuzu lakho lokubukwa, futhi udinga ukwenza lokhu ngobumnene futhi unobtrusively. Ngemuva kwalokho, amadoda anjalo ajwayelekile, futhi akafuni ukwamukela izingxabano nomunye umuntu. Izazi zengqondo zithi emazwini anjalo, udinga ukusebenzisa lesi simiso sokwakha inkulumo yakho, lapho ingxabano yakho iqala ngesimemezelo esithi "I", kodwa akunjalo "wena." Kulokhu, ukhuluma ngemizwa yakho, hhayi ukushintsha izinkinga zakho emahlombe omlingani wakho. Ngeke ulinde isikhathi lapho izikhalo zakho noma ukunganeliseki kuzothola ngaphakathi kwakho futhi ufinyelele iphuzu lokubilisa. Zama ukukhuluma nabo ngothandekayo wakho njengoba zivela.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi uma ufuna ukwakha ubuhlobo obungathí sina nomuntu ocebile, kufanele ukhule njengomuntu. Indoda yebhizinisi ehlakaniphile futhi ephumelelayo ayidingi idoli ukuze iqede ingaphakathi. Udinga ukwenza ngokwakho, uthole imfundo enhle, uqaphele izenzakalo ezweni kanye nezwe, ube nesithakazelo ezintweni ezithandayo.
Insizwa ecebile nentombazane empofu nayo ingahlukana. Futhi ngokuvamile kuvame ukuthi owesifazane emva kwesahlukaniso uhlala engenakho indlela yokuphila. Ngakho-ke, madodakazi othandekayo, kufanele uzuze impilo futhi ungathembeli ngokuphelele kumyeni wakho. Kufanele uqiniseke esikhathini esizayo, ngokuthi uzokwazi ukuzondla wena nokugqoka, uma lokho.