Kodwa sifuna ukukhuluma kancane ngenye into namhlanje. Masikhulume ngalezo zimo lapho umuntu ezama ukugwema ukuxhumana nomfazi. Ekuboneni kokuqala, isimo singase sibonakale singenangqondo futhi sihlekisa ngokwezinga elithile - sonke singabantu abadala, futhi lapha umuntu uzama ukugwema ukuxhumana nobulili obuhlukile. Yini eyenza izenzo ezinjalo futhi yini umuntu azama ukuzivikela ngokwenza izenzo ezinjalo?
Futhi siqala ngemibono yokuphila ehlobene nezindima nezindawo zokuphila kwamadoda nabesifazane. Ngonyaka owodwa nangaphezulu kwekhulu leminyaka sonke siyabona futhi siqonde ukuthi umuntu uyinqobe nomzingeli, futhi owesifazane ungumgcini wendlu nomuzi. Kodwa udinga ukuqonda ukuthi uma kwakunjalo eminyakeni engu-200 edlule, manje konke akunakwenzeka lokhu. Futhi ukuthi abesifazane abaningi bahlanganyela emsebenzini "wesilisa", futhi amadoda - "abesifazane" namuhla akasimangazi muntu. Kodwa, cishe, lokhu kufihla umbuzo wombuzo othi "Kuyini, uma umuntu egwema ukuxhumana nowesifazane?"
Iqiniso lokuthi owesifazane uzama kulo mpilo ukuze angabheki nje ngemisebenzi yasendlini, ikhishi nezingane, kodwa futhi aqaphele amandla akhe njengengcweti kwezinye izindawo kuye kwaba yinto evamile. Futhi ukuthi owesifazane ufuna ukuphumelela ngokulinganayo emndenini nasemsebenzini, izinkathazo ezijulile abameleli bobulili obunamandla. Kungaba kanjani kangcono kunami uma ngingumuntu? Imibuzo enjalo yokuqala, mhlawumbe, izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa zagxila ezingqondweni zamadoda amaningi. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi umuntu angakwazi ukufunda ezinye izindaba zasekhaya akhishwe nje ngoba "lokhu akuwona umsebenzi womuntu"
Futhi-ke, lapho isigamu esiqinile somuntu siqala ukuzwa ingozi kubamele abesigamu esihle ngokunciphisa idumela kanye nesimo sabo-ke baqala ukugwema ukuthintana nobulili obuhlukile. Ngokuvamile uhlangane namadoda avuma ukunqotshwa owesifazane? Nangu kunjalo.
Uma umuntu eqala ukugwema ukukhulumisana, ke ngokusho kwengqondo, lokhu kusho ukuthi lo muntu, othomeni, usebenza ezinhlokweni zokuqala. Phela, akekho oye waqeda isisindo somuntu sokuzivikela.
Kodwa sihlala emphakathini. Ngakho-ke, lapha izizathu nezinhloso zilungiswa kancane, ngokungafani nezwe lesilwane. Futhi amadoda amaningi angeke avume ukuthi uma indoda ibona owesifazane ophumelelayo futhi othembekile phambi kwakhe, ke, njengomthetho, ugweme ukuxhumana naye. Lokhu kuhlazisa futhi kumthuka, njengoba omunye wezombangazwe uye wavuma ukuziveza.
Futhi abesifazane, ngaphezu kokuphumelela, baphinde balahlekelwe ubufazi babo . Emva kwakho konke, uma ufika emphakathini wempisi, udinga ukuba imbuzi efanayo. Uma kungenjalo uzoba yisisulu salezi zimpisi. Ngakho-ke, ukuthola impumelelo nempumelelo yomsebenzi, udinga ukuzibuza umbuzo - kodwa kuwufanele yini yonke le mpumelelo yalokho engilahlekelwa ngesikhathi esisodwa? Emva kwakho konke, uma indoda njalo, ngenxa yokuthi ayikho isizathu esicacile, igweme ukuxhumana nawe - lokhu kungenzeka ngenxa yalesi sizathu.
Phela, iningi labesifazane livele liyeke umsebenzi ngo-150% kusukela ekuhlulekeni komuntu siqu noma komndeni bese uthole lokho abakufunayo. Ukuxhumana nomuntu osebenza emsebenzini nasekhaya, njengowesifazane uqobo, kuhluke kakhulu ezimweni eziningi. Emsebenzini, owesifazane, ikakhulu uma ephethe izikhundla zokuphatha, uphendukela "osizini esikhwameni" futhi okubi kakhulu kunomsizi ongatholakali emhlabeni wonke - ukuthi bangaki amadoda acabanga. Futhi ekuvikelekeni kwekhaya nobudlova ungahlala wemvelo futhi ukhululekile, ngoba awudingi ukuqina futhi ufune. Imidlalo enjalo ngokwabo ivame ukubonwa nabesifazane abaningi.
Futhi yini engayibona engxoxweni yowesifazane yisitayela sokuziphatha komfazi njengoba kuhluka emndenini nasemsebenzini. Emva kwakho konke, naphezu kokuthi isigamu esihle sesintu sisesebenzisekile kakhulu futhi sinomzwelo, abaningi babo abakwazi ukuzivuselela ngokwabo isitayela sokusebenza futhi ekhaya futhi baziphatha njengasebenza. Lokhu, ngokusho kochwepheshe, enye yezinkinga ezinkulu zomphakathi wamanje, ezithinta uhlobo lomndeni wanamuhla nobuhlobo kulo.
Njengoba abanye abantu bethi, ukuxhumana nowesifazane ongeyena owesifazane kuphela kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo umphathi wakho uhlobo lomdlalo wekati negundane. Phela, kubalulekile ukwethula ulwazi ngale ndlela ukuze aneliseke, futhi ungakhohlwa ukwenza ezinye, ngisho nokunciphisa, ukuncoma kokuncoma.
Nanka amanye amaphuzu azokusiza ukuthi uqonde ukuthi kungani amadoda ezama ukugwema ukuxhumana nabesifazane. Futhi uma isizathu esiyinhloko salokhu ukwesaba owesifazane ophumelele ngokwengeziwe, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi injabulo ayilinganiswa ngemali noma impumelelo yomsebenzi. Kukhona okuningi okuletha injabulo empilweni yethu - lolu uthando, nezihlobo, nezihlobo, nabangane. Mhlawumbe lo wesifazane akajabuli empilweni yakhe kangangokuthi awukwazi ngisho nokucabanga?