Ubuntombi kanye nobulili

Ngomqondo wesilisa - ngubani okhululekile, ongabandakanyeki - abesifazane banikwa umfazi noma indlovukazi ngokungeziwe kokwesaba okuphakade "okuphakade".

Ukuqaphela kubamba inkumbulo uhlobo olucacile kunazo zonke, futhi kumuntu ngamunye endleleni yokuphila abesifazane ababili abadlulele ngokweqile babehlangatshezwane nazo: bangabizwa ngazo zonke izindlela: unkosikazi ongunaphakade nomfazi ongunaphakade, owesifazane obulalayo futhi onokwethenjelwa, "umama" kanye "nesifebe," njengoba kuchazwe ngabo U-Otto Weininger, owathi ekuqaleni kwekhulu leminyaka washicilela incwadi ekhanyayo ethi "Ubulili kanye Nomuntu", okwenza kube nengxabano evuthayo.
Akudingekile ukuthi wonke owesifazane ungowomhlobo noma umfazi waphakade, noma inkosikazi engunaphakade.

Kungani kuncane kangaka? Ngisho nowesifazane ohlanganisa ngokuphumelelayo kokubili, nakuba okuncane, kodwa uhamba kancane kunye yalezi zibonda. Ungakhulumi abameleli abaqhakazile.

UKUPHUMA NJENGOBA UKUPHILA

Ngandlela-thile ubusuku obufudumele ehlobo e-dacha intatheli encane yabuthela inkampani yentsha ehloniphekile. Amantombazane amancane ahlakaniphile ayegqoke ama jeans aphansi kanye nama-T-shirts, kodwa ukubuka okuhlangenwe nakho kwakuzobona ngokushesha ukuthi izindleko zezinto zingaphansi kwezingubo eziningi "ze-chic" ezimakethe zokugqoka. Abantu abasha, bezama ukungalali ngemuva kwamantombazane ekwenzeni ngcono imikhuba, baphuze ngokweqile futhi baphuthumise ukuqhuma. Umkhathi we-chic wepikinikini wawuphazamiseke ukubonakala okungalindelekile kwesihlobo somnikazi we-dacha. Wayeneminyaka engama-10 ubudala kunamantombazane akhona, okuyinto ekubonweni kwabo amlinganisa naye ubudala obufanayo noClara Zetkin. Wayenesigqoko sezinhlanzi ze-fishnet, izithende eziphakeme, inkinga engamhloniphi uNkulunkulu kanye nezindebe ezimibalabala. Ngenkathi amantombazane ebukeka engabonakali ngokubonakaliswa kokungafani kokungcoliswa okungenjalo, ubuso be-interlocutors abo abacabangelayo bathola inkulumo ehluke ngokuphelele. Ngenkinobho yeso, ukuphazamisa izingxoxo ezihlanjululweyo ngeBergges nezintombi zakhe, zikhanya ngamehlo aqhakazile azungeze le ndoda esanda kufika, efuna ukutshela i-anecdotes engacabangi futhi ekwazi ukufudumala ngeglasi ngemuva kwesibuko. Kwasekuseni, kwafunyanwa ukuthi le ndoda yayiphelile. Ngaphandle kwakhe, omunye wabantu abasha, abangatholakalanga ngosuku noma ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, belahlekelwa. Lapho abazali, becindezelekile ngenjabulo, sebevele behlose ukuya emaphoyiseni, le nsizwa yavela ngemibuthano ekhululekile ngaphansi kwamehlo akhe kanye nesitoreji esinqotshiwe semali. Kwaba ukuthi, nomuntu ochaziwe ngenhla, wathatha uhambo olungahambi kahle oluya eSt. Petersburg ngokumisa kuzo zonke izindawo zokudlela ezihlobene. Lapho, evikela, le nsizwa yavuma ukuthi ihlangane nowesifazane wangempela futhi, mhlawumbe, yamshada, kwakuyizindlela zababelethi zokuqoqa ndawonye zonke izinqwaba zemithombo yezimali zangaphandle futhi kuthatha ingane ngokushayela ngaphandle.
Lokhu kungenye yezici eziphawuleka kakhulu zekusasa lomuntu ongunaphakade. Ngisho nalapho omunye wamadoda anothando kakhulu ethanda ukushada naye, zikhona izimo ezivimbela ukuba angenzi. Yiqiniso, akudingekile ukuthi abathandi bephakade bangashadi. Kuyinto nje ukuthi ngisho nalapho bezama ukuqala impilo yomndeni, bayayakha ngokwesiqondiso sezinhlanga "zokusinda". Uma ulalela indaba yowesifazane onjalo obizwa ngokuthi "Indaba Yokuphila Kwami ingu ...", khona-ke umoya uthatha kusukela enhliziyweni yabantu abaphukile. Umlaleli ongenalwazi angase asole ukuthi konke lokhu kwakhiwe. Ngaphandle kwalo: konke kuyiqiniso. Kukhuluma kuphela ngomkhonto oye wachitha ngenxa yakhe, akukaze eze emqondweni wakhe ukuthi le knight ngumthwalo wesitolo esitolo esiseduze, futhi yonke "imfucuza" ebhokisini elibiwe le-vodka. Ku "herbarium" yakhe ayikho indawo yokukhethwa kwemvelo. Noma yikuphi ukunakwa komuntu okucatshangelwayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubani ongaphambi kwalo: umuntu oshisayo othengayo osempumalanga noma ososayensi oyinkimbinkimbi. Mhlawumbe ukuthandwa kakhulu kwamadoda ukuthi laba besifazane ababaphathe kahle. Noma yimuphi umuntu kuye kuyinto yokudlala ngothando kulowo mhlaba olula ukuthi ungumuntu.

UKUQINISWA: WAKHO

Ngokungafani nenkosikazi engunaphakade, lapho ehlangene nendlela yakhe owesifazane, okuvela kuye "umzwelo womva", lo muntu ngokushesha unquma ukuthi uzoba ngumkakhe. Nokho, ngomshado ubambezelekile. Okuthile kumvimba, kodwa ulinde ngesineke. Kubuye kwacaca kuye ukuthi le ndoda yanquma ukuba ngumyeni wayo, futhi kusukela ngesikhathi esaziqaphela ngayo, bonke abanye amadoda bayeka ukuba khona kuye. Umfazi ongunaphakade akaniki isizathu sokungabaza ukungahambi kahle. Akakhathaleli lokho okhethiweyo okwenzayo ngenkathi emlinda. Umqondo oyisisekelo owakhona emkhatsini wamakhosikazi aphakade unomuzwa wokuthi, ngokuthi incazelo ehlakaniphile yoma ingoma, "isisusa kusukela ekuntwaneni kokusa" - umqondo wemfanelo. Kuthuthukiswa kakhulu kubo ukuthi yonke iminye imizwa isesimweni esinqunyiwe. Kubandakanya ubulili. Bacabanga indlela yokuzicabangela ngendlela engavamile: mhlawumbe njengomqondo wemfanelo, noma njengomvuzo kumuntu wokuziphatha okuhle. Noma kunjalo, njengoba eshadile futhi enganaki lesi sici sokuphila komkhaya, bavame ukuphupha ngendlela ehle kakhulu.