Indlela yokuqhubeka, ukuze umfana angalahlekelwa inzalo

Ngokuphefumula kwamadoda ethu ngezinye izikhathi ungakhuluma ngamahora. Singakanani okudingeka sikwenze ngezinye izikhathi ukugcina "ikhophi" oyithandayo eceleni kwethu. Futhi, uma umuntu ebanjwe enzima futhi enomnqopho, kudingeka ulungele lokho okuzodingeka uzame ngenxa yesikhathi esizayo senjabulo. Njengoba umuntu onjalo okhuthele angase abe nesithukuthezi ngokushesha, sidinga ukwazi amaqhinga ambalwa azokusiza ukuba uvule othandekayo bakho nsuku zonke, ngenkathi uqhubeka uhlala emfihlakalo kuye. Isihloko sethu esithi "Yini okufanele uyenze, ukuze umfana angalahlekelwa inzalo" uzokutshela ngalezi zici ukuze ukwazi ukuzisebenzisa ngokusebenza.

Ngokuqinisekile, ngamunye wethu wabhekana nezimo ezinjalo, lapho umuntu ekhuluma ngokuvulekile, bathi, ukhathele yizinto zonke nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ukuthi lolu xhumano luthando olungabonakali luyanyamalala phakathi kwakho. Abanye besifazane baqhaqhazela futhi bacasula: bekungaba kanjani ukuthi babethanda indoda ethandekayo? Intukuthelo ithatha umonakalo - futhi idiliza isimo sengqondo, naphezu kokuthi emphefumulweni abafuna kakhulu ukuyigcina. Kodwa kunabesifazane bohlobo oluhlukile - banesithakazelo embuzweni: "Yini okumelwe ukwenze, ukuze umfana angalahlekelwa intshisekelo", hhayi lapho sekuphuzile kakhulu ukushintsha into ethile, kodwa kusengaphambili, lapho ubudlelwano buqala ukuzuza. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi uma konke kunikeze ukuphahlazeka, awukwazi ukulondoloza umbhangqwana wakho.

Ake sithi umfana wakho usekhohlile ngokuphawulekayo futhi walahlekelwa inzalo. Kuyadabukisa kakhulu, ngiyavuma, kodwa udinga ukuhlala phansi uphinde uyithole - kungani lokhu kwenzeke futhi kungubani isizathu esilandelayo? Sikuxwayisa kusengaphambili ukuthi ukuphela kwemikhakha yakho kungase kungaphumeleli - ngoba indoda yakho iyindoda, nemizwa nemizwelo yakhe futhi, mhlawumbe, inqume ngempela yonke into futhi ngeke ivumelane nokubuyisana. Yilungele le nguquko yezenzakalo.

Manje bheka ngokwakho: ingabe le ndoda indoda oyidingayo? Noma mhlawumbe awuboni okukhethwa kulo mzuzu futhi kungenxa yakho - njengethuba lokugcina lomuntu omanzi? Cabanga ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokuya empini ngekusasa lakho ndawonye.

Zama futhi ukuqonda ukuthi inkinga yakho ijulile kangakanani kumuntu - lokhu kuyadingeka ukuze ubone ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani kulokhu. Qala kancane - buyekeza ngokwakho, ushintshe isithombe: vumela izinwele zakho nezingubo zakho zishintshe ngokuphawulekayo, futhi umfana uzozibona! Amadoda athande konke okusha, njengoba benobuhlungu ngempela "endala". Uma ubona ukuthi lokhu akuzange kusize, ke inkinga idonsa okuningi kakhulu kunokuba ungacabanga.

Ngendlela, kaningi, esikhundleni sokuhlala phansi nokuxoxisana ngokuthula ngesimo samanje sokuphikisana ne "party protest", sigcina konke lokhu okungalungile nokwakha ukucabanga ngalokho okungahambi kahle kithi. Kunemigqa emibili yokuziphatha kwethu nawe. Noma siba nesibindi futhi sivumelane nakho konke, sizama ukujabulisa "inkosi" ukuze ashintshe intukuthelo yakhe ibe nesihe. Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, sithatha isimo sokuzivikela futhi sigxilise ukunganeliseki hhayi nje ngezindlebe, kodwa nangezenzo. Qaphela ukuthi okusanhlamvu okuzitholakali akutholakali kokuqala noma kokubili okuhlukile. Kodwa ukuhlela ingxoxo eqotho ngamathoni amahle, mhlawumbe, indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, bese uxoxisana - obani nokuthi yini ehluphayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udinga ukushintsha nokuthi iyiphi indlela.

Uma kungekho muntu ohlala nawe, hlala yedwa ngokuzihlukanisa kahle, uphuze itiye ngokuqinile futhi ucabange ngokuziphatha kwakho. Lokhu akuyona ihlekisayo - empeleni, ukwehlisa uhlamvu lwakho, imikhuba yakho "emashalofini," zama ukuqonda - mhlawumbe udliwe ekhaya, yini ehlabayo ngempela nawe? Mhlawumbe wena nomfana unesithakazelo esihlukile? Mhlawumbe ufuna ukuba uhlanganyele izinkanuko zakhe noma, okungenani, ungamvimbeli ukwenza lokho akuthandayo? Thatha iqabunga bese ubhala kuwo ngakho konke ukushiyeka kwakho. Akukwazi ukuthi awunayo? Bese ungabuza umfana ukuthi ungaziphi - yikuphi ukungalungi akubona kuwe? Futhi hlola uhlu. Okokuqala, ngenxa yalokhu, uzoqonda ukuthi yini ekhona ngempela, futhi okwesibili, uzokwazi ukuziqonda kangcono wena nezimbangela zempi yakho.

Kodwa-ke, ngemuva kokuzikhethela ngokwalo kungalandela nje okuhle nokucabangela, kodwa futhi kungathandeki. Isibonelo, ugxila emaphutheni akho kanye nokungaphumeleli futhi ulahlekelwa ukholo kuwe. Njengokuthi, unomusa futhi unomusa, futhi angimfanelanga, angifanele yena ... Bantombazane, bathandekayo, awudingi ukulahlekelwa ukholo kuwe futhi uthole ukuthula! Ngikholelwa, amadoda akho ngeke awakuthande nakancane. Yiqiniso, owesifazane kufanele abe buthakathaka futhi angenakuzivikela, kodwa akukhathaleli ngempela. Ngakho khumbula ukuziqhenya kwakho futhi ungakuvumeli ukunyathelisa phezu kokungcola.

Lokho, ngokuyisisekelo, nazo zonke izeluleko zethu. Landela futhi uqonde isimo - lokhu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esixazululweni esiphumelelayo. Uma uqonda ukuthi isimo sisesekuwe - zama ukushintsha nokuhlola, avele phambi kwamehlo akho owathandayo njalo isikhathi esisha futhi esingavamile - vumela umfana wakho anganaki ukuqagela iphazili yakho! Funda ukudansa noma ukupheka, ukugcoba ukuziqhenya kwakhe kwamadoda - emva kwakho konke, kufanele baziqhenye ngamantombazane abo - futhi kuphela lapho belala phansi ubuhlobo bakho.

Kodwa uma ubonile ukuthi ukuzama lapha akusizi ngalutho futhi lo muntu ongenangqondo ufuna isizathu sokushiya - ke ungabambeli. Usuke wanquma konke futhi wacabanga kakhulu; ngokubekezela kwakhe uzokwenza okungaphezu kwalokho - mhlawumbe uzobe ethukuthele nawe nokungaqondakali kwakho futhi uhambe, uthathe umphefumulo wakho nentukuthelo nentukuthelo - okuzovumelana ngayo, kuyisiphetho esingathandeki kunoma yiluphi ubudlelwane - ngisho nalabo asebekhulile selehlile.

Kodwa, noma yikuphi, into esemqoka - ungadangali! Ngisho noma umuntu ehamba, akusho ukuthi impilo iphelile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuphila kuqhubeka nje, futhi ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe emva kokunye ukuguqulwa kokufa uzohlangana nothando lwakho lweqiniso ... Futhi udinga ukuba ulungele ukuba ungaphuthelwa umuzwa wangempela ngokwakho! Ukuze uthole amandla okuvumela ukuhamba kwesimo esidlule, esikude kunzima kuwe. Ukuze kungabikho ukungazethembi nokudabuka, kodwa ukudukisa amadoda ngokukhanya okungaqondakali kokukhanya kwethenda ... Akusizo ngalutho ukuthi injabulo yabesifazane iphelele ngokuphelele futhi isekelwe kumuntu othandekayo ohlangothini lwakhe! Ngakho-ke masibe abesifazane abathandekayo, abanothando nabathandekayo!