Wathi, khona-ke. Umuntu onjalo angaziqhayisa, ngoba ukuzimisela kuyimfanelo engenakulinganiswa yendoda yangempela. Kodwa ukuthi ungaba kanjani nalabo abathi futhi, ngaphandle kokuzisola, bahlehliselwa kamuva? Isikhathi sithuthuka phambili, futhi sinjengelitshe elithi "recumbent stone", elithatha ngalesi sikhathi futhi alifuni ukuhambisa ...
Yiqiniso, uma othembekile wakho engazimele ngokwezinga elingaphansi kwemvume yakho angeke adle, kulesi simo konke kucacile. Ithonya lokhokho kusukela ebuntwaneni, kanye nalolu hlobo lokuzithoba. Yena uqobo uyangena futhi akaqondanga kahle emzaneni, kanti namanje unomama oqinile nezimpikiswano zakhe, eziye zangena ekhanda lami ukuthi ngaphambi kwanoma yini engenziwa, kubalulekile ukucela imvume. Izingane ezinjalo, futhi ekugcineni amadoda, ahlale elalela futhi eguquguqukayo, ahlale elungele ukulinda izeluleko nemiyalo evela kumuntu. Abafuni neze ukushintsha izimpilo zabo ngisho nezikhathi zabo ngabanye, abangazithandi. Umlingani we-takemuzhchiny, njengomthetho, thola owesifazane ohloniphekile, owathi iminyaka eyikhulu uyazi ukuthi i-kchemu nokuthi ingaphila ngempela. Iqiniso namanje kuyinkinga yokuphikisana, ngokuthi ubani owokuqala ukuthola ukuthi ubani obambisene naye.
Kodwa mhlawumbe ngenhlanhla, noma ngokuphambene nalokho, azikho amadoda amaningi kangaka. Imvelo yaqaphela ukuthi ingxenye enkulu yabantu besilisa yayinezimfanelo ezidingekayo ukuze zenze imisebenzi esemqoka - ukuthuthukiswa kokulondolozwa okusha nokulondolozwa kwabantu. Ngakho-ke, ingxenye enkulu, abameleli be-polonaporist eqinile bazimele futhi bahlale bekulungele ukushintsha okuthile ekuphileni kwabo. Kodwa zonke lezi zimfanelo zizibonakalisa ngokwazo ngokukhetha. Isibonelo, ukuze ushintshe imoto (ukubona ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukubolekisa imali, ukudlula zonke izidakamizwa, ukuthengisa omdala bese ukhetha omusha), indoda ejwayelekile idinga amasonto ambalwa.
Futhi ukukhonkwane ekamelweni isithombe esikhethwe othandekayo, lokhu kungathatha izinyanga zonke kuphela, kodwa amagugu. Kweminye imindeni, imidwebo enjalo iyadluliselwa kusuka esizukulwaneni kuya esizukulwaneni kwifomu ehlungwe noma ebhokisini.
Kodwa-ke akudingekile ukuthi usolume amadoda ngokuthi abe-egoists. Njengoba izazi zengqondo zisitshela, kunoma yisiphi isimo, amadoda anesibindi kanye nezizathu zokungazinaki ngokukhululekile futhi angenzi lokho abacelwa ukuba bakwenze.
Uma ethatha isipho ngezandla zakhe kusuka enhliziyweni
Njengomthetho, umshado kanye nokudalwa kwemindeni yiyona eyinhloko yocwaningo, ngoba lokho kuyingxenye yabo yenjabulo yangempela kanye nenjongo yamaphupho ngisho nasebuntwaneni. Amadoda ahlale eshadile ngokuvumelana nesidingo, ngokusekelwe emibonweni nasemasiko ajwayelekile.
Ungamangazi uma umnumzane wakho edonsa ngesiphakamiso, ngoba lokhu kuyisifiso sethu kuphela, ukubona indandatho eyigugu eminwe. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi umphakathi othuthukisiwe, amadoda amancane athambekele ekulibaleni futhi angashadi. Ukuphila sekuhlelwe kakade, kodwa akukho lutho lokukhuluma ngocansi. Ngakho ungabheke izindlela eziseduze zenhliziyo yomuntu, makabe esaba ukwesaba.
Okufanele ukwenze . Kufanele kwenziwe ukuze "kungenakwenzeka okunye"! Ukuze uthathe impande engqondweni, umcabango wokuthi okuthile okubalulekile nokuhle kuzovela empilweni yakhe. Lokhu akunakwenzeka esikhathini sethu, lokhu okubaluleke kunazo zonke kungaba nokuya ocansini. Ngakho-ke, udinga ukufinyelela ngakolunye uhlangothi. Khombisa inkululeko yakho, izintshisekelo ezinkulu kanye nesifiso sokuzimela. Shiya kaningi kaningi kunalokho akufunayo, kusho okungaphansi kwalokho akulindele. Amadoda akhathazekile futhi akwenza ucabange. Futhi nasi yisikhathi sokuqondisa imicabango yakhe ngendlela efanele. Ngitshele ngomshado, kodwa hhayi njengesibopho, kodwa njengokuzijabulisa. Bese ubalekela esihlokweni ngaphandle kokumvumela ukuba aqede. Lapha yena ngokwakhe kufanele aqonde ukuthi benzeni.
Uma edonsa umntwana
Amadoda afana nokudonsa iqiniso lokugcwaliswa komndeni, ngoba besaba. I-Psychoanalysts ikholelwa ukuthi ingane yengane ihlotshaniswa nobudala. Mhlawumbe futhi ngokoqobo bayabona inkulumo ethi "shift yethu". Yiqiniso, akuwona wonke umuntu ongakusho ngokuzwakalayo futhi ngokujwayelekile aqonde ukungathandi kwabo ukuba nengane. Ngakho-ke, izizathu zingase zihluke. Isifiso sangempela sokuba nengane enomuntu sibonakala emva kokuhamba kwesikhathi senkinga yobudala "emkhatsini wokuphila" - eminyakeni engaba ngu-35-40.
Okufanele ukwenze . Lindela, uma manje umlingani wakho engaphansi kuka-30, uma engaphansi - ungadonsi. Ngakho akukho okungcono kunokukhohliswa, abesifazane abakaze bafike nabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda avame ukujabula ngokuthi lokhu "kwenzeka." Ngemuva kwalokho, lokhu kunciphisa kakhulu i-peredrazmyshleniya yabo.
Uma edonsela ukulungiswa
Bonke abantu bathanda ukuthenga amathuluzi wokwakha. Bayiletha ekhaya bese bebukeka, bese "behamba ngezikhonkwane ezimbalwa" bese bebeka konke ekhoneni elikude. Thatha kuphela lapho uqala ukudabuka, kodwa hhayi uma kudingeka. Amadoda awunesithakazelo ekulungiseni okuncane.
Okufanele ukwenze . Hlanganisa ibhizinisi futhi ekuseni kakhulu, ngosuku ovuliwe, unikeze uhlu lwabo. Futhi-ke, phakathi nezinsuku ezimbalwa, mdumise ngakho. Vele ungamsoli, lokhu ngeke uzuze noma yini.
Uma edonsela emsebenzini
Akazami ukuthola imali ehloniphekile. Kungenzeka ukuthi uyumuntu onokwethenjelwa. Ukuze enze okuthile, udinga isikhathi esiningi sokucabanga nokukholwa ukuthi wenza into efanele. Nakuba isizathu singaba futhi siphike ngokuqondile - i-имлень.
Okufanele ukwenze . Kuzodingeka ngifunde i-psihopodiagnostics futhi ngithole izizathu zangempela zalokhu kuziphatha. Futhi ukwenza ngokuvumelana nesimo futhi ngokucophelela ngabanye. Angiqiniseki - qiniseka ukuthi konke kuzovela. Ivila - yisikhathi sokubeka ingcindezi kunembeza. Noma kunjalo, impumelelo yendoda ixhomeke kowesifazane oseduze naye.
Uma edonsela ndawonye
Lokhu sekuvele kutholakala. Uma umuntu ehlehlisa ushiye isikhathi esingaphezu kweminyaka emibili, khona-ke lolu daba lungenzeka kakhulu ekusebenziseni umsebenzi. Futhi lokhu kuyingozi - izazi ze-psychologists seziye zafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi amacala amakhulu aphinde adinga ukwelashwa, njengezinye izinhlobo zokuthembela.
Amadoda athambekele ekukhungeni kaningi kunabesifazane, futhi kwezinye izimo abakwazi ukwenza lutho ngaphandle komsebenzi. Ukuphumula kulokhu kufana nokuhlukunyezwa. Lo muntu uzizwa ephukile futhi ngazo zonke izindlela angena emsebenzini.
Okufanele ukwenze . Hlela ukukhululwa ngokuphoqelekile. Makungabi amasonto amabili, kodwa izinsuku ezimbalwa. Udartena ukuthi akafuni nje ukuhamba yedwa. Ngendlela, labo abathembele kulula ukwenza konke okunye, uma lokhu kusebenza. Siza abangani bakho bakhethe i-dacha, hamba ukuhlangana kwezemidlalo, njll. Akufani nokuphumula, kodwa kuzoletha izinzuzo ezibonakalayo.
Uma edonsa ngenkulumo
Uma isihloko sengxoxo asijabulisi, futhi umsolwa okhulumelayo uyisifazana, khona-ke amadoda afisa ukuhlehlisa ingxoxo isikhathi eside. Eqinisweni, kungenzeka ukuthi akunakwenzeka nhlobo. Izimo ezinjalo zilinganiswa yindoda enzima kakhulu. Ukuhlambalaza abesifazane nokuhlambalaza abanakho ukwamukelwa.
Okufanele ukwenze . Akukho lutho. Asikho isidingo sokuthi uhlale ubhekene nemibuzo yakho - kungcono kulesi nebudet. Uvele nje aqale ukudida futhi ashiye isihloko ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi ekugcineni ube ngowesifazane, ingxoxo engakujabuli ngayo. Nakuba kunzima ukuthula, kodwa umphumela uyakufanele: uzohlale uhlangothini lwakho. Futhi bheka futhi vsezreshestitsya uqobo! Khumbula, bonke abesifazane njengabantwana, kungani ungazisebenzisi lokhu!