Kube sekuyisikhathi eside ukuthi inhloso eyinhloko yabesifazane ukubeletha abantwana futhi bahlanganyele ekukhuliseni kwabo, kuyilapho indoda isebenza futhi inikeza umndeni wonke. Kwaphela isikhathi eside kakhulu, imibhangqwana eminingi yakha, ihambisana nesimiso esinjalo. Kodwa! Njengoba wazi, konke okukhona ekuphileni kuyashintsha - lesi simo sishintshile.
Omama abaningi banamuhla baphoqeleka ukuba baye emsebenzini ngokushesha ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane. Wonke umuntu unesisusa sakhe, yiqiniso. Omunye ujoyina okuthunyelwe noma akanakwenqaba inqununu, abanye banesithakazelo ekuhlanganyeleni kwezindaba, okwesithathu kubalulekile isimo. Kunoma yikuphi, ukuphuma kokuqala emsebenzini kungabangela ukuthuthukiswa kobunzima "bomama".
Ngeke sizikhohlise thina noma abanye. Ukuhlanganisa umndeni kanye nomsebenzi ophumelelayo kunzima kakhulu, ngaphezu kwalokho, akuwona wonke umama okwazi ukukwenza. Cabanga ngamakhono akho nesimo sengqondo sokusebenza. Uzokwazi yini ukushiya isimiso esilandiwe, uthathe umsebenzi wesikhathi esithile ekhaya? Uma kungenjalo, ube nokubekezela kwezingelosi futhi ufunde iseluleko sethu. Amaqhinga akhethiwe kahle azosiza ukugwema izinkinga eziningana.
Shintsha indlela yokucabanga
Uma uvakashelwe umcabango wokuthi awukwazi ukubhekana ngokugcwele nemisebenzi yakho yomama, ukuthi unikeza ingane yakho isikhathi esincane kakhulu, awukwazi lutho ngalutho ngaye futhi uhlushwa ukuzisola ... Yeka! Ngomntwana wakho, uhlale ukhona futhi uzoba umuntu osondelene kakhulu, othandekayo futhi othandekayo ohlala ekulindela, okudingayo njalo. Ekugcineni, ngisho nangesikhathi semihlangano emifushane engavamile kungenzeka ukwazi ukuxhumana ngokuseduze kwengane, okuzoba yisisekelo esiqinile sokuthembela phakathi kwakho.
Khumbula, isimo sakho sempilo nesimo sengqondo sidluliselwa emntwaneni. Ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, awunizi kahle wena kuphela, kodwa futhi kuye, okungabangela ukugxekwa, imizwa, izinkinga zokudla nokulala. Ungaholeli kulokhu. Kukhona okulula kakhulu, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, umkhuba osebenzayo ongokwengqondo oyoba ngowokuthi "lifebuoy". Phinda le nkulumo: "Nginguye umama omuhle kunazo zonke nomntanami" kuze kube yilapho ehlala engqondweni yakho engqondweni, indlela yokucabanga, izenzo nezindlela zokuzicabangela ezimweni ezithile zokuphila.
Ungayeki ukubeletha
Ukuncelisa ukubeletha kungukukhulumisana okudlula phakathi komama nengane. Yini esingayisho ngezinzuzo zezempilo nokuzivikela kwengane. Ubisi lwebele alukwazi ukushintshwa ngokugcwele nanoma iyiphi enye ingxube yesimanje kakhulu futhi ebiza kakhulu yokufakelwa. Kuyoba mnandi uma uvikela ukulondla.
Amamama amaningi akholelwa ukuthi awakwazi ukuhlanganiswa nokuphila okusebenzayo. Kukhona ukuyekethisa! Ubisi lomama banezakhiwo eziyingqayizivele, ngakho-ke lungagcinwa amahora angaba ngu-8 ekamelweni lokushisa, izinsuku ezintathu esiqandisini nezinyanga ezintathu efrijini. Ngokwenza kanjalo, izogcina izici zayo zekhwalithi. Akumangazi yini? Uma le nketho ingahambisani nawe, kunesixazululo esisodwa. Kwamanye amadolobha, kuye kwavela izinsizakalo zokuthutha ezikhethekile, okusheshayo ukuphendula ngesidingo sakho sokuletha ubisi endaweni ofunayo. Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi le nsizakalo ithola ukunakwa okwengeziwe kumama omabhizinisi.
Ungabheke ababenecala
Abanye omama abancane, okuzosebenza kubo baba yisidingo esiyimpoqo, bazama ukusola umyeni wakhe ngakho konke. Phela, umqondo wukuthi kufanele asebenze, aphephe futhi asekele ngokugcwele umndeni, futhi nawe, ube nekhono eligcwele lokuziphatha ukuhlala ngekhefu ukuze unakekele ingane. Mhlawumbe konke kuyiqiniso, kodwa kuphela uma isimo esinjalo empilweni yakho sesivele sikhona, akulula yini ukumukela nje? Kungani ubheka onecala, uqoqe intukuthelo, ukudumazeka, uhlele ngalesi sisekelo ukuhlukumeza nokubhubhisa uqobo ubuhlobo? Izingane kufanele zikhule esimweni sothando, ukuqonda okufanayo kanye nenduduzo yengqondo.
Bonisa isithakazelo esengeziwe ekuphileni komntwana
Ukushiya ingane noyihlo, ugogo noma unina, lapho ubuyela ekhaya, ubabuze mayelana nezinguquko ezincane kakhulu ezenzeke emntwaneni ngosuku oludlule, kusukela ekubomvu kuya embongeni futhi ekupheleni kokudla, ukulala nokuya endlini yangasese. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba uzwe kabanzi ngokukhula nokuthuthukiswa kwengane, ngakho-ke ungakhathazeki kancane. Futhi ake abantu abadala bevela emvelweni wengane bamtshele ukuthi unomama omuhle onakho.
Isikhathi samahhala sishiya umndeni
Yenza yonke imizamo yokusebenza, ungakwazi nje ukunikeza isikhathi. Isikhathi samahhala somyeni wakho nezingane zakho. Sebenzisa nabo ekuseni nakusihlwa, ngezimpelasonto futhi qiniseka ukushiya. Yakha izinhlelo ezihlangene. Thembisa ingane kuphela ukuthi yini ongayifeza ngempela, kungenjalo uzolahlekelwa ithemba lakhe bese udiliza intambo enhle kakhulu yokuqonda okufanayo.
Ungakhuthazi ukuvumela imvume
Iphutha elivame kakhulu lomama webhizinisi ukumcindezela "icala" ngokuvumela. Umama, ukuzwa ngaphambi kokuba unecala, emihlanganweni engavamile naye uyesaba ukuphikisa izifiso zakhe futhi akamvumeli lutho. Ingane iqaphela ngokushesha iphuzu elibuthakathaka futhi liyisebenzise ukuze lizuze, ngezinye izikhathi lisuke libheke ngisho nasezingxoxweni. Isu lakho lemfundo akufanele lihluke esweni lokufundisa labo ingane abasebenzisa isikhathi esiningi.
Izipho ezingaphansi - amagama anomusa
Okubaluleke nakakhulu ukuthi ingane idlala nomama, kunokuba kutholakale ezinye izinto ezibonakalayo. Omama abaningi bamabhizinisi "bakhokhela" kubantwana babo. Ungenzi iphutha elinjalo! Akudingekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ithuba lokubhubhisa izitolo zezitokisi zezingane, esikhundleni sokuhamba, njengoba kuhlelwe, ukunikeza esinye isethulo nokusheshisa ukusebenza. Konke lokhu kubhekene nokungahle kakhulu, kuqala kokubili, imiphumela. Lapho ingane ikhula, uzobona kuwe kuphela umthombo wokwaneliseka ngezinto ezithandayo. Zama ukuxhumana nomntwana hhayi ngosizo lwezipho, kodwa ngosizo lwamagama anomusa nezenzo.
Ukwenza ukukhetha phakathi komsebenzi nomntwana, ungazenzeli isiphambano. Akekho oyobonga izisulu ezinjalo. Ingane idinga umama ojabulayo, hhayi ukuhlukunyezwa, ukwesaba nokungaqiniseki. Uma umsebenzi ujabulela wena, futhi umndeni unomusa omuhle, khona-ke ingane izojabula futhi.
Umbono wesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo
Njengoba sesenele emkhakheni owodwa wokuphila, kungaba ibhizinisi noma imisebenzi yasendlini, owesifazane akakwazi ukuzizwa ejabule futhi ehambelana ngempela. Ngamunye wethu udlala indima eminingana (umama, umfazi, umngane, osebenza naye, umqashi ...), futhi bonke kufanele babe khona ngokulinganayo empilweni yethu. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, ngeke sikwazi ukuthuthukisa futhi sikhule ngokomoya. Ngokuqondene nomsebenzi othize, funda ukuthi ungayilungisa kanjani kahle, ungesabi ukudlulisela igunya, futhi ngokuhlakanipha ubeke isikhathi. Uma ubonise ukuthi usuku lwakho lomsebenzi luphela ngo-18: 00, ngalesi sikhathi udinga ukushiya ihhovisi bese uya ezinganeni ezibheke phambili ekubuyiseni kwakho. Konke lokhu akulula, kodwa kuyaphumelela kakhulu. Kufanele uqaphele injongo nenhloso yezenzo zakho, khona-ke uzokwazi ukuthola umphumela oyifunayo.