Namuhla, umphakathi ufuna ukuba uhlale uthembekile, uthembekile, uthembekile. Kwaphela amakhulu eminyaka, abesifazane balwela isimo somlingani olingana nendoda. Futhi emizamweni yabo baye bazuza okuningi. Owesimanje wesifazane ongekho muntu ongeyena ophansi: unikwe amalungelo afanayo, unamathuba afanayo nemiphumela yomsebenzi wakhe, ubonisa ukuthi awunamathele kancane. Kwamanye amazwe - abameli bemfundiso yamaSulumane - Yebo, kunamasiko asendulo, lapho owesifazane ehlala khona engumuntu wesibili futhi ubizwa ukuba akhiphe inzuzo efanele kumuntu. Kodwa-ke, ukuxazulula izimfihlakalo zendlela eyimfihlakalo yaseMpumalanga kwakungenakwenzeka amakhulu eminyaka, ngakho-ke akukwazi ukusho ukuthi abesifazane basimanje base-Asia abazange baqede izimbangi zabo ngezindlela eziningi.
Kodwa ngokunembile ungakhuluma ngendlela abesifazane abaye bashintsha ngayo emphakathini, kuma-Islam, okukhulunywa ngawo kuphela. Isithombe sabo sashintsha kakhulu: sigcwele isicwebezelisi esinefashini, sigcwele ukuziqhenya ngalokho okuye kwafezwa futhi kuqiniswa imithombo engapheli yokuphefumulelwa. Kanye nalo wesifazane, umphakathi wonke uguqukile futhi. Ngenxa yalokho, umhlaba waqala ukukhuluma ngenkathi entsha, enye into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni umuntu, inkathi yokulingana. Ngakho-ke kufanele yini owesifazane wangempela wanamuhla futhi ongokoqobo emhlabeni onjalo?
Owesimanje wesimanje akasatholi nesithombe se-heroine, ethintana futhi obuthakathaka.
Akukhona ukuthi lokhu kuyinguquko enhle. Akunjalo ngempela ukuthi bazokwenza lula inkathokazi. Kodwa iqiniso lihlala: emphakathini wanamuhla, owesifazane akakwazi ukuzinikela ngokugcwele emandleni omuntu othembekile. Kumele abe nokuzethemba. Lokhu kungenxa yakhe - isidingo sengqondo. Futhi ngokungafani nendoda, ngokuzenzakalelayo, ikholelwa emakhono akhe, owesifazane ngeke akwazi ukufakazela ukuthi kufanelekile ngaphandle kokuthola imiphumela efunayo. Yebo, futhi indoda yesimanje manje isifisa kakhulu owesifazane ongekho esimweni sokumsekela ngenkulumo engathà sina noma ukuxoxa ngomunye wemisebenzi yakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, indima yodonsa ongathinteki othintekayo wesifazane wesimanje manje uyinhloko ayikwazi ukuhlala.
Kodwa-ke, iqiniso lokuthi umbuzo wukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo owesifazane wesimanje okufanele abe nazo, ngokujwayelekile avuke, usevele ukhuluma ngokuguqulwa komuntu wesigamu sowesifazane. Ingabe kwakudingekile ukuthi abandulele abade phambili bezingubo zesimanje baqaphele ukuthola impendulo yombuzo, kufanele babe yiziphi? Yebo, cha: bafundiswa imithetho yokuziphatha emphakathini kusukela esemncane, ukutshala ukubusa komuntu kanye nobuholi babo obungenakunyakaziswa. Futhi ngaphambi kowesifazane wesimanje zonke izindlela zivulekile - ezombusazwe, emthethweni wezomthetho, ezweni lomsebenzi wokudala. Futhi akukho ndawo lapho kukhona khona imikhawulo noma imithetho: kungaba njengokuthi izofeza imiphumela engcono kakhulu ngokwayo. Isiphetho: owesifazane wesimanje kufanele akwazi ukuhlaziya amathemba futhi enze izinqumo ezinkulu futhi ezinomthwalo wemfanelo. Futhi kufanele kube yizixazululo ngokwabo, ngokwazo nakwabo.
Owesimanje wesimanje kumele ahlale engowesifazane.
Abesifazane baba osomabhizinisi abaphumelelayo, bafeze imiphumela engafanele emaphoyiseni aphezulu, ngisho nakwabesifazane bezemidlalo cishe ngendlela engaphansi kwamadoda. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lokhu kuyisinyathelo esikhulu sokuhamba phambili: njengomuntu, owesifazane onemfanelo futhi ohloniphekile, ekugcineni amadoda aqaphela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lokhu kuyingozi engenzeka kunoma yisiphi isenzo lapho imiphetho isula khona. Futhi lapha zonke izithiyo zihlakazeka zibe yizinhlanzi futhi akukho cishe umahluko ocacile phakathi komkhakha womsebenzi wesifazane nendoda.
Eqinisweni, konke okuncane lokho owesifazane osindise yena kuphela (noma kunalokho, kungokwemvelo okwenzele yona) kunqunyelwe ekutheni akwazi ukuzala abantwana kanye nekhono lokushintsha ukuguqulwa. Futhi-ke, okugcina neminyaka, futhi, abesifazane balahlekile. Kodwa lona wesifazane - esidlule, ikusasa, wangempela - kumele ahlale engowesifazane. With izimfanelo zakhe ezibonakalayo of seductress weqiniso, umlingisi wezakhono, umama okhathalelayo nomfazi othembekile. Uma kungenjalo, ngaphandle kwezimfanelo ezihlukile zowesifazane, kuphela umama ozohlala. Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kulahlekelwa ngobuningi bemisebenzi yamadoda futhi. Futhi umphakathi uzobe usuzobhujiswa. Ngakho-ke, phakathi kwezimfanelo owesifazane wesimanje okufanele abe nazo, owesifazane ongenakulinganiswa naye uyadingeka. Ngoba ngaphandle kwalo, uthando lomshado luyobhubha.
Izimiso zabesifazane banamuhla.
Yingakho abesifazane behle futhi bemangalisa ukuthi bavumelane nabo ngomfanekiso womeluleki ohlakaniphile nenkosikazi engenangqondo, umngane onokwethenjelwa nomphathi osenqenqemeni, umculi othakazelisayo nomgcini wendawo. Indlela abakwazi ngayo ukuyiqonda lokhu iminyaka eminingi, amadoda. Owesifazane webhizinisi angabheka kanjani ngokucacile futhi ekhonjiswe ekubonisweni kwephrojekthi yakhe futhi ahlale engaqondakali futhi engalindeleki - ebuhlotsheni nomyeni wakhe? Umama wendlu uyakwazi kanjani ukwenza yonke imisebenzi futhi ahlobise indlu yomngane ngendwangu enkulu ngehlobiso lakhe elihlotshisiwe? Umfundi ulawula kanjani ukuya kuma-nightclub, futhi ufunde "ngokuphelele", futhi uxhumane nabalandeli ngezibili?
Ngokungangabazeki, owesifazane phakathi neminyaka yakhe yentuthuko yakhe uye wazuza imiphumela emangalisayo. Kodwa lokhu akuwona umkhawulo. Futhi ngaphezu kwalokho-akukho sizathu sokuyeka. Owesifazane weqiniso uhlale efuna isithombe esingasenakutholakala, esivamile, esihle. Kodwa kunezibonakaliso eziningana ezizosiza wonke owesifazane ukuba azi ukuthi angazicabanga yini kuye, noma usenokuningi okumelwe asebenze. Kukhona okungu-5 kubo.
1. Owesifazane wangempela wesimanje akafihli amathalenta akhe, kepha akaziqhayisanga nabo. Ngokulinganayo, uyakwazisa kokubili impumelelo nokuhluleka. Kodwa kuzo zonke izimo ukhumbula ukuthi zombili izici zokuphumelela zikhohlisayo futhi azihambisani nazo.
2. Owesifazane wangempela wamanje kufanele akwazi ukuhlonipha abanye. Kodwa yibo kuphela labo abafanelwe ukuhlonishwa kwakhe. Akayithokozi nje inkampani yenkampani, kodwa inkampani yamadoda isamzisa njalo.
3. Owesifazane wangokwesimanje kufanele abe namakhono okuhlaziya nokubhala. Ukuba inkanyezi yobukhulu bokuqala, akesabi ekugcineni azungeze nabalingani bakhe (izintombi, ozakwabo, abajwayele) of value elilinganayo. Ngaphandle kwalokho, impilo yakhe ayiyona injabulo.
4. Owesifazane wanamuhla unhle futhi wangaphandle, futhi ngaphakathi. Akahlukumezi futhi uyakwazi ukufunda yonke imizuzu. Ukungavikeleki noma ukuzithiba ngokweqile akukhona kuye. Abawamukeli futhi abakhuthazi kwabanye.
5. Futhi-ke, owesifazane wangempela wanamuhla uhlakaniphile, unethalente, onentshisekelo. Njengabadluli bayo. Nguye kuphela owazi lokhu futhi, ngokungafani nezizukulwane zangaphambilini, ngeke afihle isithunzi sakhe kuzilaleli.